Your Style, Emotion And Sexual Security
July 26, 2007 | Leave a Comment
It’s been a while since I’ve had the chance to put together a new newsletter. The honest truth is that I’ve been massively busy putting in 12-hour days taking guys from all over the world and systematically training them to become skilled at every aspect of attraction from the initial walk-up to a girl all the way to getting physical.
The good thing though about being someone who actually must prove this stuff in person week in and week out, is that it makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD when it comes to getting you results.
And best of all, all this will NOT require you to depend on routines or lines or gimmicks. Rather, my training will turn you into a guy who can’t HELP but attract the highest caliber women.
Ok, and on that note, let’s GET to some IMPORTANT stuff:
1. STYLE, CLOTHING, AND ACCESSORIES
You know, it’s AMAZING the power of style, which includes everything from the way you dress, your hairstyle, your clothing, your accessories, even the way you decorate your room.
But for now, let me focus on how you actually present your PHYSICAL self through clothing and accessories.
I find it BIZARRE as heck that guys will not take ADVANTAGE of the fact that we are living in a society that ALLOWS you to dress HOWEVER THE HECK YOU WANT!!!!
I mean, this is CRAZY powerful. You have no CLUE how powerful. When I was in these private strict schools as a kid, they DIDN’T LET US where what we wanted.
There was a REASON for this, and it’s because they wanted to QUASH independence of thought, they wanted to QUASH the POWER of emotion that can be released through COOL style.
Clothing and your grooming and style is 99% of what people SEE on you!
You can CONTROL 99% of the visual!
Doesn’t it make SENSE to USE this power????
Listen, I’m not telling you to go dress up as BATMAN, or SPIDERMAN, but the fact is that YOU can have the exact SAME EFFECT psychologically on others just as in the reality of movies and comic books, the COSTUME of the hero makes MASSIVE PSYCHOLOGICAL IMPACT.
Women do this in REALITY all the time!!!! Have you ever seen the SAME woman in two different hairstyles, clothing styles, accessories, boots/shoes, and she looked TOTALLY DIFFERENT?
I HAVE, and I can swear to you, it’s unbelievable.
As a man, you can still be TOTALLY masculine and learn to use the power of STYLE and clothing and accessories to do a MULTITUDE of things.
You can use it to enhance the SEXUAL vibe you are oozing.
You can use it to enhance your looks.
You can use it to ooze the vibe that you are not seeking approval from anyone.
You can use it to ooze PLAYFUL and FUN vibes.
And a lot more, as well.
For me to go into all the details of style would be beyond the scope of a newsletter, but AWARENESS is still a huge thing as well, so you now KNOW this is CRUCIALLY important.
When you go out shopping, go to AS MANY DIFFERENT STORES AS POSSIBLE. See what is out there, and get OUT of your comfortable rut, if you are in one. If you always go to the same store and get the same clothing, then go to TEN TOTALLY DIFFERENT STORES than what you are normally used to.
And if you feel WEIRD in a different store/style, first ask yourself if that is simply because the clothing you are currently “comfortable” in is really “you”, or is it the “you” that you have been CONDITIONED to accept? Does your clothing right now “fit in” real well to your environment in a BORING way? How would you dress if you felt AWESOME? If you wanted to REFLECT that GREAT vibe OUTWARDS TO THE WORLD?
And by the way, this doesn’t mean to OVERDRESS either. And in fact, there are times when I dress very casually, when the situation CALLS for it. For example, in the interview you can see on my site at Naked News, I dressed casually for obvious reasons. You have to use your head and think about the environment, and where you are going, and what the vibe is there, and who you are going to be speaking with, and you have to think about your role in that situation.
There is soooo much more on the topic of style/clothing/accessories, which of I cover in depth in my advanced materials, so for now, let’s move on:
2. THE ROLE OF EMOTION IN PICK-UP
Although EVERY ASPECT of success when it comes to attraction, pick-up, and powerful emotional connection, ALL boils down to creating emotions, including of course the role of clothing and accessories and style mentioned above, what I ESPECIALLY am referring to here is the INITIAL BLAST you have to make when STARTING the interaction with a total stranger.
Although you don’t want to SHOCK a woman or scare her in that first second you say something to her, so for that reason it’s often good to starting for a brief instant with something that is impossible for her to feel weird about, you must however VERY SOON GET HER FEELING GOOD EMOTIONS, otherwise she will start to THINK.
