How to Pick Up Women

Avoid This Gravest Mistake With Women

There is a reason why most guys fail with women. And that is because most men are looking to women to be a BAND-AID for their own internal issues. (By the way, women are doing the same thing with men.)

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that just because a man and a woman are together, it doesn’t mean they are having a healthy attraction to each other. Some people are together because they are co-dependent, some people are using each other, some people are desperate and afraid they can’t get anyone else, and on and on and on.

So, it would be very wrong to call these forms of being together as “successful” forms of attraction. They almost always fizzle out, IF they are even lucky enough to get STARTED.

The greatest single MISTAKE that people make, both men AND women, when it comes to trying to attract the opposite gender, is that MOST of the time, they THEMSELVES are sending out a TERRIBLE message without realizing it.

They are sending out a message that says: “I feel I am MISSING a certain important quality in MYSELF, and I am trying to GET this quality off of YOU.”

So, for example, Tom Cruise, who is shorter than average, is obsessed with girls who are far TALLER than average. (Nicole Kidman, Katie Holmes.) Nicole and Katie are both feeling a lack of massive acting career success at that time, and get this feeling taken care of by hooking up with a guy who is massively successful in Hollywood. Didn’t work out too well with Kidman. Looks like his career is tanking now as well.

Demi Moore, who is 40 something, decides to get it on with Ashton Kutcher, who is MUCH younger. Ashton Kutcher, on the other hand, has been saturated with teenage girl fans since he was a teen himself, so figures Demi is more mature. Looks like her career TANKED a while ago. Also, maybe she has issues since her husband left her for a younger woman.

How about this: The guy who has never even had a GIRLFRIEND, but is obsessed with learning how to be a “pick up artist” and with getting “wild” girls for one night stands? This is because he thinks that he somehow he lacks worth since he hasn’t had “experience” with women, so he feels he must gain that worth by being with wild women.

Or: The “innocent” girl who ends up hooking up with the most SLEAZY guy? This is because she is actually NOT so innocent and wishes to be free of the pressure to act innocent. Then eventually she gets abused and realizes the REAL value in “innocence” has nothing to do with reputation, and rather to do with her own well-being.

So what is my point with all this?

My first point is that women can tell if you have an AGENDA. If you want them because of something you feel that YOU lack and THEY have. Many times, a guy is not even AWARE of his own insecurities in this regard. But the fact is, a woman CAN tell. We can always tell what’s going on with OTHER people better than we can with ourselves, because we are able to be more objective.

The only way to get rid of the “agenda” vibes is to TRULY NOT HAVE ONE. This means, ironically enough, that in order to have the best chances with any woman out there, a guy must be coming ONLY from a place of ATTRACTION, but NOT from a place of wanting a woman to be a psychological BAND-AID for his own insecurity or insecurities.

So for example, when a guy wants a woman to be his “trophy girlfriend”, it makes HER feel like CRAP. The guy thinks she should be HAPPY since he would be so proud to show her OFF, but in reality it makes her feel like crap, because she knows he is not really attracted to HER, but rather he is looking for her to be his psychological BAND-AID to cover up his own feelings of lack.

HOW is this so apparent to a woman? It’s apparent because most of communication is NOT what you say! It’s what you BELIEVE, about yourself, about her, and of course the FEELINGS that are a result of these beliefs. And those feelings affect the way you SOUND, the way you MOVE, and yet, even affects the choices of which WORDS you decide to say as well.

These things are SUBTLE, but they are MASSIVE in terms of IMPACT and effect.

Your THOUGHTS and EMOTIONS absolutely DO COUNT.

And this is why it’s not enough to just try to get into a good state, because if you have the internal issues, trying to get into a good state is like trying to start an awesome car with the greatest wheels, chassis, and body, but has a broken ENGINE.

I’m not the greatest fan of Alanis Morisette, but she has a line in one song that is really appropriate here: “The moment I let go of it, was the moment I got more than I could handle.”

When a guy is able to let go of his own issues, his approach, his conversation, his “vibe” with women becomes far more MEANINGFUL to a woman. The woman can see and feel that he is attracted to HER for who SHE is, and not for who HE IS NOT. She can tell he is not with her because of what he feels he LACKS.

Success with women is not about being MEAN and it’s also not about being NICE. When you are freed up of these issues, it becomes very NATURAL, and the way you interact feels very INSTINCTIVE.

When a guy is KISSING UP OUT OF FEAR of being rejected, he is NOT being natural. He is CONSCIOUSLY THINKING about what to do.

Also, when a guy is acting like a jerk out of a fear of being rejected, he is not being natural. He is consciously thinking about what to do.

However, when a guy is not needing a woman to make up for his OWN issues, he is far more able to go up to her in a calm fashion and begin a comment about anything to start a conversation, and the WAY he says it implies to her that he is not needing her for some internal issue.

They say that opposites attract, but it’s not true. Opposites ONLY attract when people feel they are LACKING.

Otherwise, people want SIMILARITIES. And what they want similarities MOSTLY on, is CORE VALUES, whether they realize this early on in life or later, they ALWAYS REALIZE THIS.

So you might wonder how come there are so many bad relationships out there. And the reason is because so often people let WISHFUL THINKING dictate their actions. So a woman meets a guy who is NOT sharing her core values, but she is HOPING he is. Or vice versa, with a guy. But, if YOU are able to do a better job than the next guy in making her feel you share core values, you will win the day, and not him.

And the problem is that most guys try to go about this sharing core values thing in the WRONG WAY. They try to do this by TRYING to create rapport in a very contrived way, rather than letting their own personality shine through in an effective manner, which is something I focus on helping guys do properly.

The truth is that although men and women have DIFFERENCES between them, and these differences must be respected, we also have SIMILARITIES. We have more similarities than we have differences. We both feel and want love, sexual desire, companionship, and of course we both value TRUST and integrity, etc.

If you are giving yourself excuses for not approaching women, write them down, NOW, and I want you to ALSO write down why these excuses are HOGWASH.

They are hogwash because all these excuses boil down to giving a STRANGER the power to affect your OWN beliefs about yourself.

This can ONLY happen if you ALLOW it to. If on some level you believe it yourself already.

Next, if you are being TOO inflexible about what type of woman you would go for in terms of her height, weight, etc, I want you to do some SOUL SEARCHING about this and determine how much of this is a REAL physical attraction or lack of attraction, and how much of this might be you looking to a woman to be a BAND-AID for you for some internal issue.

DO THIS NOW.

AWARENESS is a major step to getting rid of that issue.

Solving these issues in yourself makes you MUCH MORE ATTRACTIVE to a woman, because subconsciously she can DETECT that you are wanting her for who SHE is, and that feels WAY BETTER for her than wanting her as a BAND-AID for your own issues.

It feels way better because it’s a much greater COMPLIMENT to be wanted by someone who has FREELY chosen you than by someone who had NO CHOICE because of their own weakness.

Most of the time, women don’t even REALIZE the things I’m telling you here on a conscious level. So, for example, women will say all the physical things they are looking for in a guy. But so much of that is MEANINGLESS.

If you TAKE HER SUPERFICIAL “REQUIREMENTS” SERIOUSLY, you will always lose, because if you try to satisfy those requirements, you are only showing her that YOU YOURSELF don’t have GREATER VALUES that you believe in even MORE.

VALUES that SHE probably believes in AS WELL but that never really thought about consciously.

So, if you try to match all the superficial things she says, you only prove that you are inferior, you will also ruin your own inner game, and also most likely you will get pissed off and start an ARGUMENT rather than simply KEEP UP THE RIGHT VIBES THAT LEAD TO ATTRACTION.

A girl LIKES the fact that she says she wants A B and C, but you come along and DON’T GIVE A DAMN about it, IF she also sees that what you DO give a damn about is something GREATER than those superficial things. And if she sees that it’s not the product of your own insecurities.

She likes it not because you are trying to argue with her, but because it shows you REALLY BELIEVE IN YOUR VALUES.

It says you are a MAN and that you KNOW your value is GREATER than any of those things.

The mere fact you DEFY her requirements is more attractive than if you DID have the “requirements” and tried to IMPRESS her with them!!!! The trying to impress her with them is nothing but insecurity, and THAT is an attraction destroyer.

Now, if you want to learn the COMPLETE picture on how to get results with women, then there’s nothing like learning from someone who knows this stuff and has the experience.

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I’ll first analyze your inner game thoroughly so I can find out exactly what it is that YOU need. I will CUSTOMIZE your coaching so that it’s most efficient for you.

I’ll EFFECTIVELY teach you everything you need to learn, so that you GET the skills.

I’ll find out exactly what your specific sticking points are and obliterate them. I’ll assess your body language and tonality and FIX it. I’ll feel out your inner game and find out what toxic stuff is going on emotionally and in regards to your beliefs and I will you get rid of it.

I’ll give you the best insights and show you how it applies with the most practical examples.

I’ll teach you the structure of humor, and more importantly, I will get your humor and confidence reflexes up to par, and I’ll develop and HONE your skills in reframing anything she says so that no matter what tests she throws your way, it only ends up making you even BETTER.

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Till next time,
Michael
The Dating Wizard

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What To Say To A Woman

When I was 15 and in grade school, I had this great English teacher. If you asked me what I learned in terms of rules and stuff, I can’t remember those details.

But I DO remember the most important things she taught, which was THE JOY, the FREEDOM, and the POWER of reading, writing, and expressing the greatness of the human spirit, even in its most subtle forms. And I remember how reading The Catcher in the Rye affected me, and how she encouraged that.

So the LAST thing that I want to do in my stint as this wizard guy, is get you too obsessed with RULES. I want to lead by example, I want to inspire, I want to effectively convey the ESSENCE rather than confuse you with distracting details.

HOWEVER, when one is STARTING OUT, there is a need for SOME structure, some rules, because at that point one has not acquired enough relevant experiences or reference points in mind to know what is useful and what is not.

As my English teacher said, once you KNOW the rules, once you MASTER them and understand their PURPOSE, then, and only THEN can you BREAK THEM. Because the only time you should break a rule is when breaking the rule will give you an even GREATER result.

And the only way to break a rule effectively is to first MASTER the rules.

So today, I am going to share some tips that will help answer one of the most COMMON questions that I get in my email inbox everyday: “When I see a woman I’d like to approach, what do I SAY to her?”

I get this question at least a DOZEN times a week. So I know this must be something on a lot of guys’ minds.

Now, I AM going to answer this question, but I MUST say FIRST that USUALLY this question wrongfully ASSUMES that the most important thing is what you SAY, rather than how you say it.

