How to Pick Up Women

Question From A Reader

And nowwww, our next letter:

Hey Michael,

It’s Peter, I completed your Bootcamp a couple of months back, and I just wanted to say that you’ve changed my entire life around with women.

A year ago, I was lonely, depressed, and wondering if I would ever meet a girl that I actually liked and who reciprocated.

Well, you destroyed my old wuss needy frames that got me into those states, -those states were part of the whole problem, and you really opened my eyes to how the dating reality works with women, from making that first opening of the conversation to getting physical, and dealing with the (now) predictable tests.

I thank you for that.

Not only do I not think in those ways that lead to the negative “abyss” as you described it, but by also obliterating that inner wuss, I learned to dominate my interactions with women and I can’t believe how women love this!!! I have three women that I’m dating who are all fighting for the chance to be with me on Valentine’s Day, which is a bit of a problem, but the kind of problem that I’m HAPPY to have!!!!

I just have one question for you: I try to stay on top of my game by always learning more, and I read from some guy that says it’s important to feed the conversation to keep it going. This doesn’t seem to ring true from my experience, as I don’t try to feed anything at all, you taught me to just go with the flow and to realize that the conversation is yours before you even start.

What’s your take on “keeping the conversation going”?

***MY REPLY***

Very often in this field, my stuff gets taken by certain other supposed “experts” who then bastardize it with their ignorance.

This is one of those examples.

The REALITY, as you have EXPERIENCED in my Bootcamp and certainly now in your own life, is that ATTRACTION is NOT about “keeping the conversation going” or “persuading her to keep it going”, or persuading her to do ANYTHING.

You DO have to have a deep UNDERSTANDING of emotion, attraction, rapport, and building a connection, but it’s definitely not about “trying to keep the conversation going”. That is like a car that is already out of gas and trying to keep it going by pressing on the pedal.

There has to be ELECTRICITY in your aura from the GET GO, even as you are still laid back and chilled out. Without this, all the “how to keep a conversation going” tactics that you can ever have in the world are still like a guy pressing on the pedal and changing the gears but having no fuel in the tank.

Rather, success is more about STEERING the conversational VIBES to where YOU want them to go – so the crucial thing to know is HOW TO CREATE THE VIBES in the FIRST place. These vibes are the FUEL.

And creating these vibes is about not only creating a combination of emotional states internally in yourself, but also calibrating the woman in front of you, and then taking the vibes that she is bouncing back to you, and steering THEM in the right direction, all the while progressing the interaction.

This all sounds very clinical, but as you learn this stuff and practice it, it will feel FARRRRRRRR more natural than any “method” or “technique” for how to keep the conversation going.

Developing these states and vibes, and calibrating and steering the vibes that a woman “ping-pongs” back to you is a crucial part of what I teach and focus on.

If a guy is in “keeping it going” mentality, he is already out, because he is stuck on the OUTCOME rather than being in the MOMENT, which is soooooo key.

All that “hey, here’s some magical tactics to keep the conversation going” is just covering up the real problem.

The reality is that 99%PRCTG% of the time, when you START an interaction with a woman, it either HITS or it DOESN’T.

Even if she decides to TEST you and give you a hard time, you can actually WITHIN seconds usually tell if she is interested or not, merely because if a woman keeps on RESPONDING, it’s still usuallly INTEREST,even if she responds with a TEASE.

If a woman is really not interested at all, she tends to SHUT down all her modes of communication to you. She won’t look at you, talk to you, etc.

So again, if you have your game together, it usually happens rather quickly.

Otherwise, nothing happens at all.

She either FEELS attraction, because you the guy did it RIGHT, or she DOESN’T, because the guy did it wrong, or possibly because the logistics were ridiculous, i.e. she can’t hear him, or there is too much interference from human traffic, or she is seriously in a rush, etc.

The point though is that it’s IMMEDIATE. She can’t help it. If she feels it, she can’t help but feel it IMMEDIATELY.

And if the guy started the interaction WRONG, then she WON’T feel anything for him. And it’s usually too late to turn the ship around at that point. Especially for a beginner, he would be way better off to just start anew with a different woman.

It’s really sad how so many people don’t know what the they are talking about when they give guys advice. They end up confusing guys and putting them further BACK RATHER THAN AHEAD.

While we’re on that topic, let me clear up MORE stuff that the “experts” never seem to get to:

“LOGISTICS” are wayyyyy more important than most people realize.

One of the reasons it’s easier to meet women at clubs is because the women are NOT about to jump off anywhere, and because they are IN FACT THERE to get picked up, whether they say it or not. Not all the women, but many women are there SOLELY to get picked up, or at least PARTIALLY to get picked up.

The trick is to find the rare women who are out at the clubs but are not drunk party animals, as in general the more outgoing party types are the ones who are more likely to BE there rather than to do something more refined.

(The truth is, it’s not easy for women to meet the right guys, even women who are very attractive have this issue, so they try everything, including clubs once in a while. But every week, there are different women of quality who have decided to try clubs that week.)

So, you have a lot of women who are THERE to get picked up, who have the TIME to get picked up, and there is a place to sit, chat, relax, etc.

I mean, really, the logistics are great. Not all clubs have great logistics, but many, many, do.

Now, IF the logistics are not messed up, and she’s not in a happy relationship already, then your pick-up will WORK if you know what you are doing.

You will see her OPEN UP almost IMMEDIATELY to your pick-up. She will be smiling, attentive, and after just a little bit of your chat, she will CONTRIBUTE, SHE WILL HELP YOU ALONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you need to PERSUADE HER, if you need to FEED HER LOTS OF CONVERSATION, it’s a sign that either the LOGISTICS are screwed or the guy’s GAME is screwed.

More “ways to continue the conversation” won’t help.

The EARLY part of your interaction is the ENGINE for the rest. Without a great solid early interaction, where you smoothly open, pass through any shit tests, etc, NO AMOUNT OF “how to continue the conversation” will help at ALL.

The whole beginning of the interaction happens QUICKLY when done right. Usually you should be getting to rapport rather soon – and rapport is something SHE should be CONTRIBUTING to a lot as well, so it’s not like you need to feed her lots of rapport stuff, but rather it should be a give and take- like ping pong),

She will help you along at that point. So it’s not about “feeding the conversation” AT ALL. It’s about how you come across IMMEDIATELY and then keeping that vibe up.

Like I said, when you’ve been doing this stuff for as long as I have, for real, testing it on all kinds of women, in all kinds of venues, in all sorts of times, in all sorts of logistics from freezing winters and meeting women on the sidewalk that way to subway trains to malls to clubs to groups of girls to girls alone to party girl to academic girls, it’s sooo obvious to me when an “expert” doesn’t know what he is talking about.

Again, 99 percent of the time, if the interaction goes well in the beginning, it will continue to go well, because SHE WILL THEN BE SEEKING RAPPORT with YOU. In FACT, If YOU have to still be feeding the conversation and keeping it going, you are CLEARLY coming across as trying too hard and that will only drive her farther away.

Oh yes, and for total accuracy, I’ll even add HOW it will drive her away and what type of comment she will say.

ESPECIALLY IF SHE IS REALLY “HOT”. It will end up with the girl rather quickly saying nicely with a smile “seeeeeeeeeeeee ya!”. As I told you, women who are beautiful TEND TO NOT BE MEAN. So they will say “seeeeee ya” with a smile.

Here’s another thing that the “McDonalds” one-size fits all bogus philosophy of attraction never mentions:

For example, although the ORDER of the interaction never changes too much, i.e. attract, building rapport, etc, is the same pretty much in all situations, the fact is meeting a girl who is particularly physically attractive means she probably has had to develop a tougher and more instantaneous SCREENING process to get rid of guys.

So you have to be able to deal with that, QUICKLY.