A woman THINKING is a bad thing, when it comes to the first few moments of PICK-UP.
You see, once she starts THINKING about the whole thing, her CULTURALLY enforced conditioning kicks in, and that condition says DO NOT MAKE IT OBVIOUS THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN GETTING PICKED UP.
Even if she wants to get picked up. She feels she MUST act hard to get. It’s her duty as a woman.
However, if she is FEELING GOOD EMOTIONS, she will not be thinking very much at all. She can’t think of you BADLY since you are in fact making her feel GOOD. It’s as simple as that.
You ever have that with a girl? Where you were a bit pissed at her, and you wanted to be mad at her, and then she starts touching you, kissing you, and you start to forget why you were pissed 
Of course, if she did something REALLY bad to you, you would not change your mood, but if it was something small and you know you have done things too, you WILL forget and not even care. It’s the same thing here, the woman at first is conditioned to think that PICK UP IS BAD! But if deep down, you are making her feel good, she FORGETS all that crap and just wants to KEEP GETTING MORE OF THAT GOOD FEELING with you!
Most guys when they start an interaction with a woman they want to pick-up, the mistake they are making is that they are coming in to the whole conversation in a way that allows the woman to THINK.
Much better to get her LAUGHING. Laughter is an emotion.
To be honest, I’ve used all kinds of emotions besides laughter, and they all work, from intrigue to shock, but the thing is LAUGHTER is something that I think we all need more of, and ALSO laughter, or even just feeling good, is in my experienced opinion a fantastic link to the sexual state. So you don’t need to get a woman laughing hard, but just feeling good and chuckling can be just as powerful and sometimes even more so.
If you COMBINE getting her laughing with ALSO coming across in a way that oozes your VALUE and CONFIDENCE, you are hitting her brain up with FEELING good and also with FEELING ATTRACTION to you, which work TOTALLY TOGETHER IN ALL KINDS OF AWESOME WAYS.
This is one reason why PLAYFULLY, (and NOT maliciously) teasing a girl is so powerful. It gets her laughing, and it shows you are not walking on glass or putting her on a pedestal, and yet you are in a way treating her special still, because she instinctively FEELS (not THINKS, but FEELS) this is actually a cool guy hitting on her, so it’s kind of a compliment at the same time to her, because he IS showing he is interested by this!
In Dating Wizards mentorship program, Michael W explain in depth exactly how to develop this sense of humor so that you can come up with it INSTINCTIVELY.
And also, remember, ANY powerful and cool emotion will work. So for example, if you notice something about the situation or what the woman is wearing where you can honestly give an INTRIGUING perspective that will get her emotional, it’s just as cool. The only difference is that you have to make sure to then shift to sexual state in a few minutes or you can get stuck in the opening stage of the conversation where all you are is a friend. So you just CHANGE GEARS, and you let your tonality slow-w-w down and become more sexual and “kinesthetic” and your expression and thoughts actually change. She instinctively senses all this, and it helps lead her into this state as well.
And IF during the first couple of minutes of the interaction, while you are keeping things FUN and EMOTIONALLY driven, all the while you are still being MASCULINE, IF she tries to shut you down with any comment such as “Are you crazy?” or “Do you do this to all the girls?” the SOLUTION is NOT to answer her logically, the solution is to GET HER FEELING as opposed to thinking.
If you respond to her “shit test” with a logical answer, you are keeping her in “thinking” mode. MOST OF THE TIME, the girl is NOT really meaning what she is saying, (unless you really came across badly making tons of “newbie” mistakes) she is simply doing her thing out of reflex conditioning. And she has a reflex response to ALL the “thinking logical answers” you can give, as she’s had lots of practice with that. What she DOESN’T have is a way to fight EMOTION. So you can ignore her statement and just say anything interesting or funny, or you could answer her statement, but in a way that gets her LAUGHING.
i.e. She asks: “Are you crazy?” Your response, said with a playful smirk: “What makes you so crazy about guys that are crazy?”
OR She says: “Is that a line you use on all the girls?”
Your response, smiling and oblivious as if she just said she loves you: “Did you see the two girls fighting outside over the guy with the pink pants????!! The whole group looked like a cartoon, the girls were wearing purple pants with red stripes and they looked like twins! I do want the orange shirt though.”
