Attraction: A Play-By-Play Perspective
September 21, 2008 | Leave a Comment
Attraction: A Play-By-Play Perspective
It’s awesome seeing theory in ACTION, and seeing exactly how a guy is applying the science and art of attraction successfully. To me this is the “sweetest science of all”. In fact, it’s not just a “means to an ends” for me, but it’s actually FASCINATING in and of itself.
So I’m going to use a fresh letter that just came in to help show the beauty in all this stuff. We’ll see how a guy pulled off an awesome job attracting a woman, and then we’ll take a look at it in slow-mo, blow-by-blow, so you can really get a good look at what’s going on.
Of course, this is not only going to be fun as heck, it’s also going to be one awesome learning experience about how to be even more successful with creating attraction and also understanding the dynamics of female culture and psychology.
Keep in mind ONE thing though. The way you interact with a woman EVOLVES as you get to know her, so remember that THIS letter is focusing on the INITIAL PICK-UP, and not on what happens as you CONTINUE to get to know her.
Get ready for some fun:
>>>LETTER<<<
Michael,
Hey we had a phone consultation last Sunday. I appreciate the knowledge that you shared with me and your personal story as well. I gotta couple things to say and a few questions as well, you can put ‘em in the newsletter if you like.
Your recent newsletter was about the guy who got divorced, took out a new woman and had her eating out of his hand, how he kissed her hand like Don Juan instead of on the lips and left rather than going home with her. Of course you remember, you wrote it. Also, if you remember in our phone conversation, you mentioned how, internally, your negative experiences with women that were the result of you behaving according to the brainwashed culture, eventually made you reach boiling point, and put you over the top, and you decided from there to not give a *(&%PRCTG%, to start giving women “a hard time” and you said BAM the results just happened. Even though you later improved upon this and found a way to get even better results without being abusive.
I have to admit that after seeing these things and being logical, I like to play devil’s advocate and do things that are counter to what others tell me are true…
So…since our talk I checked on a couple of other dating sites, just to see what people say compared to you, I wanted to see if it was all the same, or if everyone thinks they have their own great idea that only works for them, but doesn’t work for anyone else, etc. I found that a lot of the others, while not advocating being “Nice” or a wuss, were advocating being a charmer through compliments and romantic things and looking deep into her eyes and flirting on and on, just introducing yourself and saying hi with a big smile on your face… I’ve always thought this would be a better fit for my personality, but am/was/ willing to give your stuff a go if it is what gets results…
Since I read your stuff first, I’ve filtered the other stuff through it and compared everything I see/read to what you’ve said. So, I’ve found that usually your info is different than the rest and I didn’t know if that was good or not:
Well, the CLINCHER happened the other night as I was working on the computer. I was doing some stuff and I always leave the TV on just for background noise. (One Of The Famous Dating TV Shows) was on. It’s a show where they put two people on a blind date, give ‘em a car and let ‘em go to a park, a restaurant, and bar or something along those lines.
They show that the dude, I will call him Mitch (for privacy’s sake) an average looking dude with dark hair and an athletic build who works as a bouncer is going to be going on a date with a smokin’ woman who looked a little like Carmen Electra. For privacy’s sake, I’ll call her Anita. She’s a model who was featured in a VERY famous televised lingerie show with kazillions of viewers.
Anyway, the dude was a &*&^<%# pr*ck the whole night. He shows up an hour late, makes a comment like, “Damn, that’s a short a%PRCTG%# skirt.”
They get in the car, right away he says, “I’ve never been on a blind date…”, she starts to say “Yeah, me neither…”, but before she can FINISH the statement, HE says, “and I don’t know if I will again.” She looks at him, and goes “oh my gawd,” but she is SMIRKING and totally turned on. She gives a playful roll of the eyes right.
Anyway, he busts her all night, she at one point says, “I think you’re a di*&.” He laughs, gets close to her, and says, “What you think…? You think…?” She says, “Okay, fine, you ARE a di**.” He just laughs.