And again, LOGISTICS are also an issue. For example, meeting a woman who you just saw get on the train, who is GORGEOUS, but on the other side of the train, and then you get there, and she gets off, and you have a second to catch her before she leaves into her place of work, the fact is her MIND is ENGAGED on where she is going, and the mere fact you had to physically rush to get there works AGAINST you, it makes you look needy, and most importantly, her state of mind is pretty blocked at the moment to pick up because of work.

And the FACT is, many times in life you will actually spot women who are gorgeous during the DAYTIME, but the logistics are sometimes very tough.

Another thing: Women who are attractive who are out at daytime venues may be more likely to AUTHENTICALLY not be single compared to women who are out at dance CLUBS! After all, clubs tend to attract SINGLES.

If a chick tells you she’s got a boyfriend but is out there shaking her *** at the club, that can be a total joke. But if she is on her way home from university and tells you this, it may very well be true.

Another issue that needs to be discussed is the TRUTH on WHERE to find women who are beautiful who are NOT party girls. You can be the most cool person in the world, but if you don’t know where to find the women that you are interested in, you’re not going to get results.

So you have to EXPERIMENT, you have to EXPERIMENT with locations, and not only locations, but also TIME OF DAY at those locations. You will have to try those locations morning, night, afternoon, and in between.

YES, THIS TAKES SOME EFFORT, but the question is, do you WANT success or not?

Also, SHIT TESTS, this is really one of the biggest things that guys need to truly master with women.

One of the other reasons why women SAY things like “I want a guy who is good looking, tall, blah blah” is because if nothing ELSE, then they want this.

But the thing is, even if you HAD “EVERYTHING” that they ask for, I SWEAR TO YOU that women would STILL shit test you, they would FIND THINGS to say that were not good enough about you, simply to make you feel that they are hard to get, or sometimes it’s simply because THEY are insecure and need to try to make you feel like you are not that great.

IN ANY CASE, the way to WIN at all of this stuff is to NEVER TAKE ANY OF IT SERIOUSLY.

What matters is the girl you END UP GETTING, not the MASKS she shows you at the BEGINNING.

And just about EVERY GIRL will give you SOME KIND of shit test in the beginning, whether it’s for good reasons or for reasons of her own insecurity.

And it doesn’t matter, because it all gets VAPORIZED once you PASS THROUGH these shit tests.

I’m not a huge fan of online dating, but I don’t EVEN LOOK at what the chick’s requirements are, because most of the time it’s MEANINGLESS.

But if you TAKE HER “REQUIREMENTS” SERIOUSLY, you will always lose, because if you try to satisfy those requirements, you will only be showing her that you are inferior, you will also ruin your own inner game, and also most likely you will get pissed off and start an ARGUMENT rather than simply KEEP UP THE VIBES THAT LEAD TO SEXUAL ATTRACTION.

A girl LIKES the fact that she says she wants A B and C, but you come along and DON’T GIVE A DAMN about it.

It says you are a MAN and that you KNOW your value is GREATER than any of those things.

The mere fact you DEFY her requirements is more attractive than if you DID have the “requirements” and tried to IMPRESS her with them!!!! The trying to impress her with them is nothing but insecurity, and THAT is an attraction destroyer.

Now, if you want to learn the COMPLETE picture on how to get results with women, then there’s nothing like learning from someone who knows this stuff and has the experience.

You can now do exactly that by getting my revolutionary SEDUCTION MASTERY APPRENTICESHIP PROGRAM. This program took three painstaking years to complete, and is LIGHT YEARS ahead of the conventional dating advice you read out there.

It’s the most powerful, comprehensive and portable resource on the planet for getting good with women. It’s stood the test of TIME, and will continue to serve you well for the rest of your life.

Get it NOW at:

Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program.

BEYOND that, to take yourself to the NEXT level, the most powerful method is learning in PERSON as I take you under my wing in real life pick-ups.

I’ll first monitor your game thoroughly so I can find out exactly what it is that YOU need. I will CUSTOMIZE your coaching so that it’s most efficient for you.

I’ll EFFECTIVELY teach you everything you need to learn, so that you GET the skills.

I’ll find out exactly what your specific sticking points are and obliterate them. I’ll assess your body language and tonality and FIX it. I’ll feel out your inner game and find out what toxic stuff is going on emotionally and in regards to your beliefs and I will you get rid of it.

I’ll give you the best insights on women and then show you how it applies in the field as we pick up women together.

I’ll teach you the structure of humor, and more importantly, I will get your humor and confidence reflexes up to par, and I’ll develop and HONE your skills in reframing anything she says so that no matter what tests she throws your way, it only ends up making you even BETTER.

You will learn from OBSERVING ME, and you will learn from BEING COACHED as you WING with me.

When you finish this program, you will BE good with women, not just WANT to be good.

And if you haven’t yet got my eBook, then do that first, it’s one hell of a powerful book that will change the way you interact with women forever and is a great place to start.

The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women

Till next time,

Michael

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Inner Game and Outer Game

Here’s a recent letter that shows both inner game and outer game:

***SUCCCESS STORY***

Let me share with you my experiences of this weekend.

For “social proof” I’ve been going out the past weeks with 3 girls, which are good friends of mine. You have no idea (well, I am sure you do, but anyway) what an impact this has on the rest of the people in the club. I recommend going out with female friends to all guys out there!!

So on Friday, we go out to our favourite club and half an hour after we entered, a group of three girls comes in. They go to the bar and one of them (the cutest and her name was Jacqueline) is standing right next to me. She takes the cigarette of her friend who is ordering drinks and lights her cigarette with it.

I had studied quite hard your materials for the past weeks, so immediately when I saw that, I touched her arm and said “Don’t you have enough money to buy a decent lighter?” Jackpot! I busted her balls some more, till 2 minutes later her friends took her to the bathroom and she said “I will be right back”.

Of course I was not going to wait for her like a dog, so I started to walk around in the club and quite quickly I was talking to another girl (Samantha) I had met the week before. After some time, I saw that the other girls (incl Jacqueline) were back from the bathroom and instead of going back to their original spot, they were standing very close to me.

I said goodbye to Samantha and went back to my friends, while completely ignoring Claudia (on purpose of course). Paradoxically, not one minute later she is standing right behind me making some pretty hot dance moves. Of course this type of good behaviour had to be rewarded and after some dancing with her, we talked for some time and bottom line is that next week Tuesday we’ll meet again!!! How being the man and, at the right time, playing hard to get, can have a serious impact!

So on to Saturday! Again with my three girlfriends and now also two other friends. Thanks to your eBook, I have become quite “picky” in terms of women (I now know what I want) so the first two hours there wasn’t that much action going on, at least not in terms of approaching women. I just had a lot of fun with my friends.

But then, one of the most beautiful of women I have ever seen enters the club. When I saw her, to be honest, my old habits wanted to enter my head again: “man, she is too hot for my league”. But then one of my female friends said that I just had to go for it. And thinking about your stuff again, I indeed just did. She was wearing some nice high heel shoes, and it had a special design so you could see her big toe. So I went to her and said “There were sales the whole month of January, and you didn’t buy any new shoes? Look at those holes in your shoes. I can see your big toes!” Again Jackpot!

On top of her beauty, she happened to be German, so apart from my English, I could practice my German too. We had a very nice conversation, till after about ten minutes I decided to go back to my friends. I asked her if I could have her phone number so we could go have a drink next week.

Here, I made a mistake, because I asked it without a good reason to meet again and I asked it not subtle enough. So, not surprisingly she said “no”. I looked at her, smiled, said “It was nice meeting you” and left, while leaving her a little shocked. A couple of minutes later though, I went back to her and said “Young lady, normally I don’t do this, but I’ll give you one more chance. Next week Sunday, we are going to an art exhibition (she liked modern art) and I don’t take no for an answer.” She looked at me, smiled and said “yes”. I asked her again for her number, but she still said “No, you give me yours”.