BOMBARD with emotional stimulation: Laughter, color, intrigue, adrenaline, drama.
You don’t have to do this for long, just enough to blast through the initial few moments/minutes.
But the thing is, once you yourself start to get the hang of this, you suddenly start to realize that you have been experiencing the world in dull lifelessness, and that NOW you are actually enjoying the full INTENSITY of emotion yourself. And THIS makes you add so much more VIBE to EVERYTHING you do, including even when it’s time to go into “a real conversation”. You can actually learn how to make the rapport and deeper connection stage of the interaction MEANINGFUL and emotionally relevant for both of you in a natural way.
In other words: YOU YOURSELF MUST BE IN A SEXUAL, UPBEAT, CONFIDENT, DOMINANT, PLAYFUL STATE, and you adjust these different aspects of your states much like you might do with an graphic equalizer on a stereo, as you the pick-up unfolds.
And to do all this, you CAN’T BE THINKING TOO MUCH, you instead must be FEELING, you have to BE in state.
The irony of much of this “game” of attraction is that at first, you have to think about things to become aware of what you are doing wrong and to realize that you have to STOP thinking so much and to develop new habits that focus FEELING the vibe and being in a specific combination of great states.
But again, to pull this off, you have to BE FEELING, and not focusing on THINKING. When I am training guys live in person, I will give them feedback and correct things, but I will also go for long stretches where I will hold back feedback until later, because I want a guy to get the MOMENTUM OF EMOTION behind him, and he can’t do that if every second I am giving him logical feedback and he has to keep on THINKING.
Meanwhile, I am taking careful observation so when it comes time for feedback, I can make it as useful as possible.
So, before you go out to pick-up any women, definitely, think about what you should be doing, get the insights, and have a general game-plan.
But then, once you leave your home and you are out there chatting to women, it’s time to let that stuff go and let whatever was absorbed do it’s thing, and then SHUT OFF all thinking and instead focus on just being in the right STATE.
And as far as the best ways to do THAT, that is another huge topic, but for now just realize that you DON’T WANT to be there trying to do pick-up while running a list of things in your head that you think you should be doing for success with this woman, as if you were a robot.
It doesn’t work that way.
3. WOMEN AS SEXUAL BEINGS
It’s important also to FULLY realize that women are JUST as sexual as men, the MAIN difference is that women tend to not be as OVERT about in the initial interaction and pick-up.
But you have to REALIZE that women don’t need to be as overt about it to STILL BE MASSIVELY INTERESTED in you.
Now, don’t get the wrong idea and think that every woman is trying to jump you, but what I AM saying is that if a woman is being OPEN to your pick-up, if she is smiling a lot, if she is TRYING to help you along once you pass the “shit tests”, and YES, women often DO try to help you, once you have attracted them, they will often HELP you pick them up, by providing excuses to keep the convo up, by trying to contribute to the convo, etc.
This is one of the reasons why I am against relying on “conversation tactics” because if you REALLY do a great job in the first couple of minutes, then the woman now WANTS to chat with you! And if the guy does a bad job of the initial interaction, and she still doesn’t want to talk to the guy after a couple of minutes, then NO conversation tactic in the world will help the guy.
A lot of this entire thing called “attraction” happens in a MICROSECOND. A TON of things are all happening at ONCE.
You need to get all THIS stuff right. This stuff will go a MASSIVE way to solving tons of what would otherwise be “issues” down the process of the “courtship”.
And if all that stuff that has to be done properly in the first INSTANT and first few moments is NOT done, then it’s usually too late and the guy would be better off just going to the next woman and doing it right with HER. And that might even get the first woman interested again.
What IS important besides the initial “attraction burst” is not “conversational tactics” but rather a deep understanding of the elements of bonding and connection and rapport. Then use that understanding to apply it in its own way to each conversation, as each conversation will be slightly different, as each woman is slightly different.
But getting back to the crucial point that women are MASSIVELY sexual beings, you should be able to read the basic signals- not the crazy stuff you see out there about “decoding women’s signs of interest in you” but rather from that look in her eyes, that smile, that tone in her voice, you can tell it ALL. It’s important that you pick up on these signals, because women will not scream it out to you. Of course, once you get attuned to it, it WILL seem like she IS screaming it out to you, figuratively speaking.