ALSO, it wrongfully assumes that you must start off your interaction with some GLORIOUS awesome comment, as if it will cause the clouds to part and lightning to burst forth from the heavens and the girl will just be mesmerized from the first INSTANT.

The truth is, that your pickup CAN pick up steam and be successful even if the first words you uttered were not all that awesome. Sometimes a guy stumbles a bit at the beginning, then finds his groove as he goes on.

Ok, now that that is clear, here are some tips on the ever popular “What do I SAY to her????” topic:

ONE: DO NOT BEGIN WITH QUESTIONS, ESPECIALLY LAME ONES!

The problem with starting an interaction with a question, is that you have given her NOTHING and you are trying to make her give you SOMETHING, i.e. an ANSWER!

You have to give her SOMETHING, whether it is the gift of LAUGHTER, of INTRIGUE, of your general good vibes, or any of about a billion other things.

But if you just go in there with a question, she feels NOTHING from you, and yet she feels she is supposed to GIVE to you.

So of course, she will try to get the interaction OVER with as soon as possible, since she is getting nothing from it.

TWO: YOU CAN ALSO USE THE NON “REAL” QUESTION OPENER

Now, sometimes you can begin with a question when you ALREADY know you are going to have a REPLY to her answer that WILL create an emotionally positive impact.

So for example, if you are asking for directions, and you know you are going to tease her playfully on the directions she gave you, and you know she is going to laugh, then ultimately this is still a GIVING type of interaction from you, rather than a TAKING one.

Another distinction to remember on this concept is that sometimes you can be INITIALLY seeming to be asking a question, when really you are NOT asking a question, and actually you are MAKING AN INTERESTING STATEMENT.

So for example, let’s say you go up to a woman and you tell her that you wanted to know if you could get her opinion on something.

So that might SEEM like a question, but it’s not, as long as you IMMEDIATELY proceed to tell her an interesting STORY about something that happened to you or that happened to someone else, i.e. let’s say you go up to her and say you wanted her opinion on something, and she says “ok”, and then you start telling her something interesting that you read, or saw, or experienced yourself. (And if you just start paying attention, you will notice that there are TONS of interesting things going on all the time.) It could be anything from celebrity gossip, to profound thoughts. Just keep it INTERESTING.

And then AFTER this story, you ask her opinion on a question you had about it, well then here what you really did was GIVE before TAKING.

By TELLING THE STORY FIRST, in reality it is YOU who is giving HER something FIRST.

The only reason why you even mentioned the “asking for her opinion” is because asking for an opinion comes across as a very non-threatening way to BEGIN an interaction.

THREE: SIT DOWN RIGHT NOW AND PREPARE SOME BASIC THEMES FOR SITUATIONS THAT YOU KEEP RUNNING INTO.

As you know, I am a HUGE proponent of developing your natural instincts in this whole arena of attraction and dating success. So it’s really important to me that guys are able to get OFF the “training wheels” as soon as possible rather.

So, instead of SCRIPTING out what you are going to say, like some beginners do, I suggest that instead you just come up with some basic THEMES that you can fall back on, just in case you start to get anxious and aren’t able to get into the right state of mind.

So, for example, let’s say you often find yourself waiting in line at the post office or bank. You can come up with some humorous themes that will work in these situations. i.e. At the bank, in those long line-ups, you can say to the woman in front or behind you “hey, by the time I get to the teller, my money will have tripled just from the interest”.

Or you can playfully tell her that if she joins you to rob the bank, you’ll split the cash. Careful on this one, make sure it’s CLEAR you are being playful!

Or if it’s a long line anywhere, or a long wait anywhere, you can go up to a woman and ask her if she has some “light” reading material, like the entire Encyclopedia Britanica for the long wait! Then, if she tells you that she wishes she did, but that she doesn’t, you can tease her that it’s okay if she doesn’t know how to read.

And that’s just using the humor angle, you can do it without teasing as well. For example, on a long wait on a crowded line, where everyone is being silent, and doing nothing, you can comment to her, that if we were able to productively use all this time that we were in lines doing NOTHING, we could probably all win Nobel prizes.

And that could lead to an interesting discussion of making the most of our lives, etc.

As you get to the more advanced levels of MASTERY, you will learn how to have kick-ass interactions without having ANYTHING memorized at ALL. But for starting out, this stuff is a great way to begin.

FOUR: WHEN SHE SPEAKS, LISTEN VERY, VERY WELL.

It’s important to realize that there is a human being on the other side, that this is not just about you doing some “show”, where the other person after you are finished then clicks “yes” or “no”.

Rather, an effective conversation goes back and forth, where you are both getting closer and closer to understanding each other, and learning from each other, even in a brief conversation.

So don’t get all caught up on trying to put on a show, or you will be missing all the stuff she is giving to YOU, and if you miss the stuff she is saying to you, your communication back with her is going to suck, and she will KNOW and FEEL this.

And if you are reading this right now, I assure you that all this stuff is the TIP OF THE ICEBERG. There is so much MORE I want to show you, from how to BEGIN the interaction, to how to take things all the way to a physical level, and how to BUILD the connection to a level that 99.99 percent of people will NEVER have.

As awesome as pick-up might seem, believe it or not, it’s NOTHING compared to the levels of wisdom and development you must attain to go BEYOND the initial pick up and to KEEP THINGS PROGRESSING further and further to ever higher levels with a woman, especially a woman of QUALITY, inside and out.

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Till next time,
Michael
The Dating Wizard

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Unleash The Magic In Your Personality

Do you know what NO ONE can compete with? The coolest parts of yourSELF.

There is this MYTH that if you could just COPY the exact same things someone else is doing who is getting great results with women, you will get that same result.

You cannot gain your TRUE POTENTIAL as a CLONE.

Listen, the GREATEST THING you can do to be awesome with women is to be DIFFERENT from EVERYONE ELSE!!!!

Isn’t that GREAT NEWS???? I know I would HATE having to be someone ELSE!

What I am most proud of is the fact that I have taught thousands of guys how to develop THEMSELVES in their own UNIQUE way by using the INSIGHTS I have shared with them.

The LAST thing you want to do is MODEL a guy’s SPECIFIC actions!!!! Especially when THAT guy himself probably just copied someone ELSE’S motions. That would be like trying to become an artist by photocopying a painting that ITSELF was a blurry photocopy of a painting!

What you want far MORE is to understand WHY someone who is getting results with women is getting those results, so that you can ADJUST THE PRINCIPLE to yourSELF. No two people are the same.

When it comes to your own life, certainly with women, you want to be an ORIGINAL. It’s easy to be a hack, but hacks will never truly make the greatest impact.

They will never have the edge that comes from the extra energy and unique traits unleashed by developing the parts of themSELVES that they love.

Just look at popular culture, for every original artist, a bunch of others attempt to clone the formula, and then they are totally forgotten because they don’t understand that it was originality that made the guy popular in the first place. The originals keep on going and actually keep on developing in new ways, and because they are authentically inspired, it comes through in their artistic CREATIVE expression, and of course that means EMOTIONAL IMPACT on their audience.

This is the reason I spend far more time getting into how the MIND works, including things like attraction, rather than trying to tell a guy how to imitate a line or a movement. Understanding the way things work psychologically helps you apply YOURSELF to ANY situation you encounter with women.

“TECHNIQUES”, in the generic sense, don’t matter.

What matters is DEVELOPING A COMPELLING PERSONALITY and gaining INSIGHT into the way our minds work. And if you ever plan on having something work with a good woman LONG TERM, you better have INTEGRITY too. Oh, yeah, that’s a BIG one.

Once you have this, the last block is SHYNESS, which is actually not that tough to overcome, it’s just DOING the thing that makes you shy, over and over till you stop feeling weird about it. This is how shy actors still can give riveting performances. They practiced this dimension of themselves, and so can you.

All the power that you could possibly have with women flows from WHO YOU ARE, not from a technique.

It’s about UNLEASHING and DEVELOPING the parts of your personality that YOU DIDN’T EVEN KNOW EXISTED.

Let me give you an example from a great letter I recently received:

***LETTER FROM A READER OF THE EBOOK***

Great information, I thank you for providing it.

One question about influencing women: Lets say you wanted to do something with your woman acquaintance, like go somewhere, or do something together, whatever.

So, since you are ‘the man’, you decide what you want to do and then call the shots to her (e.g. Hey Babe, let’s go skiing this weekend)

Now, what is ‘the man’ course of action if she resists or is hesitant?

It is kind a quandary because I know on the one hand you definitely should not appear to be begging her ( Oh come on, please, you will have fun), but on the other hand you don’t want to just let it go since you are in charge and should be deciding the weekend plans.

What is the best course of action in a situation like this?

Thanks Bro,

Gerald T. in Vancouver

*** MY FEEDBACK***

Good question, I think a lot of guys wonder about this stuff. The answer is to PREVENT the problem to begin with by BEING the kind of guy that she WILL say yes to 99 percent of the time.

I used to wonder about these kinds of situations all the time, so I totally know what you are talking about. For example, I used to want to know also when to advance for the kiss, I wanted to know HOW to know that she is interested in me, etc.

But the truth is, THESE KINDS OF QUESTIONS themselves are traces of DOUBT and also of being too needy for her answer. It comes from feeling that her answer somehow affects who we are, that it affects our self-identity.

This is why I keep coming back to IDENTITY. If your IDENTITY is such that you truly are bouncing off the walls in good spirits regardless, you have learned that your identity is INDEPENDENT of other’s approval. Yes, even a woman’s approval.

Which doesn’t mean you are a jerk or that you don’t enjoy having that connection with a woman where you are both in sync.

Also, your THOUGHTS on these issues have to change.

So for example, with practice controlling your thoughts, you feel, you actually just KNOW that she WILL want to kiss you and then when you have the moment, i.e. you’re both sitting down and she is leaning into you as you as you talk, you go for it.

Yeah, kisses were meant to be stolen, in a good sense, for sure.

So back to the skiing example, or any other weekend activity, it’s the same thing.

Once you make the LEAP to the other side of this emotional universe, you suddenly get a whole new perspective on all these supposedly “technique” oriented issues and you realize the issue isn’t NEARLY what you thought it was.

So for example, by being THE MAN, you are decisive, fun, you have integrity and she has trust in you, you are exciting, you regularly lead the way, you never supplicate, you have fun things to do, you have exciting goals, etc., she then WILL say yes to your plans 99 percent of the time.

And you HAVE TO TOTALLY BE COMMITTED to this way of being.