I replied that I also do not give my number to ladies that I just met (to which she laughed again) and instead we exchanged email addresses. Lastly I said that I appreciated that she did not give her number to guys that fast, because that was the type of girl I was looking for. A little lame maybe, but on the other hand I think it also showed her that I have standards.

Anyway, I am 110%PRCTG% sure that I would have never ever been able to approach her, let alone talk to her AND passing her s**t tests without having read your eBook and listened to your CD’s. Your stuff is sooooooo pure gold!!!

I just have one question after those experiences: How did you handle in the beginning the adrenaline and feeling of power after succesfully talking to the cutest of girls? I mean, I have a very busy life during the week (and weekend) which has mostly nothing to do with meeting women, but because of the successes of the past weekend, I hardly can’t wait to go out again!

How did you temper yourself to keep on focusing and developing yourself to become fully the man, while at the same time enjoying the memories you had of your recent successes?

Thanks again for your support!!!!

Bill C.

***MY REPLY***

AWESOME STUFF!!! Keep it up, man, as your learning curve will keep getting better and faster as you keep up the momentum. By applying what you are learning non-stop, you are actually learning OTHER things as well, and building up powerful things internally on levels you don’t even realize, they are happening.

From reading your letter, I can see that you are going through some of the last of the early phases, where your success is partly based on outer stuff still, but that’s okay, because I can also see that you are transitioning to a place where your success will eventually come from within. This is part of the process for many guys.

The external stuff you are doing such as the social proof, and the “teasing” are all great, but what is happening reallllly is that these things are also changing the way you feel internally and getting you used to a different reality. So much so that with time, you will be able to say almost anything and do anything (because your vibe exudes dominance, upbeat feelings, playfulness, sexuality, class, etc.) and get even BETTER results.

Some guys think this means that there is nothing to learn – but on the contrary, to get to the point where you can do anything and it’s internalized is THE RESULT of learning so much. And practicing.

So good stuff and keep it UP.

One thing I want to mention is that as soon as you saw the chick who was really hot, and you for a SECOND thought she was out of your league, you kind of “lost” a lot of power. The internal wirings were already getting loose as soon as you THOUGHT that. Now I know it’s just a matter of practice before this goes away, but I wanted to remind you of how important it is to not even think that way.

However, you did a valiant effort at “damage control” and also you hit a good rapport point because of the commonality of the art stuff.

The thing is, you want to really have a better flowing convo to begin with so that more topics would arise that you could naturally use for rapport instead of having to think about it and then come back.

But it’s pretty cool to see that even with the coming back, it still had value because you did it with DOMINANCE.

You were NOT seeking her approval. But, there was still a bit of the trophy stuff going on here, and as that goes away, you will totally be “THE MAN”.

Just one other thing though to remind you: Try to AVOID any comments to a girl of “this is your last chance” as it almost always comes across as DESPERATE.

Because, why would you care so much to give her a last chance?

There are exceptions to this rule, i.e. once you already are both in a relationship, and you really mean it as her last chance, because then it’s clear that you both have something invested in it, but in a pick-up situation, it’s best to avoid this “last chance” stuff.

And even in a relationship, this should be a last resort, not something you do every day.

In a pick up situation, saying “this is your last chance” comes across more as it meaning it’s YOUR last chance, rather than meaning it’s her last chance, but at least you did it with the right body language so it helped. In other words, you sounded like you meant it.

To answer your other question, the truth is that in the beginning, YES, this adrenaline rush DID keep me up all night and then the next day kind of thing, it was INSANE.

It’s realllly crazy when you suddenly realize how much of a blast you could have and that it’s all up to YOU if you are willing to step up to what your potential is. I know exactly what you’re talking about.

The best thing regarding how to make sure you continue to develop yourself in the OTHER AREAS OF YOUR LIFE is to at first JUST GET YOURSELF PHYSICALLY doing the other stuff in your life, and you will pick up momentum there internally as well, because everything is simply a matter of focus, and what you focus on, you will feel.

So at first, because you are focused on the hotties at the club, etc, you want to continue THAT, but then if you just turn your focus to your other parts of your life, you will soon find that THAT becomes the focus.

Remember, as I have said before: “YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK AND DO”. So simply start DOING whatever it is you know is important, and you will soon FEEEL like doing it as well

Keep up the great progress!

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, do it IMMEDIATELY. This book is the DNA for attraction, and is an EXCELLENT place to start before going on to my advanced programs and services.

Download it now at:

The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women

Michael

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Dominance, Trophy Girls, And Much More

There’s a TON I want to say, really, I am SO passionate about this whole field- I just wish there was more TIME!

So let’s not waste any time and get right to it:

Do you want to know the reason WHY a woman who is gorgeous seems “harder” to get?

The truth is, she’s not.

She’s just trying to avoid guys who are WEAK.

And I’m not talking weak with not having big muscles.

It’s funny how if you hear how women who are HONEST talk, they say things like “What girl wouldn’t want find it sexy to be with a guy that is dominant.” I love it when women are honest, but the crazy thing is that women tend to be honest only with the guys that ALREADY know it all. Because girls don’t want to come across as slutty, politically incorrect, or as mean to guys that don’t know this stuff.

Women who are HOT will avoid men who are WEAK.

I’m talking WEAK EMOTIONALLY. And specifically, WEAK in terms of EGO.

It’s ironic, how those who are actually SECURE will have a totally different concept of what is a healthy ego from those who are insecure.

So it’s very possible for a guy to think that being strong emotionally, that being dominant, etc, etc, means to be this rip-roaring character who is trying so hard to show everyone “who’s the boss”.

When in reality, when you really feel all this security, dominance, and emotional strength, you can show it most effectively with SUBTLETIES, and NOT at all with the stereotypes of these traits that most people think define those traits.

So let me get to one aspect of what it means to be secure and how it manifests itself in a guy’s outward behavior.

Most guys are so weak emotionally that the REAL reason they want a “hottie” is to serve as a “trophy” so the guy can feel he is WORTH something that way.

It’s not so much the attraction, but the self-esteem boost he feels he’s getting. Plus the “props” he feels he’s getting from his friends and society for “getting the trophy”.

Let me tell you, no woman in her right mind, especially not an educated woman who has developed herself in many ways, would ever want to be reduced to being seen as someone else’s TROPHY.

It’s a huuuuuuuuuuuuuge insult. It makes her feel BAD.

This is NOT to say that women aren’t sexual, of course they are, they are massively sexual. They want to feel beautiful, for sure. So it’s not that they don’t want to be seen as sexual.

But to be seen as nothing but a trophy, well that sucks. And the truth is, most guys DO view women who are hot in that way. I remember growing up and hearing from most guys “Oh man, if she was my girl, I would walk around with her in front of my friends, my arm around her” blah blah blah. All about getting VALIDATION. And I still hear this stuff from guys, guys who are trying to show off.

I’m not talking about when you ask your friend how your weekend is and you talk about the girls you met. I’m talking about the seeking validation stuff, it’s very different. I talk with my friends all the time about girls, but it’s not a validation thing, it’s about wanting good for each other.

But most guys, they act very immature about women, because they still take the “trophy” stance.

Don’t get me wrong, physical attraction is SUPER IMPORTANT, but I see so many guys who truly overlook the entire human dimension of connection with a woman, and this is part of the reason they fail to “bond” and create “rapport.” By being so obsessed with getting the trophy, they are stripping themselves of the kind of vibes that are so crucial for a successful pick-up and for successful “courtship” long term as well.

Me personally, I really don’t give a DAMN what anyone thinks of a woman I’m with. All I care about is the sexual attraction and the emotional and intellectual connection that I feel.

In fact, if anything, I’d be proud to show how I don’t care what anyone else thinks, because I really think being self-validated is the most important thing in life.