4. WHEN OTHER GUYS HIT ON “YOUR GIRL”
I just had to include this as I’ve seen this so often at clubs where people have stuff like bachelorette parties or birthday parties, etc. Often, groups of friends go out, and the guy and his girlfriend are out at the club with their friends. Sometimes, it’s impossible to know who’s single and who’s not in these environments, and who’s who’s fiancée, etc. It’s a social environment and people are socializing.
Anyway, what I notice often happens, is that the guy who’s the boyfriend/fiancée or whatever, he comes up to the girl when he seems some guy chatting to her, and HE immediately gets all clingy, kissing her, hugging her, and basically TOTALLY REACTING to the idea of some guy chatting to his girlfriend. Now, I can understand this, but I can also say that it’s totally the wrong move. The guy is NOT being natural, he would NOT have kissed her and acted all huggy, he simply did it out of sudden insecurity.
I notice that NONE of these times, does the GIRL inititate the kissing, hugging, and the sudden clinginess. This doesn’t mean the girl is not in love with her boyfriend, it doesn’t mean she is a terrible person, but it DOES mean that she felt no need for it, whereas HE did. Why? Because HE is insecure at that point, not her.
And acting out of insecurity is never cool. What happens is he actually LOSES attraction from the girl, PLUS she will USE this in the future when she wants to get her way with him. Since she knows he will “LOVE HER MORE” when he feels INSECURE, she will know that she just has to make him insecure and or jealous and she will get her way.
Much better to instead, come over and tease her playfully. Tell the guy who was chatting to her that she is “such a pain in the ass!”. And then, the best thing after saying this would be to give her a devlish look and playfully spank her ass!
THIS says all the right vibes, it says that you noticed some guy was talking to her, and that you came over because you are “her man”, but it ALSO says that you are SECURE and TOTALLY confident that she loves you and values you. And it also heightens the sexual tension just the right amount.
THAT will get HER laughing and shocked at the same time, and is much more likely to lead to HER getting all clingy and kissy and huggy lol.
If you’ve enjoyed what you’ve just read, I assure you this is just a GLIMPSE of a whole other UNIVERSE when it comes to the skill of attracting the very best of women.
To get the BEST education and training on this topic, read Dating Wizards ebook multiple times and make sure you understand all the concepts and techniques I share with you.
The Road To Sexual Attraction
July 2, 2007 | Leave a Comment
The road to sexual attraction is paved with several obstacles, but if you have the right insights, and you practice driving on this road, you will find that the road gets smoother and smoother until you truly enjoy the ride and look forward to the drive itself just as much as the destination.
It’s funny though, because once you develop, you often don’t even PERCEIVE that there are obstacles, because the very WAY that you now perceive and feel, well that IN ITSELF creates the behaviours that prevent problems before they even start.
Something very strange happened to me the other day, though, that really REMINDED me of the things that USED to mess me up.
It hammered home just how MISGUIDED our culture is and how it BRAINWASHES good guys to become devoid of sexuality and how it makes guys act in a way that gives them a false aura of inferiority to most women. All this is true unless the guy happens to have someone to help him out to show him the truth about these matters.
I was at the movie theatre to go check out a flick (Blood Diamond, pretty decent flick by the way) and before the movie started, on came this ad for a public service announcement:
The ad featured this chick in line for something at a fast food place and the guy behind the counter was talking down to her, i.e. stuff like “make up your mind already” and other verbal abuse, etc.
The ad then went on to say something like “Abuse, it’s not something you would tolerate anywhere else, so don’t tolerate it from your BOYfriend”.
!!!!
Anyway, I figured, ok, I know things are crazy against men these days, but men have made SOME progress, right? Right??????
Men are supposed to have made SOME strides for equality, so we can all chill out and have fun in our interactions with women rather than have a whole guilt inferiority complex. After all, as men, we kinda LIKE women, in fact we LOVE ‘em. (Truth is, this fun way IS the you should act, but most guys get brainwashed otherwise.)
So I figured FOR SURE the ad was not over, that they would include some version of it for men as well. You know, vice versa, to say that men should not to accept abuse from women as well.
But NOPE! That was IT.
