If you are a good guy, then it’s CRUCIAL that you read this newsletter.
One of the big things to me is not to disrespect myself or my clients EVER. That’s why you don’t hear me preaching about “magic” tactics, or superficial “EASY WAYS TO GET PLAYBOY BUNNIES KNOCKING ON YOUR DOOR 7 DAYS A WEEK, WHO ALSO HAVE THE PERSONALITY OF MOTHER THERESA, BY SIMPLY FOLLOWING THE SECRET SPECIAL MAGIC TACTIC”. Etc. I really love it too when they tell you stuff like “But you better act now for this magic tactic is going to sell out TODAY!!!”
The REAL magic rests in learning what the TRUTH is for acquiring the results that you want. And then following that and sticking to it no matter what, no matter how tough it seems at times. Which is why, by the way, it’s SO COOL to have the right friends and support group with you, because it makes the PROCESS of self-development in this area called ATTRACTION, it makes that journey so meaningful and worthy in itself.
Ok, so let’s get to it:
When I first got involved in this whole field of how attraction works, I saw a lot of things that TEMPORARILY soured my faith in the human race.
Things like girls who would be all flirty and touchy feely with a guy at a bar or club, and then when the boyfriend suddenly showed up unexpectedly, the girl would drop the guy and start telling her boyfriend how “weird” and “yucky” the guy was who she was getting all physical with. She would say this lie in order to keep the boyfriend thinking that she “of course” was not interested in the “wierd” guy and that the “wierd” guy was “forcing” himself on her.
And of course, I also saw a lot of sleazy guys using all kinds of manipulative tactics with women.
Again, this stuff really made my blood boil, as it seemed that on one hand, being a “nice” person did not work with women, and on the other hand, being a prick was something that DID work, but that only made me despise any woman who actually RESPONDED to this sleazy style approach.
But I eventually realized something MASSIVE that is really good news for you and every other guy who truly is a guy with integrity.
The sleazy stuff does not work on women who themselves are not sleazy.
And to be honest, the guys that have this kind of “terrible” thing happening to them from a woman, (i.e. the situation I described above) well they really are asking for it, because if you expect to find a MEANINGFUL relationship from a girl that gets trashed with alcohol when she goes out, and if getting trashed is also your own concept of the meaning of life on the weekends, then you can’t expect to really get a woman who is all about strength of character and internal discipline.
If you are a quality person, you ALREADY are in a totally different ballgame than about 90% of the population.
This means that you are going to have to be FAR MORE SELECTIVE than most guys. But that is a GOOD thing, because it means you TRULY MERIT to get a woman with the BEST integrity out there to MATCH your integrity.
And a woman with a great personality and who has indestructible integrity will usually DETECT if a guy is a FAKE, sooner or later, and usually SOONER.
Integrity, and personality are independent of LOOKS.
In other words, you can have a woman who is beautiful with great integrity and you can have a woman who is on the surface beautiful but internally is ugly with zero integrity.
So if you are a guy with integrity, that’s FANTASTIC.
I’m not saying that INTEGRITY ALONE is enough to attract a woman with integrity, but it’s PART of it. It’s REQUIRED. (And honestly, my programs and materials will explain to you IN-DEPTH how to develop the other elements as well.)
A guy withOUT integrity will LOSE a woman who has integrity, as soon as she discovers what he is made of. The more integrity she herself has, the faster she will discover it, unless she is very naïve and inexperienced.
So only about 10% of the women out there would truly be compatible with you.
This is actually a PRETTY HIGH percentage, because for guys WITHOUT INTEGRITY, they could meet a MILLION women, and NONE of them would be compatible!
The reason is, if you have no integrity, then ANY relationship with ANY woman won’t work long term. If a guy withOUT integrity meets a woman who HAS integrity, she will dump him eventually, and if guy without integrity meets another woman without integrity it’s going to self-destruct VERY QUICKLY. Even people withOUT integrity still prefer people WITH integrity!
Two people without integrity cannot last for A SECOND. When one person has integrity, it sometimes lasts for a bit until the person realizes the other has no integrity.
I have found that there ARE women who ARE beautiful and who DO have great values, and who DO have integrity, but you have to be MASSIVELY COMMITTED to your goal of finding them and you can’t afford to get bogged down in negative loops of thinking, and you have to make sure not to WASTE TIME on the wrong women, as they will rob you of the energy and even of the BELIEF that something better exists.
LOCATION sometimes helps massively as well, because if there are not enough women where you are, you simply don’t have the CHOICES, so I highly suggest that you try different venues, different times of day, even totally different cities if necessary, to find places where you can CHOOSE from among many women.
Also, it’s important to be HONEST with yourself. You can get whatever you want, but there is no point in making life more difficult than necessary. Be HONEST with what you REALLY find attractive, and separate that from the things that you simply find VALIDATING.