Later he says, among many similar type things, “I thought they would hook me up with someone who was pretty,” - YES HE SAID THIS.
Later, when the date is almost over, she gets serious, and says, ” You know I think you may have a little insecurity, you kind of take it too far sometimes, the teasing, and I don’t like it.” He smirks, looks away, and comes back with, “You know, I don’t like sheep, women that just do what others do, so I had to see if you would stand up for yourself, be different and not be a pushover, and you have (stood up).”
She gives him a sultry look, bites her lower lip, and says, “So you do it on purpose?” (i.e. to see if a woman is up to your standard) and he says, “Well yeah, but also because I know women like it.” She rolls her eyes again and smiles and licks her lips and says “yeah whatever” in a total I WANT YOU voice.
So they cut to the car ride home, in a taxi, and they’re makin’ out. Later they cut to the outside of the house as he is saying goodbye (he didn’t go in, he is standing at her door) and he’s like, “Hey, it was fun, maybe we can do it again.” And she says, “You have my number, use it.”
In the post date interview he says, “Once I saw that the girl was bangin’, I knew, I knew, I couldn’t be nice if I was going to get in with her, and yeah it worked.” She says, “Yeah, he was a little rude, but I kinda like it when guys don’t flatter me, I’ll definitely go on a second date if he calls, but he needs to know the games will continue.”
All I could say was, “Sh**… Sh**!!! … Michael is right, oh man, dude is so friggin right.” I said it out loud, only one in the room, it hit me that deeply. I realized how well it worked.
You said that even the “Paris Hilton” types try to act better than others but they have some insecurity issues of their own. And this guy played it perfect, he made her question whether she was all that cool or skinny or beautiful and it put the pressure on her to impress him.
She was the one trying to get his approval as the night went on, she didn’t feel like she was a princess the way she would have around 99%PRCTG% of other guys. And right when she couldn’t take it, or maybe she was just playing, it doesn’t matter, he gave her a little self-esteem boost to let her know that she has passed some of his tests and is showing potential in meeting his standards.
So, in parting, much props to you man, you know what you’re talkin’ bout. And some curiosities were sparked from our phone conversation as it relates to being a “smart aleck”:
You told me that the key is to determine if a girl is (culturally) “beautiful” (like a 9 or a 10) or not, because the gorgeous ones need to see you are superior in order for them to feel the boost, but the cute ones who are like 6, 7 and 8s on the 10 scale you can actually compliment them some (not their body) and smile a little and be more charming because they will appreciate the attention of a sincere guy.
So onto the questions:
1)Does the jerk approach only work with girls that are in the upper range, like the 9s and 10s? I mean, what if a girl is real conservative, or a small-town country girl, you know good values and stuff, maybe never had sex or like only with one guy that she dated for 6 years, maybe never dated anyone seriously, but she’s also real hot, won’t she have more respect for herself and be offended by the jerk approach?
2)Likewise, say a girl has been cheated on a bunch and dated about 10 jerks in her life. When she decides to “settle down,” because she hears her biological clock ticking, won’t she have learned that the jerks don’t change and end up going for maybe a little bit older, overweight, financially secure guy that she will refer to as “her sweetie, who is so good to her,” or something to that effect?
3)My opinion is that a two-pronged approach works best. Be the more intense busting type with women who know they’re “commodities”, and be a teasing charmer (like you were in the bookstore with the two women) with the girls who are a little more level-headed, what do you say?
I appreciate you making it through this long email.
***MY REPLY***
First of all, thanks for the awesome props on my material and on the coaching you received over the phone (http://thedatingwizard.com/consultations.htm) And my congrats to you, for putting in the mental work and using the coaching to MAKE THE MENTAL JUMP TO HYPERSPACE. This is a MASSIVE step. Suddenly you see the whole world of women completely differently. It’s going to hit you again and again in many more situations with women, each time it will be like a psychological tidal wave, and each time it will hit a DEEPER realization.