Now, in the rare times that she might not want to go, instead of even looking at it as resistance, which gives you the inner feeling that she does not want to go with you, I would DEFINITELY NOT take it as sign of “RESISTANCE”, or as a problem or make a big deal of it.

I would probably first joke around, so for the skiing situation if she didn’t seem thrilled about going, I might tease her that she’s afraid of the cold or that I won’t make fun of her for sucking at it and skiing downhill mostly on her bum instead of the skis. And I might playfully make references to the cozy lodges and the night time activities and how I will be expecting a full body massage after all that skiing.

By you REALLY FEELING THE JOY of the activity, she will likely fall into the same frame. You are not even FEELING bad, except maybe that she is going to be missing out.

Notice by the way this is not so much about YOU CONQUERING her frame, it’s just you GENUINELY BEING IN YOUR FRAME of enjoying skiing.

The bottom line is that you have to KNOW it’s going to be a good time, and if you FEEL it in your bones, and you have been consistent in being the man, then she will feel it too, so if she doesn’t want to go, she should just be upfront and direct and say what the problem is. If it’s really something legit, like she’s afraid of looking like a dumbass because she’s never gone skiing before, you can reassure her it’s going to be okay and you’ll even show her. And if she really hates skiing, well then that’s a different matter and it wouldn’t be fair to get her to go just because. So you work out a way for things to be cool with both of you, like you go skiing with some pals, and she does things with her friends that you might not be into sometimes.

Definitely don’t INSIST on her going, that’s the kind of “alpha” hogwash that is clone style thinking.

The ultimate “alpha” is the guy who doesn’t even HAVE a confrontation because he knows that the woman is NUTS about him and she really isn’t there to screw him up. And he acts accordingly. Of course, I am assuming that the guy has also screened properly for the right woman in the first place. But then, as I point out in my book, THE MAN is doing this from the get go, determining her values, as opposed to just being obsessed with getting laid like the typical chumps and clones are.

IT’S ALL ABOUT EMOTIONS, not about techniques. If a “technique” is applied, and you keep on using it, and everyone else is using it, I can GUARANTEE you that in time it will be EMOTIONALLY MEANINGLESS to any woman.

Time to break another myth:

RELATIONSHIPS GET STRONGER AND MORE EXCITING WITH TIME IF YOU HAVE THE KNOW-HOW

There is so little useful information out there on how to KEEP a woman attracted to you long term. That’s because there is so little understanding of how our emotions work and how to keep those emotions in a woman firing day after day, in fact FIRING STRONGER with each day.

You have to keep a woman’s emotions “ON THEIR TOES”. The way to do this is to constantly be leading the way to further emotional growth and excitement. People think that a drop in emotional relevance is inevitable in a relationship, but that is hogwash.

In fact, with time, if you are emotionally intelligent, you can create greater and greater emotional experiences for her that take her to such infinite heights that she will be ADDICTED to you for life. No other guy will be able to give her the ocean of emotional sensations she gets from you.

But you have to KEEP ON LEADING THE DEVELOPMENT of those emotions, you have to keep taking things to a new level. I’m not just talking physically, in fact all that physical stuff will be TURBO BOOSTED by the enhanced emotional sensations she is getting from you. So, just to give an example, let’s say the two of you went skydiving together, or you both went on an adventure where you both literally had to trust each other with your lives. Or did things like truly confided in each other about important things about yourselves (but no wuss confessions, thank you).

Look, in case you don’t believe me that emotions can get stronger, just look at the best sequels in motion picture history. What makes a sequel great is that it takes all the emotions of the first one and intelligently takes the story FARTHER, the development of the characters FARTHER, deeper. The drama is also heightened by the taking on of GREATER challenges. For example, The Godfather II, Superman II, The Empire Strikes Back.

All the things that were COOL and EXCITING and INTRIGUING about the first movies are taken to the NEXT LEVEL. Superman sacrifices his powers to develop his humanity and finally consummates his relationship with Lois, and he must stand up to creeps but as a human he pays the price for it, while three super criminals from Krypton take over the Earth and he must find a way to stop them. And Luke continues his training under an even wiser Jedi master and confronts the greatest evil in the galaxy, who he also learns is his own father.

Any AWESOME emotion can be developed further, but it takes INTELLIGENCE and WILLPOWER and THOUGHT.

But what do most people do in relationships? They say things like “it should all just go naturally”. No thought put into it, no commitment, so of course the result is crap.

Imagine if people treated working out or their career the same way, by hoping for it to just “go naturally”. No one would ever get any muscle or make a penny of profit.

You have to take all the things that are awesome about the attraction a woman has for you and you must develop those things further. But instead of becoming a slave to her validation, the reality is that all you have to do is develop YOURSELF, your OWN PERSONALITY, further and further, because THAT is what attracted her to you in the first place.

But what do most guys do when they meet a woman they like?

THEY STOP developing. They think that now all they have to do is just hook up.

You have to develop the attraction, develop the rapport, develop the intimacy, develop the exciting, funny, and intriguing elements of your personality, and further develop your goals and lifestyle.

So if you are a guy who is exciting because he loves challenges, or if you are a guy who is really funny and witty, chances are she loves those things about you. Or if you are a guy that calls a spade a spade, or whatever, become even better at that. And develop NEW aspects to your personality as well.

The greatest gift you can give a woman is the gift of awesome EMOTIONS. And this comes from YOU unleashing and developing an AWESOME unbeatable personality that is inspiring and compelling to be around.

And you know what? All the craziness going on in our culture? -Like the stuff that passes for music and music videos, that is designed to get a SHOCK reflex and thus to get the attention of people, is actually something that can HELP you.

Why? Because the bottom line is that all the crap wouldn’t sell if people were EMOTIONALLY in better shape. People have allowed their standards to go DOWN. The fact that so much of the entertainment we are exposed to is designed for pure SHOCK value is a testament to how emotionally lazy most people are right now. And that means that if YOU know how to create emotional impact, you are going to be LIGHT YEARS ahead of everyone else.

If everyone was emotionally “in shape”, it would be a greater competition. But as it stands, it’s like Einstein competing with Beavis and Butthead.

And if YOU would like to learn how to unleash the NATURAL power of your personality and of yourself so that you can attract and keep the kind of women you may have thought were impossible before, then you owe it to yourself to get the best education on EARTH on this topic:

THE SEDUCTION MASTERY APPRENTICHESHIP PROGRAM.

You’ll get the most powerful home-study program that breaks down every component of the dating process so that you get a crystal-clear understanding of what to do at every stage. From EXACTLY how to start a conversation with a woman in different types of situations, and how to it running smoothly, all the way to getting intimate under the covers and keeping the fire burning strong — you’ll have it all at your fingertips, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Recorded in digital audio on 10 CDs, this program also includes a massively comprehensive workbook that will help you review and remember everything you learn. This program will REVOLUTIONIZE the way you go about doing pick-up, and the very way you perceive ATTRACTION itself.

It’s at:

Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program.

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, then do that now. It’s the place to start, the launch pad where you will blast into a new reality with women.

Download it now at:

The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women

Till next time,
Michael
The Dating Wizard

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Mean It With Women

I’d like to clear up A PERVADING MYTH that is holding guys back from success with women.

Most guys have been made to think it’s BAD if a woman knows that you are interested in her. This ends up triggering an infinite variety of tactics that guys dream up to make it seem like they are not “chasing” a woman.

It’s ironic, as a guy will do everything in his power to make a woman he is attracted to think that somehow he is NOT interested in her.

Stuff like seeing a girl you’re interested in, and then making sure to not say anything to her for a while so it supposedly looks like you’re not interested in her. And then, starting the interaction LATER.

I used to do stuff like this years ago when I was brainwashed by the “experts” out there. I had to learn all this stuff the hard way on my own.

In reality, women usually know all along when guys are interested, they’ve seen this type of thing about a thousand times. When a guy does this “hiding his intent” stuff, and if he ever gets success, it’s IN SPITE of this “hiding his intent” stuff, and NOT BECAUSE of it!

The good news is that you get to take advantage of the lessons I learned. So I know what I’m talking about because of all those mistakes, in about a thousand different areas of this topic, from approaching, to making the conversation, to building trust, to handling tests, to getting physical, to long term relationships.

But I digress, so back to the main point: If you are going to try so hard to “not pursue”, then how the heck are you going to get started?

By talking to the girls through some kind of mask with a sign on the forehead that says: “I don’t like you?”

I mean, girls are not stupid, they know you are chatting them up, and the other thing is, girls ENJOY this when you do it right, when you do it with STYLE. It’s not like we are the enemy, it’s not like they are the enemy.

It’s not like we have to (or even could) TRICK them into chatting or anything else. It’s about making women feel GOOD about the pick-up and about talking with you so that they enjoy the process just as much as you.

And the truth is that doing this is neither about tricking women NOR is it about making the interaction boring by giving up all your “cards” at once.

It’s also important to realize that the way a man and woman interact with each other must EVOLVE as they get to know each other BEYOND the initial pick-up, but that’s a whole other topic.

But in the initial pick-up, if a guy is going to be so nervous about not revealing any interest in even the most subtle and indirect ways, it will RUIN the natural flair and charisma he already had within himself. He’ll be too busy worrying about making sure he is leaning far away from her, and that he is not being nice, to the point he can’t even THINK straight enough to have a fun conversation.

A man should use everything in his power, from his tonality to body language to thoughts to understanding of female culture to let a woman know he is both the BEST and also that he MEANS IT with her, that he is not just joking around.

I mean, if showing a woman you are interested in her ruins things, how do you explain the success of clients at my Bootcamps who are having their arms around and kissing girls within minutes of meeting them? Are these girls thinking that this is a sign of being NOT interested in them?????????? I’m not even saying that you should go that far that fast, as it all depends on the situation, but the fact of the matter is that it’s fine and GOOD for a girl to know you are INTERESTED.

The thing is, there is a big difference between INTERESTED and jumping to conclusions like being MASSIVELY INTERESTED before you even KNOW anything about her, which would be a sign of IMMATURITY and is not attractive.

But again, showing your INTENT is not a problem, and in fact is a VERY GOOD THING. As long as that intent is motivated by MATURITY and not pure shallowness. (Unless you are dealing with women who are extremely shallow, in which case, they will be looking for extremely shallow guys as well.)

The truth is, having CONVICTION behind your actions with women is MORE IMPORTANT than being this overly “clever” manipulator armed with all types of “tactics”.