As far as the ad was concerned, ALL WOMEN are saints!!!!! Women couldn’t POSSIBLY abuse guys!!!!! There’s no need for an ad for guys to watch out for women! For guys to gain self-esteem. As far as the ad was concerned, it’s men who need to mind their manners and be more careful around women, as if most men weren’t ALREADY stumbling upon what words to SAY to a woman.
As I was sitting in my seat, I was wondering how many guys who were ALREADY having a tough time with women because they felt nervous about approaching them, or because they felt “lucky” to be with some girl who is not treating him right, were now made to feel GUILTY for NOTHING, and were now going to start kissing up even MORE and come across as MORE BORING, more needy, less FUN, more inferior, and thus make their problems worse in their sex lives, relationship lives, or any thing else they have to do with women.
The CRAZIEST part of all this is that the reality is that when it comes to EMOTIONAL abuse, verbal abuse, in all likelihood it is women who abuse men WAY more often than vice versa.
Can you name the last time a girl did the homework of some GUY hoping she would like him? The last time a GIRL killed herself because of some GUY? The last time a GIRL stayed SINGLE for a long time after a breakup with her boyfriend? The last time a GIRL spent TONS OF CASH on a GUY for nothing? The last time a GIRL got “led on” by a guy?
In general, ALL this stuff happens way more from WOMEN to GUYS, not from GUYS to women.
Now, when it comes to physical abuse, which is also inexcusable, there’s probably more men that are guilty of this, but even this is hard to know, as a guy will not easily go to report it when his girl throws a chair at him, scratches him and gives him scars, etc.
Look, I’m not here to debate who is WORSE or who is BETTER.
What I’m here to say is that the FACT IS guys are being BRAINWASHED to feel that women must be treated as SUPERIOR. And guys are brainwashed to feel guilty towards the treatment of women.
So men end up acting in a way that unfortunately short circuits attraction. Men end up holding back all the natural fun/confident/sexual/dominant/social/ compelling emotions that men would otherwise exude.
And women are NOT given the same kind of brainwashing at ALL. So women behave in a way that only ENHANCES attraction. They tend to dress better, act more hard to get, pay more attention to how they are coming across, often practice their social skills more than men, etc. Plus, women have learned how to exude sexuality without being “easy”.
And of course this results in women having many OPTIONS with men, which skyrockets their own “inner game”.
It’s interesting, if I could take a guy who is just starting out in this stuff, and press a magic button that would give him a hundred girlfriends that were all calling him ten times a day and acting really needy and desperate for him, in a few days he would get a HUGE education that would teach him on very REAL emotional level what he needs to know, what he needs to EXPERIENCE.
When I say you need to not be NEEDY, I MEAN it. And the thing is, there’s nothing like REALLY being in that reality to TRULY create the behaviors that flow from that reality, from being in the state of mind that comes from that reality.
And a woman who is attractive is IN that reality.
Of course, though, it’s not easy for a woman who is attractive either, because what happens is that HER challenge becomes not finding guys, but finding guys that understand her wavelength, who are living the same reality of choices and therefore are cool guys who are not needy, who have their act together, are fun to be with, and yet who are still faithful. THAT’S what HER challenge is.
But the fact is, that’s not what guys’ challenges are: Guys have to learn to JUMP to a new way of feeling and thinking, which comes from a combination of ACTIVELY changing the way they think, plus ALSO actually changing their reality from women. This creates a never-ending cycle of improvement in both the guy’s inner game and also in his actual life with women, each factor helps the other factor. The better his reality, the better his inner game, the better his inner game, the better his reality with women, the more choices, etc.
You have to do both, you have to TRAIN your emotions to be STRONGER and less needy and more fun, and you have to ALSO be meeting women and practicing, so that you can GET TANGIBLE results as well which will help you progress internally as well. And of course, I explain this in further detail in my materials and programs.
So, along the way to achieving this, it’s important to not let yourself be mentally messed up by these crazy messages that seem to indicate that most men are bad to women. It’s simply NOT true.
I remember back in university, when I was getting my political science degree, (before my Ed. Degree) we were IMMERSED in the “evil of men”, and not just in courses on feminism! Pretty much all around, except for courses in International Relations, we kept getting bombarded with the “evil of men” that saw evil in everything male. In fact, even the act of sex, they saw the man on top as being some kind of evil conspiracy of control.
There was even a bunch of radical feminists that had meetings where men were not allowed in! That was considered perfectly “just” by the university.