Your letter is especially worth noting because the girl was a genuine Electra-like “hot one” and that he was an average looking dude.
And what did he do to ATTRACT this girl?
1.He “was a &*&^>>MY ANSWER<<<
Ahhhh yes, very very often, AFTER SHE HAS been with ten thousand guys and run the party circuit to the ground and she is no longer a prime commodity.
(okay I’m exaggerating a bit for comedy effect here, but I want to make a point) and she has been SUPPOSEDLY “hurt and dumped” and the jerks would never have her, she “gets smart” (she was “smart” ALL ALONG, in fact that’s why she only “got smart” when her looks were fading and her biological clock started ticking), and she goes for the “nicer guy” that you described because that is what she NEEDS to settle down, because the other jerky fun guys would NEVER settle down with her, especially because these guys sense the FULL EXTENT OF THE TRUTH about her since THEY WERE THE TYPES OF GUYS she was with.
So of course these guys can’t be fooled and aren’t about to give SECURITY and RESPECT and COMMITMENT to a girl like that.
So these women have to find a “nice” naive guy to take advantage of, and who will act SO HAPPY to be with her. Almost makes you puke, huh? Yeah, me too. Or it used to, to be accurate.
This is why it’s SO IMPORTANT TO HAVE THE SKILLS, even if you are NOT a player.
It’s like being in shape, you don’t have to be in shape because you are planning on some emergency. Being in shape just helps you do everything better.
Similarly, having the skills with women will make your interactions with all women better if you use your skills for “good”, it will also help you avoid being taken for a ride by the wrong women.
It helps you RECOGNIZE the difference between a good girl and a girl who is PRETENDING to be one.
And if you would like to make that GIANT leap into a whole new DIMENSION of success with women and dating, then you owe it to yourself to take action NOW and get the most ADVANCED resource on the PLANET at your fingertips with my:
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If you don’t take action, and remain without the skills, there will be plenty of folks happy to KEEP YOU IN THAT SITUATION, because it makes them feel good to have someone they can feel superior toward. So you have to ask yourself what YOU want, not what they want.
It’s up to you to change your life.
Till next time,
Michael
The Dating Wizard
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5 Crucial Points Of Attraction
July 14, 2008 | Leave a Comment
I was thinking about some of the most IMPORTANT points that make a SERIOUS difference in getting results with women.
Points that most guys don’t realize or that they tend to gloss over without understanding their full meaning and impact.
Here they are:
1. For most guys who are new to learning these skills, one of the challenges is that the states of mind they need to be in for the interaction are THE EXACT OPPOSITE of the states they actually feel in that moment.
So, to be precise, the state of being in a GREAT MOOD, and being PLAYFUL, and being COCKY in a GOOD NATURED SENSE, and being SEXUAL, well it all seems not only very DIFFICULT to be in that state when they are starting an interaction with a woman, but also, there is this wrong assumption that you have to ALWAYS be in this state, and so the guy feels he’s not being HIMSELF.
And that can lead a guy to feel resentment, because he feels as if these girls are all LIGHT-HEADED and as if the ONLY thing they can think about is FUN, because when he goes in “serious” it never works very well at all.
This leads to more negativity, and more thinking of women as being “different” and crazy, bad, etc. Which makes him even MORE serious and makes him more bitter, etc. And so when he finally does make some effort at “playful”, it’s TOTALLY FORCED, totally not congruent, and his own bitterness and anger seeps through.
Which turns her off, and gives the guy more negative feedback, hurting his inner game even more.
So, for any guys out there that are in that situation right now, let me immediately say that IT’S NOT THAT WOMEN ARE ALWAYS LIKE THIS, it’s that HUMAN SOCIALIZING AND HUMAN SEXUALITY is most COMPATIBLE with this type of state of mind.
Look, the reality is that I am many DIFFERENT things. I can be deadly serious. I like serious stuff. One of my favourite movies of all time is The Sixth Sense. I’m not only all about the laughs, to say the least. There are a lot of other emotions that appeal to me besides playfulness and sexuality.