Don’t give the game away, don’t make the movie end before it starts, make her work for it a little, yes, but don’t get swept up in this fa?ade that you are faking a girl out. 99%PRCTG% of the time, a woman knows EXACTLY what is going on anyway, so the “faking out” only serves to make the guy look like he lacks confidence or it makes it look like he believes that she will not like him for who he really is.

Behaving in a way that shows you are willing to back up your interest with ACTION is a BIG PART of your success in both creating and sustaining a woman’s attraction to you.

When I say conviction, I mean that whatever you do with a woman, do it like you mean it.

If you are walking up to her, walk up to her with the idea in your mind that she has been waiting for this moment her entire life. Don’t take the “roundabout” route to where she is standing, don’t try to make it look like you are NOT trying to walk toward HER.

If you are in a first telephone conversation with a woman you like, don’t say something like “yeah, we should meet up sometime”. Instead, PLAN the time, the activity, whatever the heck it is. Be specific. Show that you MEAN it.

If you are giving a woman a good-natured tease, do it like you MEAN IT, don’t do it half-assed or apologetically. Do it in FUN, do it in a truly playful way. If you do it half assed, you end up only making a woman think you are weird and she has no idea of what you are really trying to communicate. When you do it right, a woman understands the underlying sexual vibes being communicated, and she responds in kind.

In my bootcamps, workshops and consultations, one of the many major areas I work on improving in clients is obliterating all their “inner static” going on internally that is interfering with everything from the initial approach, the conversation, or even getting physical. I’ll figure out what the problem is and do whatever is required to solve it, whether it’s a major tactical issue like body language or whether it’s a deeper issue with negative and erroneous beliefs about all women.

Eradicating this problem immediately triggers a tremendous improvement in women’s reactions to them.

What is happening is that suddenly everything the guy does now is injected with charm.

So what has actually happened here? What is the difference that women see, hear and feel from these changes?

The answer is that now everything the guy does is coming across like he MEANS IT.

One of the greatest fallacies is that “you have to be a jerk to attract a woman”. No, the truth is that to attract any woman, especially the QUALITY women who have both the looks and the personality, you have to show that you MEAN BUSINESS, which is very different than being a jerk. In fact, when you mean business, when you interact with a woman in a way that it’s obvious you are not going to be deterred easily, this HEIGHTENS a woman’s attraction. The thing is that you have to do all this from a perspective of STRENGTH, not of desperation.

If you REALLY mean business, if you really MEAN it when you approach a woman, then why on earth would you be acting all kissing up? There is a big difference between being genuinely nice and kissing up out of desperation. In fact, sometimes this “nice” stuff when it happens too fast before a woman even knows you, it creates a feeling of PRESSURE on her.

After all, she sees the guy is CLEARLY WANTING SOMETHING REALLY BADLY, and yet she knows nothing about him. But the guy is coming on so strong, she has to make a decision right away, since he has clearly made up HIS so fast, and she knows he WANTS her decision back NOW, even if he doesn’t say so to her face, it’s clear he needs an answer NOW. He is desperate.

So, she feels she has to give him NO as the answer, since after all, she knows nothing about him except the fact he seems desperate.

If a guy is kissing up, what he really means is that he feels she will NOT be attracted, so that is he must compensate by doing all this extra nicey-nicey stuff.

Once a woman already earns your affection, then a “nice” action become far more genuine, because it’s clearly not something you are doing to compensate for some flaw.

So in essence the weak approach says you don’t have the value to actually mean business. The more fake nicey-nicey stuff when you don’t know her, the more you are saying “don’t choose me, I know I wouldn’t choose myself!”

So how on earth can she take such an offer seriously? The guy is saying through his own behavior that he is not worth her time. He is saying “DON’T choose me”.

And yet, ironically, he feels BAD when she doesn’t choose him, even though he has been instructing her to NOT choose him. The guy THINKS that he means it when he goes up to her, but in his own mind, he really believes he is NOT ready, he is NOT good enough for her.

The more he does this, the more he is saying he is just aiming to be on the sidelines and and to take some scraps.

For example, if a woman sees that you are staring at her for a while and NOT TAKING ACTION, she might feel you are a creepy stalker, but if you just went up to her, she feels you are being a man.

Sometimes a woman actually feels that maybe there is something wrong with HER and that’s why the guy is not doing anything.

Sometimes she feels that maybe the guy is just a wuss.

In just about every case though, as you can tell, being hesitant and trying to mask your intentions just makes her feel worse or makes you seem worse.

The truth is that women get MORE turned on when a guy is NOT hiding his masculinity and makes it clear that he won’t be stopped. The problem is that guys think that this means only stating things DIRECTLY, like telling a woman they desire her.

Which is not necessarily the worst thing to do, but it’s far MORE effective if you ALSO get her EMOTIONALLY INVOLVED in the process, by suggesting your intention as well as YOUR worth, with your body language, tonality, sense of humor, etc, all of which I go into detail on in my materials and programs.

There really is no point in approaching a woman with an attitude of “let’s just see what happens” unless you are at the complete absolute beginner phase. A complete beginner will benefit because at least he sees the world doesn’t end just because he approached a woman. But otherwise, you are communicating the wrong things to a woman if you take this attitude. You are going in to WIN, because you KNOW YOU CAN.

Most girls do NOT like the idea of a guy just playing around with them for conversation or for anything else unless they (the girls) are desperate. They have to figure out where to categorize you, as guy with potential, guy they are attracted to, or guy who is just wasting their time and doesn’t plan to do anything.

So when a guy behaves like he MEANS IT, when he asks for the number or email or whatever, girls sense this guy is not screwing around with them. That’s part of the reason women need to test you. Not only must they test to see if you are genuine, but they must also test to see if you are a dumbass who later on will get confused about what he wants.

Again, at no time am I advocating kissing up, I’m advocating having DIRECTION, and FOCUS. It’s far more attractive for a woman to get on board a ship that has direction than a ship that doesn’t even know where it wants to go, a ship that SHE will have to figure out and steer. Especially in our culture, even with supposedly all the desire women have for exact equality, the truth is that almost NO WOMAN ON EARTH wants a guy that can’t lead the situation.

Girls LIKE to be pursued, when it’s from a guy who makes it fun and doesn’t give away the complete challenge. Being pursued doesn’t mean calling ten times a day!

If you don’t act like you mean business, it will be unlikely that she will feel attraction.

There’s another dimension to this whole “really meaning it” behavior. When you go up to a woman like you mean it, that means you believe it will PROBABLY WORK OUT in your favor. If you believe it will work in your favor, then you will not do the subtle things that so many guys do to sabotage themselves. Guys sabotage themselves because it’s easier for THEMSELVES to ruin an interaction ON PURPOSE with a woman than it is to have HER ruin the interaction.

So a lot of guys who are perfectly normal the rest of the time will suddenly start behaving like a goofball or a jerk when they start interacting with a woman they are attracted to. They do this so that they have an EXCUSE later for why things didn’t work out, and excuse that protects THEM from having to blame themselves. “Hey after all haha I was being such a jerk haa”. (laughter used to cover pain)

So when guys are acting like goofballs, jerks, or show-offs, they are really showing the woman that they DON’T MEAN IT, that they don’t really want to get to know her or get closer to her physically. The woman feels that after all, the guy was acting like a screwball. Now, some women can read right through this, they KNOW the guy was attracted, but then because he had no guts and instead had to act like a jerk, they reject him because women aren’t attracted to guys who are so afraid of being rejected.

In a real interaction with a woman, once the teasing and playfulness has been done, there comes a time for just being a normal human being and having some normal conversation. This shows that you are not trying to be a character, that you are comfortable to also be relaxed and normal and that you are not worried if she is going to reject your normal self. The irony again is that by “exposing yourself” and just being normal and not a goofball or jerk, you are showing that you believe you have worth and that she will probably find that too, and that if she DOESN’T feel that you have worth, you are still going to live your life and enjoy it.

So, in the DEEPEST SENSE, you are showing again, that you MEAN BUSINESS, because you know that for things to REALLY WORK, you can’t play some character forever, and that you aren’t about to start playing one now- you are showing that you know that for things to work between the two of you for real, you can’t play some character. Coming across as a goofball is just hiding from reality and symbolizes that you aren’t serious.

Keep in mind that she will also feel that since YOU can be real, so can SHE, and this is really a relief for her as well. This is how you develop a real connection, because you are being real, and so now she feels so can she. By both being “real” and not fakey nice and not goofball or jerky, you can really get a powerful vibe going.

All this good stuff can’t happen if you aren’t prepared to risk rejection, if rejection means such a big deal to you that you have to pretend to be some character, so that it will be the character that gets rejected if there is indeed a rejection. But the irony is that even if the character bit doesn’t get you rejected initially, I can guarantee you that either it will eventually show and make you look very uncool, or the pretending will drive you nuts and make you miserable. So if you think about it, it’s not a winning strategy no matter what. Your ONLY choice is to MEAN BUSINESS and expect her to want to go for it.

Again, MEANING IT doesn’t mean GIVING YOURSELF AWAY. It doesn’t mean that you will be an easy catch. It doesn’t mean that you don’t retain an air of mystery. It doesn’t mean that you RUIN ALL THE FUN. It just means that YOU ARE INTERESTED, and that if she can impress you and be fun for the rest of the journey, she stands a good chance of you taking action on your interest.

When you mean it, you don’t try to show off how great you are. I see a LOT of this going on out there, guys that just can’t stop showing off when talking to girls. It’s TOO OBVIOUS the guy is TRYING to show how great he is. Women see this ALL THE TIME and KNOW this is pathetic low self esteem. If a guy is showing off how great he is, he’s really saying to her is that he doesn’t trust her to like him, and that he must inflate his real self-worth because he is not really desirable. She will basically take his showing off as a sign of him REALLY NOT BEING NATURALLY WORTHY of being treated well.

When you mean it, you also go in MEANING to be her MAN, so you behave like a man, leading the way, etc.

A related point about getting physical- do it like you mean it. Sex shouldn’t be some ho-hum thing, because if you aren’t attracted to her, then what are you doing with her?

Just keep in mind that being attracted to a woman is also more complex than most gurus will acknowledge. It’s not JUST a matter of physical looks.

But my point is, if after getting to know a woman, if you are not attracted, then why are you with her? You have to MEAN it.

And if you would like to learn the most powerful ways of showing and feeling you MEAN IT, so that the vibes between you and her will be exploding with chemistry, then I seriously recommend you immediately order my SEDUCTION MASTERY APPRENTICHESHIP PROGRAM.

You’ll come back to this program again and again, for years, whenever you have ANY question about attraction, pick-up, or dating. It will CHANGE THE WAY you THINK about attraction itself.