This stuff is not good for guys who believe that propaganda, especially if they are good guys who are trying to be GOOD to women.
They will be far too “antiseptic” in their pickups and interactions with women that they like, to avoid possibly being “politically incorrect”.
Can you imagine what would happen if MEN had this going on????? If some male political group barred WOMEN from their meetings? Of course, cool guys know that there is nothing to hide anyway, as we aren’t doing anything bad! We just like women, something that has been going on and keeping the human race alive since day one!
All the brainwashing DESTROYS the ESSENCE OF ATTRACTION, especially of the SEXUAL kind.
Attraction is about EXCELLENCE, especially SUPERIORITY.
Yet if you are feeling like you are BAD, if you feel like you OWE women, if you feel bad and guilty for your sexual desire for a woman, as if women HATED men for being sexual, then you will TOTALLY SCREW UP in your interactions with women.
You will not succeed in pickup or relationships if you follow that HOGWASH, because you are going to come across as APOLOGETIC, as SERIOUS, as DRY AND AS “SAFE” AS possible. You will SHY AWAY from FUN clothing, from COOL clothing. You will never in a million years tell a girl, especially one that is hot, a dirty joke. Because that would RISK her thinking you are one of those EVIL men, right????
And, meanwhile, all this time, women are being told “YOU GO, GIRL!!! GIRL POWER!! FOCUS ON YOUR CAREER AND DON’T WORRY ABOUT MEN, THEY WILL ALL KISS YOUR BUTT ANYWAY FOR WHAT- EVER TIME YOU MAKE FOR THEM.”
Of course, ultimately, even a guy with low self esteem, most of the time, eventually, will wake up and refuse to accept this, rendering the whole feminist agenda A FAILURE.
It’s also interesting how most of this crazy stuff is NOT spread by women who are attractive, because they enjoy men and sex too much to hate on men. It’s usually spread by some really nasty women who look like they haven’t brushed their hair or taken a shower in years. They don’t even care enough to LOOK GOOD for men.
In a way, this is the craziest part of it all: The REALITY is that most women are actually pretty GOOD WOMEN, they are in general pretty good people.
BUT because of the brainwashing and lack of skills that guys have, many guys end up becoming prey for the very WORST of women who feed off of the good guy’s vulnerability.
And if the guy DOES happen to meet a good woman, he usually ends instinctively doing all the WRONG things that end up driving her AWAY. It’s “instinctive” for him to do the wrong things, because his REAL INSTINCTS as a man have been virtually WIPED from his memory.
Having a sexual interest in women. Being masculine. Leading the show. Not getting emotionally swayed easily. Not being needy.
All this stuff was traditionally stuff that men were PROUD of. Before men started to become brainwashed and feeling and acting inferior and emotionally needy and all upset. And before men put women on massive pedestals just for looking good. In the old days, a woman was judged on some logical things as well.
But guys now act in a way that is the OPPOSITE of all that smart good stuff, and they end up driving women away, so then a lot of guys THINK that all women are bad.
And my point to you NOW is, if you want to be GOOD with women, then you must OBLITERATE all this brainwashing from your mind, and you must also get the skills.
Women LOVE sex. They just feel pressure not to act as blatantly sexual because they feel they will be judged in a bad way if they do.
Women LOVE guys who are DOMINANT but COOL about it, not guys who are dominant in a jerk way.
And if you want to help a woman feel sexual, you have to get her in the MOOD first.
This is why very often it helps to be PLAYFUL.
The PLAYFUL stuff is ESPECIALLY important when it comes to MEETING NEW WOMEN that you find in PARTY type environments, like clubs, lounges, etc. The reason for this is simple - clubs and parties are for PARTYING and for getting loosened up and relaxed and having a good time. So if you are at a club or lounge and all serious, you are being INCONGRUENT to the VENUE, and to the STATES OF MIND of all the people, including the women, in the venue.
This is why it’s crucial that you don’t just FORCE yourself to PHYSICALLY go to a club or lounge, but that you also learn to get into the right state of mind for going out and having a great time.
I have occasionally called this state the “Golden Calf” state, because it’s so extreme, it’s about abandoning all your logical thoughts and everything else except HAVING FUN and PLEASURE and REVELLING IN IT.