And sometimes, in some environments, going in for pure intrigue for the pickup can work fantastic. I use this sometimes as well.
However, what’s CRUCIAL to understand is that you can’t get turned on if you are feeling FEAR. So if you are chatting to a woman, getting her laughing is a great way to overcome the fact you are a stranger.
Also, even in general, the better a person is feeling, the more joy they will get out of EVERYTHING, including sex.
So for that reason as well, you want to put a woman into a BETTER STATE than the state she was in before she met you.
It leads to her more easily transitioning into a sexual vibe with you even from the GET GO of your conversation, interaction, etc.
So you see, you are not FAKING your personality by being playful, fun, sexual, etc, you are doing the only thing that makes SENSE for ANYONE.
To NOT be in the playful state is simply to be acting very strange indeed. Also, the truth is, you probably ARE a playful guy in OTHER situations, so it IS a dimension of your personality, it’s just not coming across from you in your interactions with women right now, and you want to change that asap in order to get results.
Remember, this is PICK UP and ATTRACTION, so your interaction must be geared for THAT.
If this was about asking girls to teach you Einstein’s Theory of Relativity, then you could go in all serious if you wanted. But this is about sexual stuff, attraction stuff, human emotion stuff.
VIBES are everything.
Next:
2. The point of learning TACTICS and lines is to HELP YOU GET ON YOUR FEET so you can pass the sticking points in your game. This way, once you pass the sticking points, once you get the result several times, you will start to see how all the infinite subtle details gel together as part of the big picture, and you will then no longer need specific “lines” or “tactics”.
You will then be able to FAR EASIER get the SAME result instinctively. But the tactics helped you in the beginning.
There is nothing WRONG with tactics per se. My book and CD and even my live programs include many useful tactics as well as all the BIGGER PICTURE insights as well.
Regarding the “tactics” you will see from the way they are presented in the larger context of the program that they are meant only as a tool to get you to a realization of the bigger picture so that you will NOT need the “tactics” anymore.
It’s a bit like working out with weights and “cheating” or getting a spotter to help you squeeze out a rep. You get some outside HELP to finish the rep of that exercise. But because you managed to finish the rep, your body gets the benefit of the exercise, and you grow to the point you don’t need the spot or the cheat.
Of course, most people TOTALLY abuse the “cheating” or “spotting” principle, and similarly, most guys TOTALLY abuse the “tactics” for improving your skills with dating and attracting the kind of women you want.
When I first started out, I remember I thought there was only one way to kiss a girl that was reliable. The reality is that there are MILLIONS, but having a basic game plan in the beginning allowed me to GET to the whole kissing thing and beyond enough times that I realized that the truth is, a girl will kiss you as soon as she’s attracted, period.
But in the beginning, your ego is fragile, so you make a big deal about creating a method to avoid any chance of rejection. But the funny thing is, after a while you get so good at this stuff that you realize that MAKING A BIG DEAL ABOUT THE KISS is in ITSELF A PROBLEM and is not attractive. It’s needy, it’s being too attached to the outcome of it all.
So you learn to totally stop thinking about that kind of thing and you basically are constantly escalating, and if you happen to escalate too fast a bit, you just chill out and let her catch up to that stage, and you go for it later.
But that doesn’t mean learning “tactics” are useless, because as I said, they are a way to help prevent rejection which is something that a beginner cares more about since he doesn’t have enough successes yet behind him to not care about it.
Similarly, from having so many interactions, I now have a cache of “lines” that I could use at any time that are virtually GUARANTEED to elicit certain emotional responses from attraction to bonding, etc. Because I am familiar with the delivery of them and the state of mind I said them in and because I know when to say it.
But the reality is that I don’t NEED them, and in fact, I don’t think about using them much except when I might be so exhausted and am running a pick up when I really should be sleeping. Or for example, if I want to play around with the internet and get girls to respond to ads and don’t want to bother with much effort, I will just send out certain responses or messages to a bunch of girls and get a pretty good batting average off of that.