And it’s at:

Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program.

And if you haven’t yet downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, then do that first. It’s the foundation before moving on to my advanced programs, and inside this eBook you’ll find fantastic insights that you use to meet and attract more women RIGHT NOW.

It’s at:

The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women

Till next time,
Michael
The Dating Wizard

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The Addictive Fuel

Do you want to know what BLOWS AWAY everything else? Do you want to know what is so powerful that you could even VIOLATE some of the rules of body language for? Do you know what the whole POINT of things like body language is for?

Do you want to know the TRUTH about how guys who are NOT good looking succeed with women without having any type of good looks or money?

What I’m about to share with you is very powerful. I seriously hope you will use this for good to make your life better and then in your improved life you will be able to help others too.

The ULTIMATE POWER is the power to INSTILL EMOTIONS in others.

Emotions are so powerful that when we are feeling them we really are on a completely different plane of reality. Nothing else matters. Our brains simply DON’T CARE ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE when emotions are running. All we want is MORE of those emotions.

We feel as if we NEED it to survive. It’s truly the addictive fuel of life, and since MATING and SEXUAL ATTRACTION is a FUNDAMENTAL, INSTINCTIVE part of life, the role of EMOTIONS is ESPECIALLY RELEVANT when it comes to being successful at creating attraction and trust with women.

This of course is the reason why it’s insane to get into a relationship with a woman who is emotionally unstable or a woman who is a party girl or a club addict type or who drinks and takes drugs, for these women are putting themselves into situations where they lose control over their better judgement and will do things they later regret. The trick is to experience the right emotions in the right place at the right time with the right woman, so you both don’t do something you’ll regret.

When emotions kick in, all the regular rules of the universe simply cease to exist. People will overcome their greatest fears, they will do the impossible.

Great leaders like Churchill have used this power for good. Others have used it to destroy entire cultures and civilizations.

Emotions are so powerful that they don’t exactly fall into a category of good or evil. One thing I can tell you is that all emotions are ADDICTIVE. Even the negative ones.

Of course, I don’t tend to recommend the negative emotions, although it is important that a woman feel that LOSING you is possible if she doesn’t treat you right, and that that loss would be a TERRIBLE thing. Now, a smart woman will KNOW this without you having to instill it in her, she will not take you for granted, but unfortunately, not all women (just like not all men) are that smart. So you have to rely on the power of EMOTION in many cases for not being taken for granted.

Emotions are our ancient link to our PRIMAL heritage, a time when we used our INSTINCTS far more than our intellect. We FELT what to do based on a deep INSTINCTIVE, EMOTIONAL response to external stimuli, whether it was an opportunity to gain food or shelter or sex or self-preservation, etc.

These emotions COMPELLED US TO ACT, because the feeling was so strong of what to do, there was no other choice. Kind of like how an enraged lion will tear a person to shreds without thinking about it if the person attacks the lion.

Do you know why musicians, for example, are so good with women?

BECAUSE THEY CAN CREATE TONS OF EMOTIONS.

Emotions of great ATTRACTION. Emotions of great LOVE. Emotions of great TRUST. Emotions of great HOPE. Emotions of great EXCITEMENT.

Who doesn’t want those things???? (Major Hint for the entire population of normal guys who don’t happen to be rock stars or musicians: One way to create these emotions in women is to FEEL these emotions yourself.)

The ability to feel emotional reaction to music is a vestige of our ancient past. Even babies appreciate music. It takes no “thinking”.

This is one reason why pick up artists tend to especially prefer dance clubs, because the women in clubs are ALREADY emotionally primed from the music pumping their emotions and putting them into a receptive state. Of course, women know that they are in a primed state and that’s why many women don’t trust guys they meet at clubs, because they are afraid that the guy might just be taking advantage of the situation and not being honest with them.

Which is why TRUST becomes a major requirement for guys that work the club scene. Unless the guy is dealing with ditzy party girls who really are so spaced out and high that they couldn’t care less about things like trust.

Knowing how to create TRUST is important long term as well. Relationships break down because of a lack of trust just as much as because of lack of attraction. Of course, some guys and some girls just want to know how to create trust artificially when indeed they SHOULD NOT be trusted in the first place, but that’s whole other topic. The point here is that the keys are always EMOTIONS, and what you are doing to provide them.

The only reason people care at all for example about a person’s “looks” is because “LOOKS” is ONE way of triggering a powerful emotion.

But it’s certainly not the ONLY one.

This is why I truly believe that the development of the human brain to create things like art, music, or any other emotional stimulus is truly proof of how our brains are designed as sexual attractors. If you KNOW how to use your brain to trigger powerful emotions in women, you will have so much success with women you will really feel like you are living in another reality.

In fact, this is why it’s VERY possible to get a woman INCREDIBLY aroused without even TOUCHING her. It’s because of the emotions you are providing her without touching her. This is why you can come EVER SO CLOSE to a woman’s lips without touching hers and she could SWEAR she felt your lips on hers.

BECAUSE IN HER MIND SHE DID.

All that counts is the emotion she FEELS.

Women will KEEP ON COMING BACK TO YOU FOR MORE OF THE EMOTIONS YOU ARE GIVING THEM, THE SAME WAY SOMEONE WHO IS ADDICTED TO DRUGS KEEPS ON COMING BACK FOR MORE.

Drugs are only popular because of the EMOTIONS they provide.

But what if YOU could be that drug? What if YOU were the source of even MORE POWERFUL emotions?

The good news is that you don’t have to be rockstar or a famous artist to get the same kind of success as these guys get.

But unlike some people out there, I’m not going to LIE to you and tell you that it takes no effort, no practice, no development. Some guys learn this stuff fast, others it takes a bit more time.

The FIRST thing guys need to understand is that they must look at situations with women for what they REALLY are: It’s not about you FORCING anything to happen. It’s not about that.

What it IS about is PROVIDING her with the emotions that will lead to success.

So, for example, OBVIOUSLY, one of the IMPORTANT emotions that needs to be fulfilled if you are stopping a woman on the street is a certain amount of TRUST.

She NEEDS to feel a certain amount of trust that you are not a psycho.

At the same time, she also needs to feel that you are not a pathetic desperate case either. She needs to feel ATTRACTION.

The irony is that a lot of times a guy tries to accomplish TRUST by being really soft-spoken or complimentary as he says something to a woman he wants to chat up.

But usually this actually backfires and makes a woman SUSPICIOUS since she has heard all this stuff before, and the lack of confidence the guy is showing makes her FEEL that this guy probably is NOT socially experienced and maybe IS a psycho. EVEN if the truth is that he’s NOT.

And of course all this stops any attraction from having a snowball’s chance in hell of forming.

So he gets NO TRUST, and also gets NO ATTRACTION. She is feeling instead SUSPICION, POSSIBLY FEAR, AND REVULSION.

And she feels nothing else.

What is important is to create the RIGHT emotions, the same way an ARTIST DOES.

An artist is someone who STIRS EMOTIONS.

Now, hold on with me for a sec here: I hate the term pick up artist. Pick up artists talk about women in derogatory terms. They use and abuse women. They show off to other guys about how they “scored”. They make fun of guys who don’t use women like they do.

They could care less about quality and it’s all about quantity and showing off out of insecurity.

They are driven more by the power of the ability itself rather than by building any connection with the women themselves. This is the dark side of the force. It’s not about women. It’s about power.

I didn’t get into this field to become a pick up artist. I did it for myself, because I tried so hard being a nice and good guy with women and always ended up getting burned for it.

Instead of being a pick up artist, I believe in being a provider of wickedly awesome emotions for those worthy of my time.

Now, the FUNDAMENTAL starting point for creating AWESOME emotions is YOUR OWN EMOTIONAL STATE. You must be in the right state, you must be STRONG internally. You must be COURAGEOUS enough to go for it.

Did you ever wonder why there has NEVER been a movie featuring an EMOTIONALLY WEAK character?

The reason is because we are NOT ATTRACTED to those who don’t even TRY.

The EMOTION of attraction, as I’ve said many times before is about EXCELLENCE.

Even Forest Gump, who is not all that smart, and doesn’t look powerful, is one HELL of a courageous guy.

We are DRAWN to ROOT for his character. Because he has the WILL.

So before you make the COLLOSAL MISTAKE OF WARPING MY ADVICE and thinking that all you need to do is read poetry to a woman, all your emotional stimuli must be coming from a point of STRENGTH and NOT from a point of NEEDINESS.

By the way, the poetry thing is NOT hogwash, if you are TRULY talented. A little while ago, I happened to work with someone who was a student on campus in Montreal when Leonard Cohen was a student there as well, and he testified to how Leonard even at that time had girls like crazy around him because of his poetry. Keep in mind that this is a guy who was really into it, it was clear that he wasn’t using it as a “gimmick” although I’m sure it was still women that motivated his inspirations. But the main thing is that he wasn’t doing it in a wuss way, where he was seeking women’s approval.

My point is not to say to go out and write poetry or to make music, but to realize the power of emotion over all else. And also to realize that all emotion is the reaction to EXCELLENCE in various forms.

Every male hero, every cool character has always had an edge to him, he exudes this excellence in some way, even if he is not perfect in every way. In fact, this not being perfect is what makes him believable, while he ALSO exudes some form of overwhelming excellence. There are many, many different forms of this, and I can coach you to help bring out YOUR excellence in a way that is immediately apparent, natural, and in no way is showing off, rather it will be you conveying who you are in the most effective way.

When this happens, this triggers the emotion of what we commonly say is the epitome of “COOL”.

EMOTION. It’s the real answer to all of this.

Think of your own life like your own REAL MOVIE.

YOU are the hero of your own life. I don’t care what you look like or how much money you have, you need to have the WILL.

THAT is the first ingredient for attraction.

Yes, WILL is attractive. That’s why being a wuss is a HORRIFYING mistake.

If you can’t muster the will to approach a woman you’d like to talk to, you can’t expect her to feel any more emotion in you than anyone can feel towards a character in a movie who doesn’t even muster the will to try to accomplish anything.

Imagine if Luke Skywalker was told by Darth Vader “it is no use to fight the dark side” and Luke just said “you’re right, I give up”. We wouldn’t give a damn about him!

Honestly, this is all just the tip of the iceberg. There are INFINITE SHADES OF EMOTIONS that are compelling, that you can create with an understanding of what people are drawn towards.