This then really frees up the interaction in the pick-up to be far more natural, because I’m NOT looking for a trophy, I really **AM** interested in finding out more about her to see if we have something to connect about for real.

This is why I am so adamantly against the idea of using “tactics” for rapport. Instead, I believe it’s important to understand the DEEPEST PURPOSE for rapport, it’s important to understand and learn how to BETTER UNDERSTAND that person so that you can also know how to make that person TRULY feel great, in a GENUINE way.

And yes, PART of this involves YOUR VALUE, but the other part involves how you help her feel HER value.

If you have no desire for real rapport, and you simply are looking at it as a means to an ends, it’s already messed up.

It’s no surprise that the guys who try to fake this whole part of the interaction with lines and tactics never get very far with women. At most, they get an initial success, then the woman takes off like she was on the run from the boogie man.

In a way, rapport should be your genuine form of “screening” out the wrong women, which would then be a compliment for the woman you DO allow in, and a sign of your own value as well.

This is also why TRUE inner game rather than just superficial “I am great” statements to yourself is sooo important. It’s because a woman can SENSE your inner game because the very frequency and vibration of your VOICE, the very intonation, the very expression on your face, it all SHOWS billions of messages that her subconscious can totally read. She can’t tell if you are a great person or not, but she can tell if you are needy for her as a form of ego-propping for yourself.

And THIS is also one of the reasons women give men the “SHIT TEST”.

Because if you GET SO UPTIGHT at something she SAID, it means you have a WEAK SENSE OF SELF-ESTEEM.

It means you are not CENTRED, but rather still looking outside of yourself for validation.

And also, she knows that if she wasn’t so hot, you wouldn’t get so upset, so it’s the hot factor that is pissing you off. As if you were deprived of your prize. And why should it bother you if you are self-centered and secure.

This is why laughing it off is so important, and really it should not be an act, it should be real. You can learn to develop this. It’s just part of what I teach.

Again, don’t get me wrong, as intimacy and kindness is an important part of any relationship, but first she needs to know she is dealing with a MAN. The hugs and kind words come later. But she needs to know first that she is with A MAN.

Not a boy who needs his trophy to stop whining. And also, not a guy who is never going to develop anything meaningful with her, because all he sees in her is a trophy for his weak self-concept.

A lot of the OUTER TECHNIQUES, which I also teach, are really just some ways of showing your inner game. Which will get you results as well. But once you really have your inner game, you don’t have to pretend at all.

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, do it IMMEDIATELY. This book is the DNA for attraction, and is an EXCELLENT place to start before going on to my advanced programs and services.

Download it now at:

The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women

Michael

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Dating Questions and Answers Part 2

Hey Mike,

Just wanted to give you a shout on my progress since I completed your Real World Bootcamp a couple of months back.

Ever since your Bootcamp, I’ve been focusing on your principle of using the least amount of game possible.

And I’ve been pulling off some crazy **** lately with it. I’m now able to be “direct” with girls and yet it’s as if they often open up immediately upon me starting to interact.

I think the analogy that’s best for this is that when you are a race car driving at 200 miles per hour, you don’t make huge turns with the steering wheel, rather you make fine adjustments- and the better you get at this game, the more “speed” and power you have from the get-go, from anything you do, including your body language, your sense of humor, your dominance, etc, all this stuff become super-charged.

And so therefore the focus is more on fine calibration rather than anything extreme. But this doesn’t mean it takes less skill, rather it takes more.

Every word you said about the power of the tiniest of subtleties in body language and tonality and thoughts, it’s true. Seeing is also believing, as you showed me when you went direct for the girl in middle of her friends at the club.

The funniest thing though is that “minimum game” is really maximum game, it’s just because really what is happening is that you are using your best game, your best self, so very little is necessary. And therefore doing any more than that seems like the guy is trying hard, it would be the equivalent of a girl who is a knock out stripping for you all day, you’d start to think something is wrong with this person, she’s so sexy but never stops, never chills out.

This is definitely where your bootcamp has helped me the most, because it’s allowed me to experience and witness the frame of “not trying to be the entertainer” while still being the most dynamic guy she has ever met. It’s a very subtle difference that makes all the difference between being the clown and being the man, but it’s the most important difference in the world.

Also, simply by becoming so damn comfortable with physically escalating, women are disarmed as well, it’s as if because it’s so natural to me now, it’s natural to them too, it’s similar to how a dog can sense comfort or fear in the owner, and like another reader wrote to you, I mean this not in a disrespectful sense, but a basic sense of human nature. The comfort level you feel yourself is a massive turn on for women in this area. All I can say is, for any guy who doubts how physical and sexual women are, they are more sexual than I could have ever imagined, and this in itself makes me more calm about escalating without making a “big deal” about it.

I think guys really need to realize that the way to get sexual is to start off sexual from the get-go, the sexuality should be there in your voice, your humor, your proximity to her, without being needy- and by playfully pushing her away now and then, you show that you are not needy. Whenever I do this, I find that women flip around from being in “hard to get” mode to being in “chase this guy” mode.

They begin to get touchy feely with me, they start asking me what my name is, they start smiling and just getting all girly. It becomes clear that I’m making her day and that she wants more. It’s awesome and of course it puts your confidence into high gear.

Also, regarding the minimum game, I can definitely see how being the opposite at first – a little over the top – as you first had me going at the beginning of bootcamp was important for my development, because at first I was too concerned with what other people thought, I was too introspective, too quiet, too afraid to even begin to “unleash” my dominant and my fun side!!! After getting me over this hump, it was only then that I could appreciate the refinements to “minimum game”.

Peace,

David S. Calgary, Canada

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks for the props, man. The bootcamp is a very personal experience, as each guy is different and the program is tailored specifically for his needs and goals.

That’s one of the reasons the bootcamp is One-On-One, this way my entire time is spent with you and only you, so that you can get the benefit of complete personal attention for every second of the bootcamp.

And I love your comments and analogies on using “minimum game” – they’re BANG-ON, pardon the pun.

And if you are reading this right now and would like to bring YOUR game up to par so that women are CHASING you rather than playing hard to get, then it’s time you TOOK ACTION by getting my Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program CD Set.

You will find that this program gets you RESULTS. Listen to it ALL, and APPLY it. If you are a man of ACTION, you will find that this program is light years ahead of traditional dating advice.

I spent the last three YEARS developing this program, to really figure out on the deepest levels what women actually respond to, and to then distill this information in a way that ANY guy can both UNDERSTAND and also USE to GET the woman or women he desires INTO his life and INTO his bed.

Get yourself a copy of my SEDUCTION MASTERY APPRENTICESHIP PROGRAM CD SET at:

Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program.

And to MASTER the FOUNDATION, I recommend you first download my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women. You can down download it NOW and begin using it IMMEDIATELY.

It’s at:

The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women

Till next time,

Michael

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Dating Questions and Answers Part 1

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Michael!!!!!

It almost hurts to write this letter, as I’m giving away so much, but I remember you saying how abundance thinking is critical and also how teaching this stuff is a great way of proving your own mastery, so after getting your CD Set last October, and putting it to use and getting insanely powerful results, I’m now to going to share what I think are crucial factors that I’ve learned from your CD program:

Your eBook took me out of the gutter and into a different reality, but your CDs have actually changed the way I feel, I am simply no longer that sad quiet guy I once knew. You’ve got me addicted to this whole picking up women thing, it’s too much fun.

One of the important distinctions I got from your CD Set is that the entire process from A to Z with a woman can either be drudgery for both you and the woman or it can be a fantastic emotional experience at every moment, with emotions ranging from massive adrenaline to laughter to peaceful calm to raw sexuality to a million other emotions.