Again, though, it’s more FUN to actually BE in the game, and not just be running it robotically, and of course your game runs even better when you are in the zone, for sure, because you can calibrate better to the exact specifications of the situation and of the girl’s state.
3. This leads me to another REALLY important point:
THIS STUFF TAKES PRACTICE
A lot of guys who are not prepared to SERIOUSLY put some EFFORT into this, they want to get results from PURELY BEING A ROBOT.
They think there is some perfect, “How to get all chicks in a single bound of memorized tactic and lines”.
That is simply RIDICULOUS. It’s trying to oversimplify a very dynamic process.
What I DO believe in is TEACHING these skills using various approaches to learning, INCLUDING the use of models and paradigms to view attraction and the pick up process.
So yes, I do definitely use these models as PART of my instruction, but they are just one small tool. The models help give a guy a view of attraction and the pick up process, but no model can perfectly capture the INFINITE VARIETY of variables that can play out in an interaction between you and a woman.
However, the model CAN give you a beginner a useful VIEW of attraction, but being able to see many of the elements of attraction and the pick up process all at once as part of one model.
But that’s all it is, a model.
FOR FULL INSIGHT AND EXCELLENCE, you have to understand and apply ALL THE PRINCIPLES.
To an extent, the answer to the “HOW” of pickup is in the “WHY”. For example, let’s say a guy wants to know how to kiss a girl.
Well, if he understands that, among many other things, that DOMINANCE is key, and he knows that her ANTI SLUT DEFENSE forbids her from taking responsibility for full escalation, and he knows that sexuality is unleashed when she is not thinking but rather FEELING, feeling GOOD, then he will understand that teasing her and getting her laughing and then escalating from holding hands to caressing her cheek to kissing is ONE good way of accomplishing that.
Obviously, understanding the FULL picture on dominance, the anti-slut defense shield, female culture and sexuality, sense of humor, etc, are KEY. THIS is the way to go for success in ALL situations with women, rather than trying to come up with a word-for-word SCRIPT for every situation. That would be ABSURD and not even EFFECTIVE as it would not allow for all the UNIQUE THINGS about that specific situation that you could work in SPONTANEOUSLY once you UNDERSTAND THIS STUFF.
So understanding the “WHY” is very important indeed in order to understand the HOW.
Of course, you want to make sure that you are getting the WHY explained by a guy who actually DOES THIS FOR REAL, WEEK AFTER WEEK, WITH REAL CLIENTS, IN THE REAL WORLD.
Otherwise, you may be getting a messed up picture that will ruin your results in the real world.
4. The fourth point I want to make clear here is the MASSIVE IMPORTANCE of having a life that you are passionate about BESIDES your dating life.
As passionate as you must be for success with women, you need to be JUST AS PASSIONATE about your OTHER goals in life.
Far too many guys get so swept up with the whole women thing, that they soon end up basing their SELF-ESTEEM on it, which opens them up to becoming vulnerable to depression, neediness, obsession, and other nasties, including kissing all the other good things in your life good bye. Such is the need for self-esteem, that if you base it on women, women will rule your life, and that can includes messed up women as well.
So, no matter what, you must MAINTAIN your sense of direction in life, and not let ANY woman, or women in general, affect that. Your direction, your path, your other passions, are what keep you grounded, and keep you strong.
This doesn’t mean to not spend time on women, it just means not to lose your IDENTITY along the way.
And if you quit everything else about your life besides the women thing, then that other part of you ceases to exist.
The ironic thing about all this is that having an unshakable sense of direction is actually VERY ATTRACTIVE to women. So in the end, this only helps your results with women as well.
Which leads me to the fifth point:
5. NEVER, EVER FORGET THE SEXUAL DIMENSION OF YOUR INTERACTION WITH WOMEN.
Remember, this is about leading to SEX. Other things too, perhaps, like a great relationship, but even that is still a SEXUAL thing, otherwise it would just be a friendship, right?