A lot of good guys feel GUILTY about doing this. And then, they start to feel the people who ARE there are “frivolous”, so he creates a PSYCHOLOGICAL BARRIER in his own mind between HIM the “saint” and all the other frivolous “heathens”. But the truth is it’s just a bunch of people chilling out and having fun. They’re not there to discuss WORK or any thing else that is not FUN. Even if they LOVE their work, they probably still don’t come to talk about it!
Once the guy learns to chill out and get the skills, and get successful with women, he LOVES the place and becomes a bigger fan that most of the women there, because it’s all new to him, it’s like Alice in Wonderland, or Disneyland, or, well you get the picture
Now, the thing to remember is that it’s not enough to just be playful and chilled out, and sexual, because women will not just say “hey, that was fun, let’s jump into bed” from that.
First of all, there are LEVELS even to that stuff. There is a guy who is playful, and then there is a guy who is PLAYFUL. Similar to CONFIDENCE, guys THINK they know what confidence looks like until they SEE THE REAL THING.
And MASSIVE CONFIDENCE is not the same as being OVER THE TOP. Going too over the top just looks like a guy TRYING TOO HARD.
This is one reason my Bootcamp is such a a powerful experience, because it REDEFINES your very CONCEPT of “attractive behavior”.
It’s one thing to THINK you know what it looks like, sounds like, etc, it’s something else to see it in PERSON, to experience it firsthand. And to have a true expert ENSURE that you are doing it RIGHT.
Especially when it comes to pickup, this all has to happen relatively quickly, as she has no clue who you are, and you have a few moments to create the right mix of emotions that will lead you down the right path with her. If the first part of the interactions SUCKS, it’s usually downhill from there.
On the other hand, if you do the first part right, then it’s very often just a matter of not screwing up. You just have to take the interaction from one phase to the next, but those phases will not be very difficult, as she will be READY for them. But if you don’t to the first part right, then the whole thing will be very difficult.
Also, it’s important to understand that the ability to create MANY DIFFERENT types of emotions is actually intertwined with attraction.
The reason for this is not only because most women need to also FEEL the emotion of connection with you, before they can go all out sexually, but also the fact is that ANY emotion, when experienced FULLY, simply FEEEEELLLLLLS POWERFUL, it FEELS TRUE, it feeeeeels important. Remember, our emotions are what REALLY give us a sense of MEANING FOR ANYTHING, so if you can’t make a woman feel emotion, she is going to feel like nothing IMPORTANT is happening with you.
When you see a good movie, you FEEL something. If you saw a movie that was supposed to be about something important, but it was boring, then you really don’t feel that the story was important at all.
This is what most guys do with women, they talk to the woman about things that are “important” but there is no emotional relevance, so it actually comes out to the woman that the whole thing, the whole interaction, was NOT important.
ANY emotion that you feel strongly feels IMPORTANT. Even COMEDY. If you are LAUGHING YOUR HEAD OFF, then you REALLY FEEL THAT SOMETHING FUNNY IS GOING ON, but that the FUNNY thing is IMPORTANT for other people to know too.
You could SWEAR to it, that it’s something so funny that everyone should KNOW it.
This is why we want to SHARE emotions. When we feel ANY emotion strongly, we feel it is SO IMPORTANT, SO TRUE, that we FEEEEEL it’s important to SHARE it with our friends. Now you know why women have to tell all the details of her relationship with you to her friends. Especially if it’s good! This of course then makes the friends jealous, and this makes her friends try to ruin your relationship, which is not the worst problem if you have tight game and the patience for it, but it’s better of course to meet a girl with genuine friends and not fakers.
The bottom line is that if you are giving a woman plenty of awesome emotions and of course also giving her sex that is awesome, you are going to have one woman who is damn crazy about you.
So you have to learn how EMOTIONS work as well for ULTIMATE SUCCESS with women, especially LONG TERM success as sex is great, but it’s not enough. If it was, we wouldn’t have so many breakups between people who were still having great sex. Although of course, great sex helps, and actually understanding how emotions work will make sex better too, because for great sex, it helps for a woman to feel great trust so she can totally let go with you.
And great trust really means that she feels she is WORTH something and that you will not JEAPORDIZE that feeling she has with you, so that has traces back to specific dimensions of her self-esteem as well. And you can LEARN how to GIVE her this gift, as well as how to SKYROCKET your own.
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