For example, when you teach about role-playing with a woman and allowing a woman to play the role of you being the ultra cool guy, and yet the way you taught me to also keep her self-esteem high, it’s genius. What you are doing is allowing her to live her fantasy, through role-play, because when you are playing, you are still experiencing the same emotion as if it’s real.

So for example, I have role played with women that I meet, and I am talking about within seconds of first meeting them, that I am Bond and that she is a Bond girl, usually the evil Bond girl!!!!

They looooooooooooove it! The girl I am now dating is a wonderful person who I really dig in every way and I met her using your principles.

I met her at the library, she was working there, helping me find a book, and she just seemed like a really well behaved girl, and so after she helped me find some stuff, I playfully teased her on being the opposite, specifically, “an evil Bond girl with a library fetish” lol. And I told her that she only helped me so she can “have new prey”.

With a smile, she asks what I mean, so I tell her I know she really just lives for torturing guys with overdue books, and that I know where she takes them.

She totally eats it up, a glint in her eye as she goes along with it and points to a little room in the back to me, telling me that is where she takes them to for the torturing.

Because of your CDs, I now realize why it makes total sense for a nice girl to eat this stuff up, because she is such a “nice” girl for real, that she doesn’t get to be “naughty”, and I’m allowing her to be bad now in a way where it’s totally fun. As you explain, this is all about emotions, giving women awesome emotions, and as you explain you have to give a woman what she does not have, and this nice girl needed some more playful naughty in her life lol.

I tell her that the room doesn’t scare me like it does other guys.

She goes back to me with a mischievous smile: “And you’d like to see this room, wouldn’t you?”

To which I responded, in total Bond calm and Bond tonality: “That depends on the view.”

At about the same time, she was being called to take care of something by some woman who worked there, so I told her in a playfully suspicious tone that I had to get going as well but that I would be “investigating this further” and that she must leave her contact info, which she immediately did with a smile and she even told me when she’s in so that I would for sure reach her! Following the other concepts you explain, the rest went equally smoothly. She didn’t even give me any “cruel” tests, just the stuff that I now realize from your materials that any girl does to show she is not easy – I respected that actually, makes me like her more.

As you say, this truly is not about being some creepy guy, it’s about allowing her to live out the most amazing experience possible, that’s full of sexuality and anticipation- by not “handing over all the power” to her, you are not being a jerk, you are being so much more of an exciting man. And you are allowing her to be who she really wants to be. And of course, if she was more of “naughty girl” to begin with, I would calibrate for this and allow her to be more of a good girl!

Thanks to you, I give them what they don’t have. I really am a giver, it’s awesome, and I feel great about it.

For any guys reading this, this is not only about me being “Bond”, but also about her being the evil Bond GIRL. And I could easily play with this in a million other ways, for example me being any type of cool role, for example, I could be Clyde and she could be Bonnie from the infamous “Bonnie and Clyde” bank robbers! (Which I’ve done too, and it’s fantastic stuff!)

This vibe enables you to both have so much more fun and to bypass boring and restricting social conventions so that you can both be far more sexual and adventurous and still have total respect for each other.

And that’s just one part of one thing that I got the far bigger picture on from your CDs. Here’s another big thing I got from your CDs:

Everything I do is up to me and only me. It’s my decision. I think most guys don’t take an active part in their own decision making process. For example, if I want to allow a woman to be a certain way in terms of more sexual and more fun, then my clothing should be more fun and more sexual and alive. I am kind of saying “this is my perspective on life and therefore I accept others with it” so a woman doesn’t have to worry about being judged negatively by being more forward with me. She immediately knows she is with “The Man”, she knows it from the way I move, the way I dress, the tonality of my voice, the type of conversation and interaction I am having with her. She knows.

Your CDs really go into detail on how to take advantage of everything in your power to give off the right messages and vibes about yourself, and even how to find the unique parts of your personality and highlight those as well.

Before this letter turns into a phone book, lol, I’ll say one last thing: Your CDs really hit home on how to create just the right amount of sexual tension so that she is enjoying the anticipation of not knowing if she has you totally, but you are not making her feel bad either by overdoing it.

This is something that has made a massive difference in my interactions with women – I really look at it as a rollercoaster now, where the coaster has some intense moments of pure adrenaline and drops, (this is where I may be teasing her or doing some intense role-playing or being aloof or telling a really compelling story as you explain) but also has some “valleys” that are calmer, (this is where I will be giving her a sincere compliment or just holding her hands in a warm but not intense way, or where I will seriously be learning about her and her background or her day, etc).

Achieving the right amount of sexual tension is so important, I think most guys tend to go to one extreme or the other. Your CDs helped clarify this a LOT.

Hope this helps your readers,

Craig S. NYC

***MY COMMENTS***

Thanks for that awesome letter, it really helps others when guys explain what’s working for them rather than just saying “it’s great”.

It’s obvious you are really getting this now, you are employing so many of the principles at once it’s fantastic. One of the great things about these concepts are that they work well independently and also work even BETTER together. And using one of the concepts will often help you better understand another concept, so the learning goes in a never ending cycle of improvement.

The role-playing situation you gave is an excellent example of proper role-playing, where not only are YOU being Bond like, which of course is always cool and gives her the DESIRE to be naughty with you, but you are ALSO, through this role-play, giving her the LICENSE to be naughty, since in HER new role it would be totally EXPECTED. So this is a great way of her getting over any internal “obstacles” she may have had with it. After all, it’s just a role, right? A role that ends up in your bed.

In this vien, I love how you hit home how the point of all this is ultimately about giving women an awesome emotional experience from the FIRST moment you meet her till the rest of your life with her. And this is actually FUN for YOU too.

I still find it funny how instead of working on their PERSONALITY and on giving women the emotional experience of their lives, most guys just work their butt off to impress a woman with some kind of fancy car, or some other kind of qualifying device, i.e. house, mansion, boat, gifts, etc, all of which don’t even work to get her attention because she’s already SEEN a billion guys try to impress her that way. In fact, when a guy tries to “impress” a woman with THINGS, the woman usually figures the guy is insecure. If you have a great car or mansion or anything like that, that’s great, but let it come AFTER she already likes you, otherwise it’s pathetic.

THINGS don’t make a woman attracted. EMOTIONS do.

Thanks again for your letter, great stuff.

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, do it IMMEDIATELY. This book is the DNA for attraction, and is an EXCELLENT place to start before going on to my advanced programs and services.

Download it now at:

The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women

Michael

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Trigger A Girl’s “Want To Be Naughty” Switch

***LETTER FROM A READER***

Dear Michael,

I’ve undergone such a massive transformation in the past few months, I’m not sure where to start. First, I was in a hellish relationship that fits your description to a “T” in your book of what happens to a guy once he falls into the “abyss” as you say. This woman had absolute power over me, and I now realize after your book that it was me who basically handed every last bit of my value over to her and it was me who basically chopped my own perceived value down to zero.

At the time, I felt that I had no choice, that giving it all over was the only chance I had. I worked harder and harder to try to prove to her how “good” I was, and she became more and more distant, less passionate, less appreciative of anything. Which just made me work harder and as you describe in your book, the cognitive dissonance worked against me, making me feel that she must be worth it if after all I was busting my ass so hard for her.

It’s crazy, but true, because the harder I worked for her, the more I let myself get abused, the more it made me feel that she must be worth it, since after all why else would I be trying so hard, so I tried even harder, and of course this cognitive dissonance, as you explain, had the opposite effect on her, for the very same reason! i.e. “If he is trying so hard for me, then he can’t be worth that much.”

And I realize that all this is so subconscious. And I realize as you say that in a healthy relationship, people appreciate and give a lot, but this relationship was clearly not healthy and I had fallen in deep.

Your book saved me. It made me realize what was actually going on in my head and that in fact I was not in love with this woman, but that I myself had allowed my brain to be tricked into it, and that I could just as easily wash the illusion away. I cannot believe that your book is not on doctor’s shelves.