Also, EXPERIENCING emotions together with a woman is a great thing to do. I don’t recommend going to a movie with a woman you’ve just met, just because it doesn’t give you a chance to display any of your coolness to her, but once you already know a woman well, and you KNOW how to be THE MAN, then going out to a truly awesome movie is an excellent idea. It puts both of you in a heightened emotional state that will only INCREASE the emotions between the both of you. That’s just the way emotions are, they like to bond with other emotions, kind of like atoms.

Attraction is not just ONE thing, as many would have you believe. For example, picture in your head the attraction a woman might feel for a race car driver, the attraction a woman might feel for a mysterious legendary figure, the attraction a woman might feel for a national military hero, etc. Or an artist, or a Don Juan type character.

All different, but all good.

There are INFINITE shades and combinations, so no matter who you are, there is a way to bring THAT COOL PART OF YOUR IDENTITY to the forefront, immediately.

If you have the know-how, that is. It took me YEARS to put all this together, and now you don’t have to, because you can take advantage of what I learned.

And now, on top of the attraction a woman would feel for any of the above type of characters, picture the MAGNIFIED sense of attraction she would have if she ALSO felt a supreme sense of CONNECTION with that person. As if he and her had TOTAL synchronicity, as if they could reach each other’s minds.

And there is A HUGE other dimension that awaits you when you ALSO understand all the PARTICULAR realities of women in our society, including their need to appear a certain way because of culture, which means that you as a man better understand it or they will never open up to you.

The first step to getting this ability under your belt is to soak in the MIND BLOWING contents of my SEDUCTION MASTERY APPRENTICHESHIP PROGRAM.

In this program that includes over 10 CDs as well as a comprehensive workbook designed to help you review and integrate everything you learn, I go into full detail on EXACTLY how to become the type of man to which women are universally attracted.

You will find out all about the TRUTH of your inner state and exactly how to develop it to where it needs to be. And of course I go into exactly how to approach women, how to get physical, how to deal with different types of tests that women give men, how to KEEP the attraction burning bright, how to select the right woman, and much, MUCH more.

And it can now be delivered right to your door. It’s at:

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And if you haven’t yet downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, then do that first. Inside, you’ll find plenty of awesome insights that you can start using to meet and attract the women of your choice RIGHT NOW.

It’s at:

The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women

Till next time,
Michael
The Dating Wizard

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Putting It All Together

By the way, yesterday I forgot to include a link to an article some of you might find interesting. In an interview I had with a journalist in the city, I was explaining how you can meet women anywhere, even on transit!

Here it is:

http://www.metronews.ca/column.aspx?id=101614

And now, on to our actual NEWSLETTER!

One of the great things you know from my services and material is that it’s all based on REAL interactions with women, and not just my own, but thousands of other guys of all types. So it’s not just some dude at a word processor.

The interesting thing I notice about a LOT of what is out there in terms of information is that they are often pointing out ONE thing without mentioning the OTHER important factors that are MASSIVELY related. Or, they are totally contradicting themselves. i.e. A guru will be yelling “BE THE ALPHA MALE WHO GRABS THE WOMAN BY HER HAIR and DRAGS HER TO YOUR CAVE” and then the next day he is yelling “GIVE PRAISE TO WOMEN”!

These are the guys who are just throwing everything they can against the wall hoping something will stick.

They are just throwing out half-truths, but never putting it all together because they actually don’t KNOW how to put it all together! The only know how to shout slogans.

I KNOW this field because I EXPERIENCE IT and DO THIS STUFF ALL THE TIME. And I know what it’s like to NOT know this stuff since I had to learn it all myself. So I can truly relate to the guys who are coming at this even at the total newbie stage.

I do this stuff all the time because I PERSONALLY am fascinated by this field, and I believe it is of MASSIVE IMPORTANCE for any good guys out there.

Being successful with women enables good guys to get AWAY from the wrong kind of women, the wrong kind of emotions, and gets them into better situations with better women in better relationships, and all that leads to better lives.

It really is amazing how once you begin to understand attraction in a powerful way, you start to understand the entire mentality of women who are able to attract men which is itself a huge epiphany and discovery.

But it takes learning the FULL TRUTH about how attraction, cultural norms, and trust works, before that epiphany makes itself clear.

For example, you hear about “being yourself” a lot. That is partially TRUE. However, the problem with just telling people to “be their self” is: What if their CURRENT self is a TERRIBLE version of their self? What if their current self has NO IDEA of what it’s like to be MASSIVELY EMPOWERED? What if their current self is IGNORANT about the realities of women? What if their current self is FREAKED OUT by the thought of approaching women or escalating into getting physical?

You see, what the “being yourself” advice REALLY means is to NOT come across to women as some guy putting on an ACT.

Women want to feel they are talking to the REAL YOU. That makes sense doesn’t it? Don’t you hate it when you know someone is just ACTING with you and not being their real self? Doesn’t it feel weird?

And it’s usually very obvious to a woman when a guy is not being his real self. He is usually doing things that are incongruent. i.e. He acts cocky but his body language and tonality say otherwise. Or, because he doesn’t REALLY understand what it means to be a fun cocky guy, he goes overboard and comes across as a total jerk, or total dork, and since women know that there’s no way on earth he would WANT to be coming across as such a clueless dork who can’t get women, then obviously he is ignorant about women and is covering it up with some kind of act.

But being yourself that DOES NOT mean being lazy! FIRST, IMPROVE your understanding of women, your understanding of the social forces acting upon women, learn how to make people and especially women feel GOOD, learn how to assess a social situation and know what is happening, learn what attraction really is, learn how to trigger it, and THEN you can be YOURSELF.

THEN you can be natural because you have IMPROVED yourself so that all that you do now is all “good” stuff which comes naturally without you even thinking about it. The idea about being your real self is about being your OPTIMUM SELF. Then you can be your real self.

And just like how THIS piece of information of “be yourself” or even worse, “be your romantic self” gets thrown about wildly without any context, so too does MOST of the information being published out there lack context. In that sense, it’s almost MISINFORMATION.

Another example of misinformation is the idea of “BEING ALPHA”: Too many guys think this means to act like a total selfish prick. Partially because of gurus who go around bashing anything that is romantic or thoughtful or considerate in the slightest!

But they’re wrong again. For instance, let’s say there are two girls you and a buddy are talking to at a club. And you isolate one of the girls and she’s having a great time with you. Then for some reason she sees her friend and says she needs to get back to her friend.

Now, if you follow the “ALPHA” school of thought, you might basically act like a prick and tell her that you are more important or that she should ignore her friend, or you should try to “caveman” her into not seeing how her friend is doing. Well guess what? All this DEPENDS on a TON of things.

You see, if she CAME with that friend, and you isolated her from her friend, even if you did it with the help of your wingman, it might be that her friend is no longer with your wingman and now has nothing to do. Girls don’t ditch their only girlfriend that fast.

But that’s just the tip of the iceberg- let’s say you can OBVIOUSLY tell that her friend is having a bad day, and let’s say your girl even TELLS you that her friend is having a bad day and it’s obvious she is not telling you a lie from the way her friend seems, it would be STUPID to try to act all “Alpha” and tell her to ignore her friend because of YOU.

THAT is why I keep on saying to be THE MAN. Not the jerk, not the “alpha”, but THE MAN. James Bond would never be a prick to a woman. He is THE MAN.

He has no need to be a prick, to be cruel, or to be thoughtless.

He is also sophisticated enough to know human emotions, and how social forces work, and how to make people feel good, and how to not come across like some clueless savage. He is also confident enough that the woman will SEE this in him, and thus confident enough that she wants him, and will meet him later. And of course, he is not needy for any of this either since there are so many other options available.

Sometimes, the best thing to do really is to just get her number or email and follow up. And by showing your obvious understanding of human emotions and that you have your finger on the pulse of the situation, that in itself makes you seem truly THE MAN, and the superior, more attractive and desirable choice.

And there are tons of other examples of misinformation, such as those who claim “the direct approach” to interacting with women is better than the “indirect approach”. Again, it all DEPENDS on a lot of factors, including who the girl is, her state of mind at the moment, the amount of time you both have at the moment, the environment you both are in, what you are most comfortable with, and a ton of other factors.

The only way to KNOW all of this is from actually learning it from someone who REALLY KNOWS from experience and also you must ACTUALLY PRACTICE to get the skills ingrained.

Finally, there is also a huge deal of confusion over what it actually means to be a guy in CONTROL. Again, this is why I say be THE MAN. Women are looking for men, not “nice guys” or “jerks” as both nice guys and jerks are just flip sides of insecurity. So, for example, if you are in a club and it’s too loud, then by gosh darn’s sake, you’re going to have to learn to talk LOUDER in a way that doesn’t seem like you are straining or stressing yourself out. Or you’re going to have to know a way to get her to a place that’s QUIETER.

And if you are both standing somewhere, you’re going to have to get yourselves both seated if possible, and you’re going to have to do all this in a way that feels natural and fun and not weird.

Don’t expect HER to do all this for you. That’s why you’re A MAN. That’s why she’s attracted to THE MAN. This is the privilege you get in this culture for being A MAN- you get to actually STEER this rollercoaster while she gets to RIDE it. But don’t expect HER to steer. Women are ATTRACTED to men who know how to take control in a way that is FUN like a rollercoaster as opposed to dorks who act like assholes.

There’s a ton of situations where you really have to know HOW to steer, how to navigate your way through. Women want men who KNOW how to steer, who already HAVE the license to drive, so to speak.

If THEY have to be the ones teaching you, they feel like you are NOT the MAN, they feel a bit guilty too because of various social forces, they feel less feminine also if they have to do all this. And finally, they wonder if the reason they have to show you all this is because you really don’t know or if it’s REALLY because you are simply unprepared to risk rejection, which is not cool at all, it’s not the way of The Man.

If you want to learn all the complex dynamics of attracting a woman and taking her through all the stages of the rollercoaster, then it’s best to learn from someone who’s actually “in the ring” on a regular basis and DOES it for real, and knows what he’s talking about so that he can fill in all the CONTEXT that’s missing from what you might be reading elsewhere.

You can now do that in my ONE-ON-ONE bootcamps where I will work exclusively with you in real venues such as clubs, malls, streets, cafes, and even trains and buses.

The bootcamp will get you to where you want to be in the most efficient manner possible. I’ll teach you HOW to deal with all the unpredictable situations that can arise, I’ll show you HOW to deal with challenges such as loud music where it’s difficult to be heard, and HOW to actually isolate girls, HOW to deal with her friends, and of COURSE how to pick up in daytime in places like coffee shops as well.

And you’ll also get to learn how to REALLY create a natural vibe to the whole interaction so that she doesn’t feel weird about meeting you the next time.