So what this means is that you have to MANHANDLE the interaction. Not in a caveman way, but in a dominant, yet upbeat and smooth way.
Women feel weird about leading the show towards sex. That’s how they have been cultured, so it’s up to YOU. Besides, do you really want women to take on that role? It’s your privilege as a man. It’s also your DUTY.
So if you act too anti-septic, too “nice” in that stereotypical way, to non-sexual, if you wait for HER to escalate, if you are afraid to ESCALATE even when the interaction is going well, because you care too much about her possible reaction and her rejecting the escalation, you will get NOWHERE.
It WON’T ESCALATE on it’s OWN.
YOU have to make it happen, and you have to make it smooth as well. If you act like you are trying to accomplish something HARD, you are going to be giving off the wrong vibes.
So the idea is to act as if all this is NOT a big deal. If you make it seem like a big deal, it will make HER feel nervous and uncomfortable with you.
Finally, I’d like to say that ultimately, it’s really all up to you. You have to WANT this to get good at it. Personally, I think that women, sex, and especially meeting the RIGHT woman and being with her, is an emotional experience that is INSANELY POWERFUL and enriching and well worth the effort.
If this is a goal you’d like to achieve, and you are prepared to WORK on it, instead of looking for a “magic line” then it’s time you got yourself the finest education you can possibly get on this topic by ordering my Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program.
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Till next time,
Michael W
How To Develop Your Inner And Outer Game
April 30, 2008 | Leave a Comment
When it comes to the skill and the game of being good with women, you really are only as strong as your weakest link.
And for most guys, their weakest link comes once they FALL for a girl. The typical dude gives a woman FAR TOO MUCH power over HIS sense of self-worth.
If the guy WAS cool, strong, playful, cocky, sexual, and compelling before, all of a sudden he LOSES these cool traits after he falls for her. He doesn’t want to “mess up” so he starts walking on eggshells. And when this combines with the moment that she also suddenly doesn’t seem to be “in” to him, it forms the “perfect storm” to destroy his self-concept.
The guy has placed so much of his sense of the meaning of his LIFE onto her liking him, that his emotional reality sits on a very fragile foundation.
It’s easier to have “great game” when everything is going GREAT with a woman OR when you have NOTHING invested emotionally in a woman, i.e. the beginning of the “courtship”. But once you begin to get emotionally involved, things can get hazy if she plays you for a sucker and you haven’t got a solid sense of your value, including a sense that you are desirable to women.
So if she’s putty in your hands, if she’s all over you and complimenting you and giving you mind-blowing sex, or if she immediately opens up into a warm smile upon you starting a conversation with her, well it’s pretty easy to be confident, sexual, and in such a great state that you are resourceful to be witty, playful, funny, and chilled out with pep.
And definitely KNOWING how to get results with women is a huge thing.
The PROBLEM is when something goes WRONG. Even if you are at an advanced level of success, things don’t always go perfectly. But if you are a beginner, you are more needy for results since you have less reference points for past successes that make you feel confident.
So when you get less than the result you were looking for, it can temporarily stun your self-esteem, and this throws a massive monkey-wrench into the works, into the entire emotional machinery of your “inner game”. It ruins your game.
And then all of a sudden, all the ATTRACTIVE behaviors will suddenly seem foreign and not natural for you. They will seem a billion miles away from what you really feel like. You lose your “mojo” as they say.
The reason for this is because ATTRACTION is about VALUE. When you, on a deep level, FEEL that you have MASSIVE SEXUAL VALUE to a woman, you then BEHAVE that way subconsciously. You don’t even have to THINK about it. You also naturally feel more sexual, and it comes across in the infinite subtleties in your communication. You are, being CONGRUENT to the things that scream out “SEXUAL VALUE” on EVERY channel of communication, from your body language to your tonality to your facial expression, in the most subtle yet powerful of ways (as the most powerful communication IS subtle, it’s NEVER direct).