Your book also showed me how to get back my self-esteem. And to any guys reading this, that is no easy feat for a guy being smashed to pieces by a woman he loves. And more than that, your book showed me how to leave that reality and change my life around and meet and attract more women than I could ever have time for.

I totally changed my approach to women, taking on a far more challenging and playful (the playful is very important otherwise you just seem like an insecure dolt) attitude and also not jumping into a “how can I please you” mentality just because a woman is showing interest in me. I now ***expect*** women to show interest, and this makes the moment when I do show some affection that she has actually earned from me, well it makes it that much more sweet for her.

Right now, I’m dating a striking woman I met while parking my car! It would never have happened if not for you. As I was pulling in to my spot, I noticed this tall redhead in a business suit (damn I love it when leggy women wear those “business” style skirts that really are too short for anything but sexy business) slamming her trunk door down again and again, only to have it pop back up.

My heart was racing, but I knew this was a golden opportunity. I gave her a look and gesture with my head – a playful “no no no, not like that”, my hands on my hips.

She looks at me, (giving me an even better view of her beautiful angles on her face) her expression first a bit pissed, then she smiles with a “I can’t believe you just did that” look and says “thanks a lot” sarcastically, but I could feel that vibe that you talk about– she was liking it, which I would never have guessed could EVER happen before.

So after she said “thanks” sarcastically, I replied “anytime”, and told her that I was enjoying the show! Again, this was done playfully, not in a mean way. I came over and figured out what the problem was, even though I wasn’t sure I could solve it, but I figured at worst I could always tease her some more that her car was cursed.

I figured it out and got the trunk shut, to which I then blew on my fingers as if they were magic and said “that’ll be 100 bucks”. She told me she wished she had the money, and I told her that I bet she did wish that! After a brief chat about where we both worked, I teased her that she didn’t really have a real job or she would have the 100 bucks!

Once I knew she was loving it, I told her that I had to go and took her number and email. I kept up the energy on the first couple of dates but didn’t let it get out of hand to “dorky” level, and let’s just say she’s now passionately making it up to me in more ways than one.

Far be it from me to not help a damsel in distress…

And before I forget, let me just say this woman is just as attractive if not more than the woman who totally took advantage of me, and she’s treating me about a million times better, including taking ME out to dinner next week!

To any guy reading this right now who is in a slump: There are millions of women right outside your door, and you can meet them right now, but you need to learn to incorporate far more dominance, leadership, fun, and sexuality, and you need to learn to obliterate the neediness in you to pull this all off.

Can’t wait to get your CD Set next! I can’t even imagine the next level of success in store for me with that.

Blair T. Ohio

***MY COMMENTS***

It’s always cool to hear from the “good guys” who have been given BACK the power to live their lives with DIGNITY. Every guy deserves to have this area of his life under CONTROL.

Thanks for the props, and yes, one of the biggest things for guys in bad relationships is to realize the massive impact of cognitive dissonance playing on their emotions, and how this can be STOPPED and in fact REVERSED to work in their favor. And it all starts with first being AWARE of what’s going on in the first place, which is something I go into detail on in the eBook.

And I’m glad you also raised the point of how this is not about manipulating women but rather incorporating important characteristics into our personalities that every man already has but has repressed because of our crazy culture that labels all good men as evil for living and breathing and wanting a decent life with a woman where he has DIGNITY. Even though the reality is that women actually WANT you to be a real man! No wonder so many guys get so messed up.

And of course, thanks for the props on my eBook, and yes, you can’t imagine just how powerful the CD Set will be for you – it will build on the knowledge you now have to take you to a whole NEW LEVEL entirely. Brace yourself for it.

The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women

Michael

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Real World Attraction Tips

Over the years, coaching hundreds of guys in person, I have noticed that there are certain COMMON YET DEVASTATING MISTAKES that guys make ALL THE TIME in their interactions with women.

These mistakes are TOXIC to attraction. Because I know what to look for, I can detect these errors as soon as they happen and thus immediately begin the “detox” phase.

It’s CRITICAL to understand what these mistakes are, and to AVOID them like the plague, ESPECIALLY in the INITIAL PICKUP.

Here are some crucial detox principles:

**PLAYFUL DOES NOT MEAN GOOFY**

There is a fine line between PLAYFUL and FUN and being GOOFY. Goofy is NOT COOL. And the reason goofy is not cool is because goofy shows a LACK OF UNDERSTANDING of the social fabric of the situation, and it shows A LACK OF WIT, as well as a LACK OF CONFIDENCE.

Being goofy is also too EASY. Anyone can do it. And it’s like saying “I’m going to be extremely stupid on purpose so that it’s obvious I’m not trying to be smart, so that way, no one can accuse me of being an idiot, since I’m OBVIOUSLY being an idiot.”

But this is actually a sign of INSECURITY, because it’s giving yourself an EXCUSE to tell everyone for why you are not making a powerful impact.

So it becomes an escape tactic, or as a comedian I know says, “It’s a back door”.

In other words, the women (and in fact everyone in the group, if they are there) can see you are AFRAID of screwing up, by the very fact you are making it so clear that you are intentionally screwing up.

That’s the difference between goofy humor and humor that shows confidence, value, talent, or wit.

**A PLAYFUL TEASE IS DESTROYED BY INCONGRUENT BODY LANGUAGE**

For example, if you think you are being funny by teasing a waitress by pretending to be giving her the menu back and then yanking it away etc., but you are not making eye contact, or you are facing away from her because you are secretly afraid of her reaction, OR if your expression looks goofy and over smiley OR if you are too serious, instead of either just being laid back or calm smile, the waitress will then just think you are weird and it will also make her uncomfortable or irritable.

Which is the opposite of what you want.

You have to realize that any of those mistakes will screw up your tease big time and backfire. Which is not to put you off making teases, just to let you know that there is a STANDARD and if you don’t reach it, you will come across as pathetic.

This is one of the reasons that having me personally coach you is so effective at speeding up the learning process, because these DETAILS are subtle, yet CRITICAL, and I can SPOT your mistakes IMMEDIATELY and GET YOU ON TRACK RIGHT AWAY, again and again till it sinks IN.

Incongruent and weak body language makes your tease seem like you are saying, “”Ain’t I cute, I can do this stupid sh*8 to you”, while the SAME tease with the RIGHT body language comes across as a guy who is SEXY and relaxed AND not seeking approval, AND in a good playful mood AND funny AND witty.

It really helps to be self-aware of this until you change your habits instinctively, and of course, it helps to have an expert monitor you and eliminate any problem areas in your game in this regard.

**THE WAY YOU DRESS COUNTS**

You here all these systems out there telling you hogwash like, “I’m a total slob and I eat nothing but lard and I wear garage sale smelly crap and I’m UNBEATABLE with women thanks to the magic secret I learned from x system”.

This is the kind of crap that can really screw up a guy because he THINKS he’s cool and then one day he finally realizes he’s been TOTALLY LIED TO.

Look, I’ve been “in the game now” for a while, and I STILL like to push the envelope for myself in terms of experimenting with different styles, accessories, fits, etc. In fact, last weekend, I had a student on workshop who had strengths in this area, and it gave me an idea for applying a certain element of style for myself. I used it that night, and it honestly in my opinion made my game one notch even BETTER, damn this game is fun! It’s actually FUN to play around with style, seriously, it’s like bringing fantasy into reality. And I have no qualms about learning from EVERYONE, including my own students.

Dressing cool means a hell of a lot more than not having holes in your shirt or wearing jeans and sneakers, and taking a shower. There’s a TON to be said about accessories, shoes, learning about how to make your age work for you in terms of style, no matter what your age.

This is ESPECIALLY true when you go out “on the town” to have fun. In the REAL WORLD, not the world of make believe b.s. advice or the world of internet ads, in the REAL WORLD where beautiful girls really live, you can bet your butt that this stuff MATTERS.

