I hear or read of women always wanting to know where all the good men are or wanting to find a good man. I believe myself to be a good man. I strive hard to make a good life for myself, I believe myself to be average if not above average in looks, I keep myself clean, in good shape, I love animals, nature, kids, I communicate well and don’t argue by raising my voice or getting violent, I have good manners, I like to help others, I am a family man, I am loyal, trustworthy, honest, can be funny sometimes, am outgoing, open and friendly to all but the cute girls that I like and believe may be that "good woman", I try to lead by example and never judge others. The list I believe to be good qualities goes on, but yet I am 30 and have only had two semi serious relationships with woman that broke my heart. Is it because I am not a party animal, love to drink, don’t smoke or do drugs, and am not a big sports fan? So why don’t those good woman ever approach me
Not all women are shy; many who are shy are faced with pressure to get over it and just ask out a guy. But the REAL reason that women don’t ask guys out, is because generally, its MEN that have made the first move since the beginning of time. Why? Because, women always have to be classy, keep themselves respectful, you know, and sometimes flouting convention and being aggressive and getting a guy can seem to be too masculine (which isn’t very classy, not very feminine, and then…whats the point of proving to a guy how unfeminine you can be???). Sure, there have been loads of girls that asked out guys–but then already in the relationship there’s that subconcious struggle of who’s wearing the pants.
Ladies love men who go for what they want, and if you go for her, that means you want her –which generate very lovely feelings towards the man.
Ask the girl out–showing her that you’re confident, ask her out for coffee or dinner and chat, let her know your great attributes and all that, afterwards giver HER your phonenumber–she’ll call, a good woman with a head on her shoulders won’t pass up the chance to meet a guy like you.
There’s a REASON why guy-asking-girl has become tradition–it works and it produces good results (same goes for getting a girl flowers-no girl can turn down flowers–so now its tradition)! Girls respond a lot more positively and openly in a relationship that was started by the guy, it makes her feel secure, like she was DECIDED upon…but when the girl asks the guy, there’s always that little lingering question in the back of her head of whether or not he said ‘yes’ because he liked her or just settled for her, you know?
Hope this helps and good luck out there!
Don’t take too much from E-Male’s answer up there–obviously he’s been going to the wrong pubs and drinking some strange spiked shit! (Women may like power, but thats only at work…all women want to come home nice and relaxed and not have to whip anyone into shape…unless thats called for in the bedroom)!
U seem like a really good guy and i would date u! give me a call lol jk but just wait for the right girl!]
Good luck!
Well those are a lot of good qualities. But how are women going to know these things by simply looking at you or even a first date? And yes most women want the man to approach first, so give it a shot. Get past the first few dates and open up to her and gain her trust. THEN she’ll see your good qualities. It takes work man, you can’t just list your attributes and wait for them to come to you.
because women want to stay in the power seat, if they approach you, they give up power by implying they need you as bad as you need them. so they have more endurance than men. they will screw animals if it mean staying in the power seat. it’s all about the power and who needs who more.
Why don’t you approach them?
Maybe they’re as afraid of rejection as you are.
The other side of this statement is that some are old fashioned and were raised that it’s tacky for a woman to chase after a guy – I am one of those women. I am fairly independent, but there is something about watching an agressive woman going after a man that makes her look like a dog in heat. I know I’ll get a thumbs down for that one, but that is how I feel about it.
You know, you’re just another guy that thinks he’s perfect. Girls like guys that are outgoing yes, but also that give affection and attention. Guys that know when to back off and when to come in and help or w/e. You make yourself seem perfect but you really aren’t. It’s really easy to say things on the computer about stuff like this. And, as far as I can see, your question and the little explanation or w/e dont’ match whatsoever. well good luck.
The problem is that women watch too many movies and believe that those fairy tale endings are realities. They are aprehensive that, that person who sweeps them off their feet exsist. In reality, you are the closest thing to that. In a REAL relationship you would be perfect. I believe that love grows on you. Just keep doing what you do, and I reccomend you read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. He has several other books too. Good luck.
I am a believer of the "old school". The man makes the first move. The man calls the woman.
The man asks the woman out. The man shows signs of interest first.
Maybe it’s because that’s how I was brought up.
But that is the way I like it.
I wait for the man to call me.
I wait for the man to ask me out.
I wait for the man to approach me.
I wait !
But I’m not waiting any more
Why don’t you ever approach those good women?
You can’t judge women’s perception of you base don 2 relationships. Maybe you are hard to approach? Or too shy to react?
Because women are stupid. We like the bad boys when we are younger. When we get tired of crying over some jackass we start looking for the nice guy. It took me three tries to find a perfectly wonderful man but if I had found him in my early 20’s, I wouldn’t have appreciated him…..thank heaven I got my head out of my rear in time to realize it. Don’t worry, the right one is out there waiting for you.
It is SO the latter! Women (at least- all the woman I know) want to be approached. They don’t want to be the one who asks a guy out. Yes- they’ll flirt, but the guy has to make the first move. Sorry, but if a woman makes the first move- it means they’re really desperate for a man, really desperate for you, or really flirtatious (which I don’t like >.<). Just go up to someone you like and don’t use those phony pick up lines- say casually when a conversation is coming to an end, "Would you like to grab a cup of coffee later/after work?" Then later you can exchange phone numbers. She’ll probably expect you to call.
After that- you’re on your own!