How To Develop Your Inner And Outer Game
April 30, 2008 | Leave a Comment
When it comes to the skill and the game of being good with women, you really are only as strong as your weakest link.
And for most guys, their weakest link comes once they FALL for a girl. The typical dude gives a woman FAR TOO MUCH power over HIS sense of self-worth.
If the guy WAS cool, strong, playful, cocky, sexual, and compelling before, all of a sudden he LOSES these cool traits after he falls for her. He doesn’t want to “mess up” so he starts walking on eggshells. And when this combines with the moment that she also suddenly doesn’t seem to be “in” to him, it forms the “perfect storm” to destroy his self-concept.
The guy has placed so much of his sense of the meaning of his LIFE onto her liking him, that his emotional reality sits on a very fragile foundation.
It’s easier to have “great game” when everything is going GREAT with a woman OR when you have NOTHING invested emotionally in a woman, i.e. the beginning of the “courtship”. But once you begin to get emotionally involved, things can get hazy if she plays you for a sucker and you haven’t got a solid sense of your value, including a sense that you are desirable to women.
So if she’s putty in your hands, if she’s all over you and complimenting you and giving you mind-blowing sex, or if she immediately opens up into a warm smile upon you starting a conversation with her, well it’s pretty easy to be confident, sexual, and in such a great state that you are resourceful to be witty, playful, funny, and chilled out with pep.
And definitely KNOWING how to get results with women is a huge thing.
The PROBLEM is when something goes WRONG. Even if you are at an advanced level of success, things don’t always go perfectly. But if you are a beginner, you are more needy for results since you have less reference points for past successes that make you feel confident.
So when you get less than the result you were looking for, it can temporarily stun your self-esteem, and this throws a massive monkey-wrench into the works, into the entire emotional machinery of your “inner game”. It ruins your game.
And then all of a sudden, all the ATTRACTIVE behaviors will suddenly seem foreign and not natural for you. They will seem a billion miles away from what you really feel like. You lose your “mojo” as they say.
The reason for this is because ATTRACTION is about VALUE. When you, on a deep level, FEEL that you have MASSIVE SEXUAL VALUE to a woman, you then BEHAVE that way subconsciously. You don’t even have to THINK about it. You also naturally feel more sexual, and it comes across in the infinite subtleties in your communication. You are, being CONGRUENT to the things that scream out “SEXUAL VALUE” on EVERY channel of communication, from your body language to your tonality to your facial expression, in the most subtle yet powerful of ways (as the most powerful communication IS subtle, it’s NEVER direct).
And so the switch goes on in a woman’s EMOTIONS that you are DESIRABLE.
So the question is, what do you do when you are NOT getting the EXTERNAL results in the real world? And a related question is, what do you do when you are doing well, but then something happens that MUCKS UP your whole inner game?
THIS is where guys get screwed over. Even guys that are doing GREAT with a woman, the woman eventually ends up either on purpose testing the guy, or accidentally testing the guy, by doing something that SHAKES up his reality, shakes up his confident perspective. Something that makes him feel needy. And then, most guys turn into submissive, non-sexual, (when you feel inferior, it dampens your sexual vibes) needy, ass-kissing, vacuums that sucks away energy from everyone, especially the women they are interested in.
The guy turns into a nervous wreck, or he becomes an angry guy (not cool either) or he becomes awkward, stilted, etc.
I have an ANSWER for you for what to do:
DON’T GIVE IN TO THE TEMPTATION to act upon your neediness or desperation or lack of confidence.
Write a HUGE NOTE to yourself on your arm if you have to in order to remind yourself, but WHATEVER you do, do NOT give in to the weakness.
EMBRACE THE PAIN, BUT DO NOT GIVE IN to your weak emotions.
The challenge in doing this is that when you are feeling NEEDY, it is an EMOTION. And like I always say, emotions feel more true than facts. So at that moment, you feel that your neediness is REAL, and that it is permanent, and that you SHOULD kiss up!!!!!!!!! Or that you SHOULD be submissive. Or that you SHOULD be needy!
But these are just your emotions playing Jedi mind tricks with you. They are the dark side of the force trying to get you to cave in to being a wuss-bag.
Just like in weightlifting, if you want to PASS your threshold, you have to EMBRACE the temporary pain of that last rep and go for squeezing out one more rep no matter the pain, and you will then grow STRONGER, similarly if you want to grow STRONGER internally, you have to RESIST that emotional b.s. your mind is throwing at you. If you feel like your world is ending because of some chick, EMBRACE THE PAIN but do not cave in and do not act upon that neediness.
You will find, that just like in weightlifting, your emotional muscles will GROW stronger, and within 24-48 hours you will already notice a difference. The thing is, unlike your body, your MIND and EMOTIONS are virtually INFINITE in how powerful they can get with training.
And of COURSE, by NOT giving in to your weak emotions, and by NOT acting like a wuss, a woman’s attraction for you will SKYROCKET. So no matter what “test” or whatever she did, she will ZOOM to you even STRONGER than before by very virtue of the fact you proved your superior value to her in the face of emotional PRESSURE - it is the PROOF that you are indeed desirable otherwise you would have crumbled and caved in.
(And this idea of superiority is not about being MEAN, it’s about exuding as much EXCELLENCE as possible, through the channels of EMOTION. It’s no different than how a woman for example may dress and behave her BEST, to MAKE AS POWERFUL an impact as POSSIBLE. Those are HER tools, whereas your BEHAVIOR is YOUR way of creating impact. Do you think a woman tries to make LESS of an impact than her best, do you think she, or ANYONE, feels it’s “wrong” for her to be SO MASSIVELY SEXY???? Of course, the answer is no, and so likewise, there is nothing wrong with YOU exuding the maximum impact as well.)
So let’s say a woman tries to make you JEALOUS but you don’t act on that jealousy, she will ONLY think that you must be THAT MUCH MORE SUPERIOR if you didn’t act or even get jealous.
THIS is the meaning of being a MAN.
There’s also something ELSE you can do, to help SKYROCKET your inner game.
You can learn to become AWARE of just WHAT THE HECK is going on internally in your mind so that you can actually REALIZE how ridiculous these emotions are EVEN while these emotions are trying to attack you!
This is just ONE of the things that Seduction Mastery Programкомпютри will show you how to MASTER in DEPTH.