It’s not EVERYTHING, but it counts.

As it should, if you think about it. It’s all about IMPACT. It’s all about FEELING THE EMOTIONS. What kind of impact does a BORING outfit have?

And there is a way to do this RIGHT, so that you are EXCITING, yet exciting with class. You don’t want to come across as the male version of a ho.

This is a huge topic but for now, let me say that next time you go shopping for clothes, try thinking about the IMPACT YOU ARE MAKING.

Does it make you yawn, or does it make you go “cooooooool”.

**DOMINATING THE FRAME**

Not only do women want a guy who can LEAD the interaction, and who is masculine and dominant in this sense, but women will SPIT YOU OUT if you are not this way, and you will not even get out of the STARTING GATES otherwise.

Nowhere is this more clear than in a club. Now I know that not all guys go to clubs, but they serve as an excellent training ground because there are so many distractions, that you MUST GROW IN DOMINANCE in order to OUTWEIGH them all.

For example, your VOICE: If you are going to talk in a namby-pamby, quiet, unsure voice, you will not even get HEARD in the massive volume of the music.

Also, as you engage in the conversation, she might get interrupted by her friend. In a situation like this, many guys will just figure it’s over and LEAVE. Or they will kind of shrink and make it clear they are on “hold” and willing to wait for her forever, or they will pander up too much to the friends in a clearly submissive manner.

Listen: ALL THAT LEADS TO NOWHERESVILLE.

You have to make sure that you TAKE CARE of those friends. For example, the situation might call for you to say a couple of fun or intriguing things to them to kind of show them that you are not DISSING them, but your facial expression also shows that you have no intention of kissing up to them or giving in on the girl you are with either.

You have to GET HER AWAY FROM HER FRIENDS in a way that is smooth and playful, yet decisive and confident.

You can’t start ASKING HER if she will go with you away from her friends to another part of the club, or SHE WILL FEEL that if she AGREES, she feels that you will then think she is a “slut” and “cheap”, since she was “so easy” to go with you because she actually SAID “yes” when wussilly ASKED by you.

As a guy, you have to take just about ALL the action in the beginning, it has to do with our culture and it’s sexual rituals.

And if you show that you are clueless about this fact, or that you are too scared to do this, that will make her feel you are pathetic, or at least it will make her feel the situation is a NO-go.

You have to understand that SHE will not ACTIVELY do the pick-up FOR YOU, she can only play her part, which is to go along with your leadership if she desires you.

But if you don’t show leadership, then even if she somehow miraculously DOES feel attraction to you in spite of your lack of leadership in the pickup, she will NOT make the pick up happen.

See? As a guy, you hold tremendous power, because only YOU can make it happen.

Remember, you are THE MAN, as I have been saying since DAY ONE.

Being a man, you must lead her. That doesn’t mean being A CAVEMAN. It just means being A MAN.

Think Bond, not Neanderthal. Because you sure as heck cannot just DRAG her away (I suppose that doesn’t apply to all the guys who go for these really drunk girls which I don’t really understand, but hey it’s a free country.)

But if I, for example, have a playful game I want to play with a woman, it serves as a fun reason to separate her from her friends. BUT MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT, it’s not just the game, it’s the DOMINANCE and the congruence behind the very way I suggest to play the game. I don’t NEED to make it a game, I could use any of a thousand pretexts DEPENDING on the situation. For example, it could be that it’s too noisy and we need to move “over there”.

And there are about a thousand other obstacles that could come between you and the girl, including anything from her friends saying “We’re are all going to dance”, to her cell phone going off, to the fact that she and her friends are all leaving at the moment.

You HAVE TO OVER-RIDE all of this, in a CALM demeanor, while MAINTAINING the fun vibe, and the DOMINANT frame.

And in many ways, dominance, done RIGHT, and NOT in a controlling obsessive manner, is critical throughout any interaction or relationship you will have with women.

Many times, I’ll be in a conversation with a girl that I just met, and her girlfriends will be doing their job of taking her away, and by handling the situation right, they will go away, and when they come back the second time for a repeat attempt at stealing their girlfriend back, (which is kinda funny) the girl herself will actually tell her friends, “No, it’s okay, it’s good”, and that of course is the best way to take care of her friends, when she herself tells her friends that all is well and that any more interference is no longer desired. (This also is partially due to cognitive dissonance, which I explain in my book in great detail.)

**INNER GAME RULES OVER EVERYTHING**

Now, the amazing thing is that if you have the right STATE OF MIND, which means not only confidence, but also a state of mind that is playful, fun, has energy, is curious, and a state of mind that can tap into all the wonders of your creativity-well, this overall state of mind, this inner game TRULY can do wonders.

Your INNER GAME affects REALITY, it affects the outer world, because your INNER game will be PROJECTED onto reality. You are what you THINK you are, and it’s not a clich?, the only reason people think it’s a clich? is because the folks they heard the clich? from weren’t practicing what they preach. So it seemed to not hold truth. But trust me, inner game is HUUUUUUUUUUUUGE.

For example, most people truly prefer BRAND NAMES when it comes to things, like food for example. They actually say it TASTES BETTER. But in a recent survey in a supermarket, in blind taste tests, for TONS of products, people actually said the GENERIC brand tasted just as good, if not better!!!!!

They actually PREFERRED THE TASTE OF THE GENERIC BRAND THAT THEY PREVIOUSLY SWORE TASTED WORSE.

As long as they DIDN’T know which brand was which.

But yet every day, billions of people all over the world, due to the power of PROJECTION, prefer to choose the brand that more effectively PROJECTS better taste, even if it is not better, in fact even if it is worse, i.e. the NAME BRAND.

This is the power of projection and BELIEF.

Because of the superior projection of the name brand, the people BELIEVE it tastes better, so it DOES to them.

So you can really start to see that your reality is not so static, a LOT depends on your own self perception and what you project.

So, inner game, your inner vibe, the emotions you feel inside of you, are a MAJOR factor. Avoid negative self concepts and negative emotions like the plague, and learn to avoid or bounce back from the negative forces of people around you.

You will project what you believe, and if you believe you don’t have what it takes to attract the kind of women you want, women will then feel it’s true, but if your inner game is TIGHT, and you believe you DO have what it takes, you will project THAT reality and it will seem OBVIOUS to everyone that you indeed are the sh(*!

But alas, the BEST WAY, the most SOLID way, to get your inner game right is to GET RESULTS in the real world. The results don’t have to be dramatic at first, they don’t have to go from zero to one hundred, not at all, but you do have to notice THE POSITIVE DIFFERENCE in women’s reactions to you. This will get the wheels moving in the right direction and build momentum.

Getting real results tends to happen with a COMBINATION of doing your best with whatever inner game you already have, AND applying the RIGHT information about outer game, i.e. your style, your knowledge of body language, the things you say, your understanding of how culture affects women’s sense of sexuality, etc.

THAT way, you can actually start to see RESULTS, and start to see better reactions with the women you are interacting with.

And THAT of course leads to better inner game, which leads to smoother application of your outer game, in a never-ending cycle of improvement.

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Till next time,

Michael

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Getting A Girlfriend

If you’re into these things, maybe you’ve noticed that the whole idea of learning how to attract a woman has gained a lot of exposure in the media, and of course there are a ton of guys proclaiming to be experts on this topic on the internet. There are TV shows that show guys in clubs and how they use their “techniques” and “skills” to “get” the women, etc. And there are movies with fictional stories about all this stuff as well.