I wish somebody could have taught me all this stuff at one shot over a weekend instead of having to learn it piece by piece, from various different guys and from tons of my own mistakes and experiences over YEARS. During those years, it was often like walking blindfolded into the lion’s cage, where I got ripped apart. If you want to avoid the feeling of being punched in from all sides at once, and if you want to learn as fast as possible, I recommend you sign up for the bootcamp as soon as you can.

For the most POWERFUL HOME STUDY PRROGRAM ON EARTH, available at your fingertips 24/7. you owe it to yourself to get my SEDUCTION MASTERY APPRENTICESHIP PROGRAM.

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And if you haven’t downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, then definitely do that IMMEDIATELY. This is a major first step. It’s the launch pad to beginning your journey that will take you into a whole new world with women.

Download it now at:

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Till next time,
Michael
The Dating Wizard

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Disarm And Charm Her

Recently, I was interviewed by a journalist in the city, and I was explaining how ironic it is that in cities with millions of people crammed together, every day in places like public transit, there is still so much loneliness.

There are people EVERYWHERE, and still so many people cannot find someone to love and to be loved by.

People can spend an hour crushed together on a streetcar, train, or bus, and not utter one WORD to each other, and go home alone, night after night, simply because we are living in a culture that is anti-social. It’s okay to watch tv alone for hours or to surf the net alone, but to talk to someone in real life, someone that you don’t know? Heaven forbid, right?

It’s all NONSENSE, though, because the truth is that there are MANY women, many awesome women in fact, who would WELCOME the conversation from you.

The key is to do it RIGHT.

And one of the FIRST things you need to do, to do it right, is to be DISARMING and CHARMING.

Unless you’re talking in a nightclub, where the atmosphere is already very social, when you’re in normal places like the bus or coffee shop, women have been conditioned to be a little cautious for good reasons, after all there are a lot of less than virtuous men out there just as there are a lot of less than virtuous women out there.

So how can you immediately DISARM and CHARM her?

Well, one idea that works is for you to draw upon POSITIVE VIBES that she herself can IMMEDIATELY recognize and feel and relate to.

In the same way you wouldn’t be able to relate to a woman talking to you about the finer applications of lipstick, you shouldn’t expect most women to be identify with demolition derby, star trek, or some obscure Bruce Lee movie. Also, there is no point in starting a conversation with a woman about anything BORING, even if she can relate to it.

You can STILL totally be yourself and disarm her and charm her, and you can do this by playfully bringing up topics that are both INNOCENT and FUNNY, and you can give these topics a flirtatious TWIST.

One idea I love and that works with fantastic consistency, is to bring up TV SHOWS from childhood that chances are you both liked, and then offer a playful sexual perspective on the show, or even a playful perspective on the show from the standpoint of male and female gender roles.

I call it “Innocent Adult Views On Childhood TV!”

It’s important to remember that it must still be INNOCENT, and yet ALSO be ADULT. This is a fine line that most people overlook.

I mean, who CAN’T like The Flintstones? Who CAN’T like Cookie Monster, Oscar the Grouch, and Ernie and Bert???????????????

Okay fine, maybe some people can’t, but I don’t want anything to do with those people, that’s for sure!

If a woman does not “get this”, it immediately screens her OUT, as you don’t want a woman without a sense of humor, or a woman who is bitter and no fun.

So here’s just one EXAMPLE of how “Innocent Adult Views On Childhood TV” works to disarm her and charm her:

“Excuse me, I have a very serious question I need the answer to. Could you help me out?”

(This SERIOUS tonality at the start is done on purpose because it makes it all the more FUNNY when she finds out in about three seconds from the topic that actually this is NOT serious at all!)

So she nods to you, or says, “Ok sure”, etc.

You then go on with:

“See, I was wondering, if you were to choose one of the two, would you marry Fred Flintstone or Barney Rubble? This is very serious.”

As she starts to crack a smile, you keep a straight face and give her a sec to answer.

If she laughs, you continue to let her know this is very important and serious and that you need the answer.

If she then says that she would choose Fred, you tell her “Oh man, this would never work out with you and me, Fred is far too normal, goes to work every day, very reliable good guy, far too much pressure for me. I’m more of a Barney Rubble type dude, I just go for a drive in the morning but don’t actually work anywhere, and I need a woman like Betty who is more cool and who can help me in my underground illegal businesses!”

Chances are, she WILL be laughing by now, and that is not only because this stuff is funny, but because the MEMORIES of childhood and of that show are triggering POSITIVE EMOTIONS in her, and it’s hard to view you as a THREAT if you are being associated in her mind with Barney or Fred or the Flintstones.

By the way, if she says she would choose Barney, you could high-five her and tell her she is SUCH a cool girl. (Totally over exaggerate, which only HEIGHTENS the humor because even though she knows you are kidding, it still feels GOOD for her, since she feels, even if just playfully, that she EARNED this respect because of her choice, she didn’t just get this high-five for nothing, but rather because of her great taste in choosing a man- BARNEY RUBBLE! People appreciate what they EARN!)

And you could then go on to tell her why she is so cool, because she is like Betty, who was cool with Barney not having a real job all day and that you plan to do the same thing and just watch TV all day!

Then you can add the final kicker and say that you two are TOTALLY GETTING MARRIED asap!

She will NOT think you are needy, she will KNOW you are being playful.

So there, all at once, you have DISARMED her, and you have CHARMED her.

This is just ONE example, there about a BILLION other versions that you could create, (and you could make them even MORE powerful by incorporating into your examples all the OTHER skills I teach in my programs and materials.)

The first key to remember is to use something from CHILDHOOD TV, something that is FAMOUS so that she ALREADY is very familiar with it so that you don’t have to waste time explaining all the details. You want her to GET IT immediately, so it’s key you use something that she will KNOW.

The second key to remember about this idea is to give the whole discussion an ADULT twist.

The third key is to remember to NOT GO OVERBOARD with the adult twist. In other words, KEEP IT ALL INNOCENT. I see so many guys going wayyyyyy too far into the land of the VULGAR and that totally RUINS the whole effect, the whole point of the idea in the first place.

And remember to be CONGRUENT with your own personality. If you never watched the Flintstones, then don’t use that example. There are so many shows that you could choose from, it’s ridiculous. And the truth is that it doesn’t even have to be TV. It could be some kind of popular SNACK that was famous for kids back when you were a child.

Maybe the snack came with some really LAME gift, or some offer for a free gift if you sent in about a “thousand” proofs of purchase, (exaggerate for effect) that at the time seemed REALLY cool, that you could discuss and twist in playful way. For example, you could tell her that you only like adventurous girls, and that you are looking for a partner in crime, to steal the toys from the cereal boxes in the supermarket. And you can tease her that she is too much of a wuss to be up for it, etc. Or you can tease her that you know she would do it for some prize from the Strawberry Shortcake cereal!

From there, now that you have her disarmed and charmed, it’s going to be MUCH easier to get into rapport with her and to get into a real conversation of getting to know each other, now that you both have your “guard” down.

You’ve displayed guts, humor, charm, and you’ve taken her into a receptive state of mind.

Get the idea? It’s gold, and I guarantee you IT WORKS.

And if you would like to learn ALL THE AWESOME WAYS in which you could TURBO-BOOST your success with women, then you owe it to yourself to take advantage of my products and services:

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Till next time,
Michael
The Dating Wizard

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***QUESTION FROM A READER***

Mike,

Thanks for your informative news letters. They are bar none, one of the BEST out there. Period. I have learned a LOT of stuff from just your newsletter ALONE.

Less than a handful of truly enlightened and qualified men are able to give real, useful, and practical advice like you do. I always recommend your products to anyone I know.

My question for you is:

What do you say to guys who are convinced that learning the skills of attraction and seduction, are ‘dumb’, and the only advice you need is to ‘just to do it” and “don’t think about it.”

How can you get through to these block headed morons?

Thanks.

Perry G.

***MY REPLY***

First of all thanks for the props on the content, it’s important to me to always offer the BEST. No marketing gimmicks, no manipulation or preying on people’s fears. Just the BEST INSIGHTS and dating wisdom around, period.

Ok, so let’s address the claim from some guys to “just do it” and “don’t think about it”.

In my absolute dedication to complete truth, I will first explain where this whole view comes from. On one hand, ACTION is usually better than NO action, so doing something is usually better than NOTHING. A lot of guys will just stand there and LOOK at a woman but not actually do anything.

However, sometimes, action without wisdom IS worse than doing nothing!

And that’s because you can REINFORCE negative emotions and a negative self-concept that RUINS your confidence, if you don’t know what you are doing while trying to meet a woman, pick-up a woman, or date a woman.

Not only that, but if you are doing the WRONG things, you can end up attracting the WRONG kind of woman, who will make you regret the day you were BORN.

If a guy is not VERY INFORMED, he is opening himself up to abuse and to attracting the WRONG WOMAN, which is FAR WORSE than having no woman at all, because he will be ignorant to her games and will be emotionally manipulated until his self-esteem is left into a bloody pulp.

Also, if a guy decides to be ignorant and “just do it” and if he never puts any thought into the deeper levels of this stuff, including his own inner beliefs about the world, about women, about relationships, etc, then he will FOR SURE NOT END UP WITH THE KIND OF SITUATION HE WANTS.

There’s an old saying that says, “If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll probably end up somewhere else.” And it’s completely true.

I’d like to give an example of what I’m talking about, something that is CRUCIAL to know, yet most people don’t even know EXISTS. In other words, something that people who take the “don’t think about it” approach would totally never ever figure out.

One of the most important parts of “picking up a woman” begins WAY BEFORE you even step out of the house.

What I’m talking about is DETERMINING and CREATING your own VALUE-SYSTEM. You will attract that which you ARE. And you ARE what you THINK and DO.

You will REAP WHAT YOU SOW, and what you SOW includes the seeds you have sewn in your OWN MIND before you even BEGIN to say a word to any woman.

So, for example, if you believe that the ONLY way a woman can treat you well is if you PLAY GAMES with her, then you are SETTING UP a very fragile environment for yourself and for her. It is fragile because there can be no high level of TRUST in such a situation.

From the very get go, your interaction from the first time you meet her will be laced with confusion, because on one hand you will feel attraction, on the other hand you will always feel you need to guard yourself because of your fear that she will not treat you well unless you play games with her, such as always making it clear she is not all that important to you and that you are not that interested, etc.

Now, let’s say this woman IS a game player, then you have now only REINFORCED her belief that games are necessary, so now you are REINFORCING a reality in your own life where you will have to play games as well.