And so the switch goes on in a woman’s EMOTIONS that you are DESIRABLE.
So the question is, what do you do when you are NOT getting the EXTERNAL results in the real world? And a related question is, what do you do when you are doing well, but then something happens that MUCKS UP your whole inner game?
THIS is where guys get screwed over. Even guys that are doing GREAT with a woman, the woman eventually ends up either on purpose testing the guy, or accidentally testing the guy, by doing something that SHAKES up his reality, shakes up his confident perspective. Something that makes him feel needy. And then, most guys turn into submissive, non-sexual, (when you feel inferior, it dampens your sexual vibes) needy, ass-kissing, vacuums that sucks away energy from everyone, especially the women they are interested in.
The guy turns into a nervous wreck, or he becomes an angry guy (not cool either) or he becomes awkward, stilted, etc.
I have an ANSWER for you for what to do:
DON’T GIVE IN TO THE TEMPTATION to act upon your neediness or desperation or lack of confidence.
Write a HUGE NOTE to yourself on your arm if you have to in order to remind yourself, but WHATEVER you do, do NOT give in to the weakness.
EMBRACE THE PAIN, BUT DO NOT GIVE IN to your weak emotions.
The challenge in doing this is that when you are feeling NEEDY, it is an EMOTION. And like I always say, emotions feel more true than facts. So at that moment, you feel that your neediness is REAL, and that it is permanent, and that you SHOULD kiss up!!!!!!!!! Or that you SHOULD be submissive. Or that you SHOULD be needy!
But these are just your emotions playing Jedi mind tricks with you. They are the dark side of the force trying to get you to cave in to being a wuss-bag.
Just like in weightlifting, if you want to PASS your threshold, you have to EMBRACE the temporary pain of that last rep and go for squeezing out one more rep no matter the pain, and you will then grow STRONGER, similarly if you want to grow STRONGER internally, you have to RESIST that emotional b.s. your mind is throwing at you. If you feel like your world is ending because of some chick, EMBRACE THE PAIN but do not cave in and do not act upon that neediness.
You will find, that just like in weightlifting, your emotional muscles will GROW stronger, and within 24-48 hours you will already notice a difference. The thing is, unlike your body, your MIND and EMOTIONS are virtually INFINITE in how powerful they can get with training.
And of COURSE, by NOT giving in to your weak emotions, and by NOT acting like a wuss, a woman’s attraction for you will SKYROCKET. So no matter what “test” or whatever she did, she will ZOOM to you even STRONGER than before by very virtue of the fact you proved your superior value to her in the face of emotional PRESSURE - it is the PROOF that you are indeed desirable otherwise you would have crumbled and caved in.
(And this idea of superiority is not about being MEAN, it’s about exuding as much EXCELLENCE as possible, through the channels of EMOTION. It’s no different than how a woman for example may dress and behave her BEST, to MAKE AS POWERFUL an impact as POSSIBLE. Those are HER tools, whereas your BEHAVIOR is YOUR way of creating impact. Do you think a woman tries to make LESS of an impact than her best, do you think she, or ANYONE, feels it’s “wrong” for her to be SO MASSIVELY SEXY???? Of course, the answer is no, and so likewise, there is nothing wrong with YOU exuding the maximum impact as well.)
So let’s say a woman tries to make you JEALOUS but you don’t act on that jealousy, she will ONLY think that you must be THAT MUCH MORE SUPERIOR if you didn’t act or even get jealous.
THIS is the meaning of being a MAN.
There’s also something ELSE you can do, to help SKYROCKET your inner game.
You can learn to become AWARE of just WHAT THE HECK is going on internally in your mind so that you can actually REALIZE how ridiculous these emotions are EVEN while these emotions are trying to attack you!
This is just ONE of the things that Seduction Mastery Programкомпютри will show you how to MASTER in DEPTH.