So often, what men and women are looking for in their partner is not just ATTRACTION, but EXTERNAL “band-aid” solutions to their own insecurities. What they feel they themselves lack, they want to find in abundance in their partner. Whether it’s looks, age, respect, status, or any of a billion other things.
I remember back in high school, for a while, I used to only be attracted to these little petite girls because it made me feel more masculine, but then I developed internally and I grew to also appreciate the women who look sexy but like WOMEN and not like “girls”. Not saying that this is a virtue, just saying that I am not limited in my perspectives.
And I think it has to do with feeling a self-concept that is not needy for approval. So the more I KNEW that I was in fact “THE MAN”, the less I needed a girl who was this tiny thing to make me FEEL that way.
I also think by the way, this is the reason why so often, a woman who is beautiful is open to being with a guy who is not necessarily stereotypically “good looking” – it’s partially because she is ALREADY validated on her own looks and she isn’t looking to some “model” to validate her to make her feel that she must be good looking. Plus, there are other reasons to do with evolution that are beyond the scope of this newsletter. My eBook and CD Series go into full detail on these topics.
Anyway, the development of my self-concept has given me more choice so that the determining factor that makes the difference to me, between two women who look different but are now equally attractive to me, well it will boil down to the woman with the superior values and PERSONALITY.
The key is to fix any internal issues first, and THEN to go out and find a woman you find attractive who has the right values as well. And this too is a huge topic, there is no way that I can tackle every single issue in a newsletter, but even just being AWARE of this is a great first step that can lead you in the right direction.
There is a huge difference between finding a woman who is ATTRACTIVE to you and finding a woman who is simply a trophy to you. And taking care of your inner self-concept will allow you to choose a woman who is ATTRACTIVE to you rather than a woman who you are choosing for reasons of validation alone.
And by the way, doing this work will put you in a SUPER ELITE TINY CIRCLE of humanity, and that means only a TINY percentage of the women you meet will be COMPATIBLE and ON YOUR LEVEL of development.
But that is not a BAD thing! It’s a GOOD thing! It means that the kind of woman who is truly compatible with you is right now rejecting TONS of guys as she herself searches for a guy like YOU. And she will MASSIVELY appreciate it when she DOES meet you.
This is why I was never part of the “screw as many women as possible” bandwagon.
I’ve always believed in quality over quantity.
Did you know that human history was shaped mostly by a TINY MINORITY of people?
The greatest agents of change throughout human history were usually started by just ONE or a few individuals!!!!!!!!!
Why would you WANT to just be one of the MASSES?
I personally think that human nature has been the same since time immemorial.
There have always been people without integrity, and there have always been people with it. Things are no different today in that respect. There ARE still quality women out there, I SWEAR to it, I have MET some of them.
You just have to smash through the forest till you find what you are looking for.
Sometimes you have to plow through the DARKNESS until you get to the LIGHT.
Personally, I have done ALL KINDS of things that others might consider extreme, but I consider it simply knowing what I want and it wasn’t even a big deal to me.
I would approach tons of women with a playful but dominant tonality asking them if they did drugs or a lot of drinking or if they smoked, and if they answered yes to any of them, I just moved right on, and the reality is in places like clubs I often would actually end up speaking to about 15 women before finding one who made it through to my standards.
I placed ads in tons of internet dating sites. I tried all kinds of different approaches, styles. I approached women on trains, buses, the street, anywhere.
For weeks at a time, and you know what? I ended up meeting women who matched my criteria and were pretty hot too.
All because I didn’t sit there moping around and talking about how all women are b******.
You have to be willing to put in the EFFORT. When I meet guys who say “It’s not worth the effort” I say “You’re right, since you believe that, it’s not worth the effort.” I can’t make someone decide if something is worth the effort or not.
It all depends on how much you VALUE something, and to me, being with a woman I find attractive and who I also RESPECT IS ABSOLUTELY worth it. It’s not the ONLY thing in life, but it’s ABSOLUTELY worth it.
The relationships might not have lasted forever, but they were mostly good and I certainly don’t regret them.
They helped me make more distinctions so that I know in the future how to make even BETTER screening processes.
If you are on this newsletter list, there’s a decent chance that are you the type of person who thinks with more INTEGRITY, more INTELLIGENCE, and who has more PASSION for life, than most people. Otherwise, you’d find the content of my materials to be incongruent with your values and you’d leave!
So be PROUD of this fact that you are from the BEST of society, the kind of person who LEADS the way, the kind of person who doesn’t just settle for a woman because she is good looking or because she is willing to be with him, but rather a woman who has all the right values as well.
In order to MEET the right kind of women, you have to be FOCUSED on the goal of meeting quality women and you must learn to ENJOY the PROCESS.