And, even if she is the kind of woman who HATES playing games, you are now making her feel that since you clearly are not someone she can totally trust unless she plays games as well, so that will MAKE HER BECOME MORE OF A “GAME PLAYER” herself.

Also, if you TRULY BELIEVE games are necessary, then all women will be put into the same category in your mind, including the women who really are showing you that they are NOT the same as other women, who are NOT “game players”, etc. You will be unable to see the truth, you will think “she is just a good faker” etc etc.

On the other hand, if you believe that a woman being a good person does NOT require you to manipulate her, then you will be able to SCREEN OUT the compatible women from the ones who are not, because you will KNOW that compatible ones EXIST. And not only that, but because YOU will be behaving in a way that is NOT requiring games of yourself, THIS IN ITSELF may have a VERY STRONG IMPACT even on the women who USED TO THINK that games WERE necessary. Because you will be that rare and hence make a powerful impact.

There is soooo much more on this topic, but in these newsletters I can barely scratch the surface. Still though, I think you can see that your beliefs are CRUCIAL and not only that, but also that you can CHANGE your beliefs if you just realize that a lot of the beliefs you have now may have been the result of INCORRECT INFO that you were given by others.

Now, some guys might take all this to mean that if dating is not about playing games, then there is nothing to learn, right?

NOPE, because in fact, in a world where men and women are BRAINWASHED to NOT be themselves, you have to learn how to GET THROUGH ALL THEIR FAKE SUPERFICIAL behaviours, and how to GET THROUGH THEIR FEARS, and reach the REAL PERSON BEHIND the mask.

Plus, you need to learn how to bring out your SELF from all those masks that YOU have been conditioned to wear as well.

It’s important to realize that all this stuff is mostly NOT CONSCIOUS, for men, and for women.

So it’s really important that YOU learn it ALL, so that SOMEONE in the interaction is more aware of the full picture and can thus lead the interaction in the right direction. So for example, if a woman does something, you will UNDERSTAND what she REALLY MEANT.

You will know the difference between a comment she said or an action that she did that was made out of fear, and a comment she said that was made out of nastyness. You will be able to thus screen out the wrong women and keep the right women IN your world so that you can learn more about them and if they are for you or not.

Also, LEARNING about how attraction works on the highest levels will enable you to BEST convey who YOU are to a woman, and will also teach you how to develop the kind of connection with a woman that is normally the kind of thing so powerful that most people think it’s only the stuff of FANTASY when in reality it can be ACHIEVED IN REAL LIFE.

Sometimes, it’s a matter of a SUBTLE distinction that makes all the difference in the world, such as knowing how to make a tease in a way that is LOVING and not MALICIOUS. This is a huge topic by the way, because it’s amazing how many guys still think that teasing is about being mean but coating it with sugar, as if women were so stupid and couldn’t tell the difference.

Sometimes, it’s not something subtle at all, it’s MAJOR, such as knowing which issues are a matter of taste and you should thus be flexible on, and knowing which matters are truly matters of principle, and you must stand and not budge no matter how tough it is for you to do so. And you will find that very often, a woman actually shares those values but it’s not easy in our society to stand up for those values as they are so rare, and so she will only end up cherishing you more and you will both be bonded on a higher level.

And if a woman does not share those values, then at least you will save yourself years of wasted time trying to make something work that was doomed from the beginning.

This is a HUUUUUUUGE topic, and only those who take the road of KNOWLEDGE will benefit.

So DEFINITELY, taking the “not thinking” strategy for one’s dating life is as foolish as getting onto the SPACE SHUTTLE and not knowing anything about how to fly it, but figuring that pressing any buttons buttons or flipping switches is better than doing nothing.

Such a philosophy of “no thinking” clearly is absurd, and we can see just how horrifying the results of this are by taking a glimpse at the society around us, and at the celebrities that most people worship. And I’m not just talking about things like divorce.

Knowledge is power. Wisdom is power.

And if you would like to POSESS this power, and this wisdom, for the benefit of yourself AND for the benefit of any potentially great woman you meet in the future, you owe it to yourself to get the FULL PICTURE with my SEDUCTION MASTERY APPRENTICESHIP PROGRAM.

This special 10 CD Set (containing over 10 hours of CREAM OF THE CROP insights) and Guide Book is the result of YEARS of experience helping thousands of guys to not only MEET AND ATTRACT the women they want in all types of situations, but also helping them to KEEP things going awesome LONG-TERM as well.

To order this special program immediately, go to:

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What you read in these newsletters is a GREAT start, and yet I assure you, it’s just the TIP of the iceberg compared to the FULL PICTURE that you will get in my premium materials, programs, and services.

Till next time,
Michael
The Dating Wizard

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The Energy Back Method Of Attraction

I’d like to share something really powerful for attracting a woman, and it’s something that does not require any “pick-up lines” or anything fake at all. And when I say “not at all” I really mean it, as you’re going to see.

Before being able to use this, there’s one thing you need to do: You need to at least temporarily surrender any negative thoughts you might have about women. No matter how tough your past has been, you have to be willing to at least for a few minutes put all that on hold.

Okay, with that agreed upon, let’s move on:

The next time you see a woman you’d like to meet, I want you to first simply ENJOY the sight of her.

Let yourself get WASHED OVER in that emotion.

The idea that feeling attraction for a woman is somehow something that is a sign of “weakness” is hogwash.

There is no reason on earth that feeling attraction should be something that has to be masked.

The only thing that you have to control is the thing called “fear.”

But there is nothing to fear here, because you don’t have to DO anything except ENJOY.

Don’t tell yourself that you have to take action, or anything like that. Just ENJOY.

I want you to let it soak in, the full effect. If you do this right, if you just allow yourself to be a man and simply feel that attraction, you will feel a combination of several different states.

You will feel energized. You will feel a sense of calm at the same time. You will feel a certain definiteness of purpose.

Now, I want you to think the following thought: What would I FEEL and DO right now if I knew that this woman LOVED me?

This is very different from “What would I do to minimize rejection here?” It’s very different also from “How do I make sure to GET her?”

The question you must ask yourself is: “What would I FEEL and DO right now if I knew that this woman LOVES me???”

The emotions you would be experiencing would be simply wanting to RETURN that warm, positive, empowering emotional energy BACK to her.

It’s simply the natural thing to want to do if you know this. It’s a FEELING you would have that would totally imbue your voice and mannerisms with all the right subtleties to give off the message of “I am simply GIVING YOU great VIBES, for FREE.”

The reality is that no cool guy on earth ever starts a convo with a woman with taking anyway. It’s a conversation first, and if it feels right, if it’s fun, then it leads to a mutual desire to follow up with a number, etc.

It really doesn’t MATTER what you even say once you GET THIS combination of emotional states, it FILTERS every damn word you say in the PERFECT way so that it somehow DOES sound like the perfect thing.

This is what “naturals” do – they don’t think in terms of “lines”, they simply FEEL and then reflect those vibes back. The key is that they are feeling GOOOD!

If you FEEL it, you don’t need to have LINES memorized. In the same way when you feel massive anger, or massive confidence, or massive pleasure, you never need someone else to give you “lines” to express yourself, you also will never need lines when you are FEELING it in your bones. That EMOTION will FUEL your brain so powerfully that your brain will AUTOMATICALLY concoct all the right words, and more importantly, it will create the PERFECT DELIVERY.

The reason why this all works is because it’s REAL, it’s not faked. Women can tell when you are faking, no matter how brilliant your lines are. And if you are not faking, then even if you do happen to use “lines” but your emotion is real, then the lines might still work, but it’s not because of the lines, and the lines are not necessary.

This is why I say you need to first totally ENJOY everything about her, the way she looks, the way she sounds, whatever it is about her that grabs you.

Remember, that emotional impact is heightened when you are totally congruent (consistent) to your message. Give up all the negative emotions, give up the fears, just let that stuff GO, because you can’t feel the JOY and the fear at the same time. It’s up to you, what you want in your life.

If you feel fear and negativity or anger or hatred or self-loathing, you will give THAT feeling to her. Instead, just enjoy what you experience when you see her, and let GO of all the other stuff.

And as far as “rejection” goes, the truth is that THE IDEA of rejection comes from the concept that our identity is based on what others think of us. The truth though, is that this is simply a fallacy.

It’s so absurd, and in fact in real life the most successful people in every field have a super strong FRAME OF REALITY and a frame of THEMSELVES that no matter what anyone ELSE said, it didn’t change their own perception of their selves.

From the likes of actors like Stallone to business geniuses like Bill Gates, they were all told they were “dreaming” and that they were not in REALITY.

But each one of these guys KNEW who he really WAS and never let their passion DIE, until finally it became super damn clear that in fact their vision was bang-on, and in fact they WERE who they said they were.

If you are going to allow thoughts of what a woman THINKS about you, to stop you from approaching her, it just means that you have a very weak concept of who you are.

And I know what that feels like, as I lived that hell for many years. But the great news is that it doesn’t have to BE that way. You can RECLAIM your identity as your own, forever, and it can all start right NOW.

It all starts with baby steps, so the first thing to do is to go out and allow yourself to enjoy the sight of a woman. Don’t feel you have to approach her so that you GET an email, number or date, etc. Don’t be attached to external changes. Rather, just feel the joy and then simply REFLECT that energy back to her, for no reason other than it FEELS good to do so! It’s very primal to want to do this anyway- as when humans feel something, they always want to let others feel the same thing.

Simply give her all that ENERGY BACK!

And the great news is that you’ll find that this will ALSO give you far greater results than getting all caught up in “tactics” and in “getting things” from women.

And if you’d like to get the most powerful CHANGES in your life in this area, it’s time you got yourself live coaching via my Real World Bootcamp, where I will rebuild you from the inside out, so that your mind and emotions work on a totally new level with women. You will not be in a classroom, you will be in the real world where women are, from coffee shops to bookstores to lounges. I will be coaching you in real time, using years of experience to keep you on track at all times, from the initial walk-up all the way to building a connection and getting her contact info.

This isn’t about controlling women, it’s about becoming the man you were born to be and the kind of man that women naturally gravitate toward.

And if you haven’t done so already, then make sure to get yourself a copy of my Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship CD program – this is a home study program where I show you how to harness the power of your most charismatic emotions, so that you can naturally unleash humor, charm, and dominance without relying on artificial “tactics”.

You can get it right now at: Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program.

And if you are just starting out, then download my eBook now- it’s filled with easy-to-use ideas for meeting and attracting more women and is a great introduction to my programs.

It’s at:

The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women

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