***QUESTION FROM A READER***
Mike,
Thanks for your informative news letters. They are bar none, one of the BEST out there. Period. I have learned a LOT of stuff from just your newsletter ALONE.
Less than a handful of truly enlightened and qualified men are able to give real, useful, and practical advice like you do. I always recommend your products to anyone I know.
My question for you is:
What do you say to guys who are convinced that learning the skills of attraction and seduction, are ‘dumb’, and the only advice you need is to ‘just to do it” and “don’t think about it.”
How can you get through to these block headed morons?
Thanks.
Perry G.
***MY REPLY***
First of all thanks for the props on the content, it’s important to me to always offer the BEST. No marketing gimmicks, no manipulation or preying on people’s fears. Just the BEST INSIGHTS and dating wisdom around, period.
Ok, so let’s address the claim from some guys to “just do it” and “don’t think about it”.
In my absolute dedication to complete truth, I will first explain where this whole view comes from. On one hand, ACTION is usually better than NO action, so doing something is usually better than NOTHING. A lot of guys will just stand there and LOOK at a woman but not actually do anything.
However, sometimes, action without wisdom IS worse than doing nothing!
And that’s because you can REINFORCE negative emotions and a negative self-concept that RUINS your confidence, if you don’t know what you are doing while trying to meet a woman, pick-up a woman, or date a woman.
Not only that, but if you are doing the WRONG things, you can end up attracting the WRONG kind of woman, who will make you regret the day you were BORN.
If a guy is not VERY INFORMED, he is opening himself up to abuse and to attracting the WRONG WOMAN, which is FAR WORSE than having no woman at all, because he will be ignorant to her games and will be emotionally manipulated until his self-esteem is left into a bloody pulp.
Also, if a guy decides to be ignorant and “just do it” and if he never puts any thought into the deeper levels of this stuff, including his own inner beliefs about the world, about women, about relationships, etc, then he will FOR SURE NOT END UP WITH THE KIND OF SITUATION HE WANTS.
There’s an old saying that says, “If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll probably end up somewhere else.” And it’s completely true.
I’d like to give an example of what I’m talking about, something that is CRUCIAL to know, yet most people don’t even know EXISTS. In other words, something that people who take the “don’t think about it” approach would totally never ever figure out.
One of the most important parts of “picking up a woman” begins WAY BEFORE you even step out of the house.
What I’m talking about is DETERMINING and CREATING your own VALUE-SYSTEM. You will attract that which you ARE. And you ARE what you THINK and DO.
You will REAP WHAT YOU SOW, and what you SOW includes the seeds you have sewn in your OWN MIND before you even BEGIN to say a word to any woman.
So, for example, if you believe that the ONLY way a woman can treat you well is if you PLAY GAMES with her, then you are SETTING UP a very fragile environment for yourself and for her. It is fragile because there can be no high level of TRUST in such a situation.
From the very get go, your interaction from the first time you meet her will be laced with confusion, because on one hand you will feel attraction, on the other hand you will always feel you need to guard yourself because of your fear that she will not treat you well unless you play games with her, such as always making it clear she is not all that important to you and that you are not that interested, etc.
Now, let’s say this woman IS a game player, then you have now only REINFORCED her belief that games are necessary, so now you are REINFORCING a reality in your own life where you will have to play games as well.
And, even if she is the kind of woman who HATES playing games, you are now making her feel that since you clearly are not someone she can totally trust unless she plays games as well, so that will MAKE HER BECOME MORE OF A “GAME PLAYER” herself.
Also, if you TRULY BELIEVE games are necessary, then all women will be put into the same category in your mind, including the women who really are showing you that they are NOT the same as other women, who are NOT “game players”, etc. You will be unable to see the truth, you will think “she is just a good faker” etc etc.
On the other hand, if you believe that a woman being a good person does NOT require you to manipulate her, then you will be able to SCREEN OUT the compatible women from the ones who are not, because you will KNOW that compatible ones EXIST. And not only that, but because YOU will be behaving in a way that is NOT requiring games of yourself, THIS IN ITSELF may have a VERY STRONG IMPACT even on the women who USED TO THINK that games WERE necessary. Because you will be that rare and hence make a powerful impact.
There is soooo much more on this topic, but in these newsletters I can barely scratch the surface. Still though, I think you can see that your beliefs are CRUCIAL and not only that, but also that you can CHANGE your beliefs if you just realize that a lot of the beliefs you have now may have been the result of INCORRECT INFO that you were given by others.
Now, some guys might take all this to mean that if dating is not about playing games, then there is nothing to learn, right?
NOPE, because in fact, in a world where men and women are BRAINWASHED to NOT be themselves, you have to learn how to GET THROUGH ALL THEIR FAKE SUPERFICIAL behaviours, and how to GET THROUGH THEIR FEARS, and reach the REAL PERSON BEHIND the mask.
Plus, you need to learn how to bring out your SELF from all those masks that YOU have been conditioned to wear as well.
It’s important to realize that all this stuff is mostly NOT CONSCIOUS, for men, and for women.
So it’s really important that YOU learn it ALL, so that SOMEONE in the interaction is more aware of the full picture and can thus lead the interaction in the right direction. So for example, if a woman does something, you will UNDERSTAND what she REALLY MEANT.
You will know the difference between a comment she said or an action that she did that was made out of fear, and a comment she said that was made out of nastyness. You will be able to thus screen out the wrong women and keep the right women IN your world so that you can learn more about them and if they are for you or not.
Also, LEARNING about how attraction works on the highest levels will enable you to BEST convey who YOU are to a woman, and will also teach you how to develop the kind of connection with a woman that is normally the kind of thing so powerful that most people think it’s only the stuff of FANTASY when in reality it can be ACHIEVED IN REAL LIFE.
Sometimes, it’s a matter of a SUBTLE distinction that makes all the difference in the world, such as knowing how to make a tease in a way that is LOVING and not MALICIOUS. This is a huge topic by the way, because it’s amazing how many guys still think that teasing is about being mean but coating it with sugar, as if women were so stupid and couldn’t tell the difference.
Sometimes, it’s not something subtle at all, it’s MAJOR, such as knowing which issues are a matter of taste and you should thus be flexible on, and knowing which matters are truly matters of principle, and you must stand and not budge no matter how tough it is for you to do so. And you will find that very often, a woman actually shares those values but it’s not easy in our society to stand up for those values as they are so rare, and so she will only end up cherishing you more and you will both be bonded on a higher level.
And if a woman does not share those values, then at least you will save yourself years of wasted time trying to make something work that was doomed from the beginning.
This is a HUUUUUUUGE topic, and only those who take the road of KNOWLEDGE will benefit.
So DEFINITELY, taking the “not thinking” strategy for one’s dating life is as foolish as getting onto the SPACE SHUTTLE and not knowing anything about how to fly it, but figuring that pressing any buttons buttons or flipping switches is better than doing nothing.
Such a philosophy of “no thinking” clearly is absurd, and we can see just how horrifying the results of this are by taking a glimpse at the society around us, and at the celebrities that most people worship. And I’m not just talking about things like divorce.
Knowledge is power. Wisdom is power.
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Till next time,
Michael
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