So before we go any further, let me first state that what I do is not fiction. And the things that supposed “masters” are doing on TV I have not only done myself, but I have also taught COMPLETE BEGINNER STUDENTS to accomplish as WELL, in RECORD time, and all this has been VERIFIED and PROVEN by independent journalists, (as opposed to just making them up, which is what most “masters” are doing) which you can quickly check out yourself at:

http://thedatingwizard.com/media.html#TorontoStar

I take teaching very seriously, and it’s not just something that is a “job” for me. It’s about changing the planet. As my prof told me in teacher’s college, “we can either teach for the world we live in, or for the world in which we want to live”. And I want to create a world where men and women GET each other and get along in the BEST of ways.

I am adamanlty opposed to games and tricks and manipulation that ends up hurting everyone.

So, with that in mind, it should be clear that nothing I say is “sour grapes” but is rather 100%PRCTG% authentic.

Most of the stuff being preached and what is shown on TV does NOT end up getting the guy a girlfriend. It simply just gets the guy some ATTENTION. The next day, the girl thinks about the whole thing, and she REJECTS the notion of being with the guy, because his vibe seemed FAKE. Too many “clever” lines, too many “cute moves” too much like a “player”.

Now, SOMETIMES, the guy DOES get the girl, IF the girl seriously is looking for a one night stand or is looking for anything that is SUBSTANDARD from becoming a REAL GIRLFRIEND.

When I got into this, and teaching guys this stuff, it was not so that guys could get one night stands. One night stands are rather easy to get anyway, as the KEY to this one night stand thing has more to do with finding the women who WANT a one night stand, and has not that much to do with WHO YOU ARE. It’s a simple exchange where two people want some mutual heavy breathing. There aren’t too many factors that are relevant besides that.

What I got into this for, was something DIFFERENT. It was to help guys end the PAIN, end the LONELINESS, to help guys get the LIFE they want with the kind of WOMAN they want.

And THIS takes cultivating the personality, the lifestyle, the emotional and social intelligence, to make you all that you can be. THIS stuff has a LOT to do with who YOU are, as well as it has to do with the kind of woman you want to meet.

So, there is no way in one newsletter I can convey to you all the factors that are relevant in order to get a great girlfriend, but I CAN tell you that my materials WILL show you how to do this. Also, I can tell you that the very SAME thing that shows a woman you are good for a ONE NIGHT STAND is the SAME thing that will REPEL a woman who is looking for a QUALITY RELATIONSHIP.

Why is this? It’s because of something known as TRUST. If a woman is looking for a one night stand, she wants to ensure that you will NOT make the whole thing too meaningful, that you will NOT desire her too much, that you are NOT that deep. Otherwise, this could be messy for her emotionally and cause her to want something more and she may be scared of something more. So if you develop deep rapport with her, it’s going to push her away.

And if a woman is looking for something LONG TERM AND MEANINGFUL, i.e. to be a real girlfriend and looking to you to be a real boyfriend, then if you use the “player master pick up artist” tactics and overly arrogant attitude and if you try to show her that you are so indifferent, you are actually going to DISGUST this woman and she is going to run like the wind away from you. All because in many ways she is looking for the OPPOSITE things than the other type of woman. Not everything is the opposite, i.e. she still wants you to be a cool guy who is masculine and there are other things as well, but the FOUNDATION of TRUST is TOTALLY ON A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, the level of rapport must be way higher, and you shouldn’t be FAKING this.

All this means taking a VERY DIFFERENT approach to the pick-up.

So, you see, the stuff on TV and by a lot of the “experts” out there will SCREW YOU in a BAD WAY if you are looking for something MEANINGFUL.

Now, on that note, I’m going to give you a tip that is important no matter WHAT you are looking for. This is something that is pretty UNIVERSAL.

I’m sure you’ve heard of all kinds of strategies for starting a conversation with a woman who is a stranger. From teasing her, to doing a magic trick, to pretending to read her mind (”cold reading”) to reading her palms, to asking her opinion on something, etc etc.

The KEY here is not the “magic” tactic, but rather the point is to avoid the following TWO mistakes:

MISTAKE NUMBER ONE: Making her feel CHEAP.

This is a huge problem, because almost ALL girls have learned the hard way that there are some creepy guys out there. Guys who will lie to her but who really just want to use her for some physical “action” and then dump her, and who care nothing about her or to know her at all for real.

So for example, if a girl is at a club or bar and she is a normal girl, she has no way of knowing why you are different from that creepy guy.

This is why, in fact, if a guy does just want to be physical, it’s cool for him to be honest about it, as there are always some women who are into that as well, and if a woman isn’t, she will appreciate his honesty and at least turn him down with dignity.

What’s also strange is that even if a guy IS interested in getting to know her and not just dumping her, if the guy approaches her first and does not know how to have a conversation, and he has nothing to say, then the woman has no alternative but to protect herself and figure that he might be a creep. After all, she knows nothing about him since he isn’t saying anything, and this can easily make her think the guy is simply having a hard time saying that all he wants is to sleep with her.

Now, there is ANOTHER issue as well that is very different:

MISTAKE NUMBER TWO: BEING BORING OR UNCOOL

Sometimes, a woman can feel that the guy might very well be a a decent guy who is not trying to just use her or make her feel cheap, but the problem is that he is simply NOT ATTRACTING HER.

He may not be attracting her because he seems like EVERY OTHER GUY from what he is saying or doing. i.e. When a guy says “Hi, can I buy you a drink?” He does NOT stand out from the crowd, so the IMPACT he makes on her does not stand out from anyone else either.

And since women have to have SOME screening process or they would have to spend ALL DAY AND ALL NIGHT socializing in order to make time for every guy who tries with her, they filter guys out this way. It’s not even that they are doing this on purpose, it’s a psychological mechanism called desensitization, that allows her to conserve energy and not feel emotion (including attraction) when bombarded by tons of the same thing all the time.

Being boring and uncool includes TONS of things such as having a submissive attitude, having a weak sense of humor, seeming desperate, lack of a sense of style or fashion, lack of passion for life, lack of a sense of direction, being overly serious at the wrong time, being clueless about women’s realities, lacking social skills, and more.

So, in order to “GET YOUR FOOT IN THE DOOR” and get the conversation started off in a way that she won’t shut you down, you have to avoid these two mistakes of making her feel cheap and coming across as boring/uncool.

By the way, when I say avoid making her feel cheap, I mean avoid making her feel as if you think she is “easy”.

If you just avoid those two mistakes, you have a VERY STRONG CHANCE of sparking her interest in you, with the BARE MINIMUM of her wanting to meet up with you again, where you have yet another chance to INTENSIFY her attraction to you.

So you can use any “magic” tactic you want, the KEY is to NOT commit either of those two “cardinal sins” that lead to her SHUTTING YOU DOWN.

So, for example, if you go up to her and get her feeling ANY positive emotion, you are avoiding the mistake of boring her. So if you can get her laughing, that’s a great start. If you can get her intrigued, that’s a great start. She is too busy feeling EMOTION to get bored, and if she is feeling EMOTION, she then instinctively feels she is GETTING VALUE from you– you are OBVIOUSLY not making her feel cheap, since you are a cool guy with emotionally relevant VALUE. The more emotionally relevant value you exude, the more she feels like SHE must have value.

It’s VALIDATING for her, it’s the OPPOSITE of feeling cheap.

A lot of guys try to show they have money, and while money obviously has value, it’s NOT cool at all to use THIS as your way IN, as that again makes her feel as if she is CHEAP, as in essence, if a guy has nothing going for him except money, and that is the only thing he can convey in a social interaction with a woman, then he is in essence saying she is a prostitute! And that leads to the guy being SHUTDOWN because he has made HER feel like crap.

I hope this newsletter has helped convey to you that success with women IS something that HAS a logic to it. There IS a way to achieve your goals with women, but it’s CRUCIAL that you have the ACCURATE information and that it is taught by someone who has the EXPERIENCE to know the subtle distinctions that make all the difference in the world between success and failure.

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Till next time,

Michael

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