Being focused means SMASHING through the DISTRACTIONS. You will find that your high standards will suddenly make you a lot less needy as well, and suddenly MORE women will seem to popping up with interest in you, but they probably won’t match your integrity standards- and you will hear the voices of doubt in you saying “maybe I should go for her, I know my FRIENDS would think I’m CRAZY not to go for her, as she’s hot, and they wouldn’t CARE about the fact she’s got messed up values.”
If you give in to that temptation, you are actually giving in to neediness, and the irony is that you will find that not only do you NOT get what you REALLY wanted in terms of a quality woman, but you will probably even lose that less than stellar woman, as SHE was only attracted to you because of your IDENTITY, INCLUDING the values you had, and now that you sacrificed that, you in fact lost that part of your identity, and so she will drift from you. So you end up with nothing anyway.
And you have to treat this process as something IMPORTANT. You have to be willing to give it TIME and CONSISTENCY.
You should experiment with all types of venues to see what kind of women you are finding. You may even want to try the internet dating as well, which is something I don’t usually emphasize because I find that most guys use the internet INSTEAD of actually developing themselves in the real world with women.
But once you HAVE developed yourself through real-life approaches, then you will understand how it all translates to internet dating as well. The only benefit of the internet for dating is that it allows you to clearly explain what it is you’re looking for so that the women who DO respond are not completely wasting your time.
But if you don’t know how to come across, then your ad will say all the WRONG things about you without you realizing it. And that’s just one place where my materials, programs, and live coaching comes in.
I also want to speak a bit about something else, which is the issue of being “wealthy” and does it matter for attracting the kind of women you want.
The truth about wealth is that I have known MANY guys who were wealthy but still were not getting the kind of success they wanted with women. It’s not ENOUGH to be wealthy.
Now, if you are the kind of man that HAS the charisma and personality that unleashes attraction, then ABSOLUTELY if you ALSO have wealth, then YES FOR SURE it will help you get results with women.
But again, it’s NOT enough to just be wealthy, as if you just have that, the only women you will get are the women who are using you.
Let’s take Donald Trump for example. This is a guy that obviously is wealthy, but he is also a charismatic guy, and it’s NOT A COINCIDENCE that this charisma and internal confidence helped him get through some very massive financial challenges in his life during a time when many wealthy people had their businesses and assets practically wiped out.
Also, when it comes to things like FAME or being a STAR, again there is the chicken and the egg thing, because there is no denying that Tom Cruise is a very charismatic person, regardless of any recent publicity about him. A lot of people might not know this, but he’s also not the tallest guy in the world, which apparently was not an issue for any of the beauties in his life, some of whom were far taller than him.
And Brad Pitt? Here’s a guy that was ALWAYS classy, never acted like a big shot about himself, (never qualifying himself) never a big fan of the “scene” and the Hollywood parties which so many seem to be needy for the publicity, etc.
He had the quiet confidence that says real value. So yes, he’s a good looking guy, but looks are NOT ENOUGH for the ultimate in success with women and in life.
And here’s the kicker regarding the relationship between being successful with women and being wealthy: By not being NEEDY for EITHER, and instead focusing on your PASSION and your real identity, you evolve to a level where you are able to become resourceful enough to OFFER VALUE to OTHERS, value that is AN EXTENSION of your personality.
Donald Trump truly LOVES doing business. It IS his personality.
Tom Cruise loves acting in movies that he feels tells great stories.
By ENRICHING THEMSELVES, they are able to not only offer value, but also the JOY of doing this for yourself makes you realize that NOTHING is more rewarding that BEING YOURSELF and developing yourself, so you become even LESS needy, you become even MORE confident, you become MORE GIVING in an authentic way, your compliment to a woman for example is TRULY not needing reciprocation, and the irony is THAT actually makes her MORE ATTRACTED to you. It’s more attractive because it actually shows MORE value on your part.
And if you would like to learn how to UNLEASH all this internal power, and how to also BEST come across to women so that they in fact GET the TRUE picture of yourself, I seriously recommend you SOAK IN EVERY WORD of my CD Program.
This program is massively comprehensive, and will show you how to get in touch with that INDESTRUCTIVE power within, and will even give you step by step instructions for what to do when you meet a woman ANYWHERE, and how to create attraction instantly.
It will show you how to develop the most powerful rapport skills built on GENUINE interest. It will show you how to come across immediately as a man with value, in a way that is HONEST.
You’ll even learn important insights for how to screen women to know if they have the right values and if they have real potential to work long-term with you.
Of course, you’ll also learn the best way to smoothly escalate things toward the physical withOUT doing it in a creepy way, and how to come across with the right balance of playfulness, dominance, and sexuality, from the moment you meet her till the moment you are under the covers with her, and beyond.
You’ll learn how to use your voice, your body, and how to tap into your own emotions and hers to make her ADDICTED to you. And you’ll learn how to do all this in a way that feels very natural as well.
And much, MUCH more.
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