One of the biggest problems with this field are that innocent guys are taken in by ILLUSIONS.
Such as the whole idea of the power of putting girls down. The reality is that yes, this abuse will sometimes work short term because the distress created in the girl makes the girl long for some immediate comfort. However, when the girl senses that the abuse is happening, and if she is high self esteem, she will, she will retaliate in a way that will make most guys melt to shreds.
Which is why it becomes important to ACTUALLY have emotional value rather than just trying to create it through putting HER down.
Of course, this only becomes important if you, like me, care about actually creating REAL attraction long term as well.
One of the reasons I don’t go on and on about how to get one night stands, makeouts in clubs, fingering a girl in a club, and all kinds of other related stuff is because it’s like talking to Wayne Gretzky about how you figured out how to tie on your SKATES.
Really, it’s just RIDICULOUSLY easy to the point that it should be EMBARRASING if that is what you consider “getting somewhere”.
It’s embarrasing if you are still caught up in thinking THAT is cool. If that makes you feel like you are a “somebody”.
Why is it so easy? Because on any given night, at any club, the VAST MAJORITY of girls are tipsy or BALLS OUT DRUNK, (so their horniness goes more UNRESTRICTED- i.e. the anti slut defense is MUTED) is and some girls are easier than others, regardless of how they look, even if they are “hot”.
In fact, I would venture to say that any guy who cleans himself up, and just gets COMFORTABLE with girls, not really SKILLED but just comfortable, who goes up to a few girls at a club, keeps the convo light and fun and keeps it going, and gets her seated in a corner, can achieve this with at least one out of several girls.
ANY GUY. With just getting COMFORTABLE. Not even having any REAL skill.
It’s TOTAL BEGINNER stuff.
But how many guys even GO OUT???? They stay at home eating pizza or drinking beer with friends. Or if they go out, they don’t do much.
So they are in pre-beginner level.
So they don’t KNOW this stuff. It’s like a magician who impresses everybody until they find out the trick.
I would also go so far as to say that SPENDING TOO MUCH TIME in these environments will DETERIORATE your energy and time, and thus cause your REAL game to go DOWN.
The REAL game that revolves around your LIFESTYLE and way of thinking. Which is the most important part of your IDENTITY.
The reason for this is because if you really don’t like smoke and clubs and drinking too much, then you will be DILUTING YOURSELF, MAKING YOURSELF INCONGRUENT by not pursuing your REAL identity and actually SACRIFICING it.
Not mention all the TIME you would be wasting that could be better spent developing your REAL identity and your REAL uniquely strong assets in emotional stimulation.
Do you think that any of the greatest men alive today, at least in the department of men who can TRULY have their pick of any woman, do you think they spent all their time in CLUBS? Or doing PICK UP?
That is why I have been emphasizing since DAY ONE that this is about more than just your direct interaction with women. That is just one very important part of it, but it’s not close to being the whole thing.
Clubs are one useful TRAINING ground simply because there are so many women there. Also, for so many guys, we have been trained to be TOO serious, so we need to learn to FEEL the good fun energy of a club and let go of the logical serious side of ourselves. However, once you “get” that, you don’t need to spend your life in there, as I see so many guys doing like robots, spending 12 hours a week in clubs, getting no rest and burning themselves out so they have no energy for their LIFE.
Also, it’s not just clubs that I’m getting at. What I’m getting at is how to get a certain CALIBRE of girl, so even BEYOND clubs, and ANYWHERE, if you want to appeal to the highest tier type of girl with her INNER act together as well as her OUTER self, the routines and games are not going to work, the artificial routines are just a TOOL to get the skills STARTED and get you off to some momentum.
This is one of the reasons I don’t think that pickup in itself is EVERYTHING unless all you care about is one night stands or short-lived relationships.
Pick-up in itself cannot help you with KEEPING the girl.
Pickup is not the HIGHEST litmus test of attraction.
Simple proof: Take all the games and tricks and tactics of pick up artists, and then have some CHEESY B LEVEL movie or tv or music STAR compete with him.
Even a star with ZERO “game”.
In most cases, the B level dude will STILL SMOKE the hell out of the pick up artist.
Both short term AND long term!
Because the B level dude still stands out MORE, and wields more power, and far more social proof. And he’s not even trying, so he’s totally congruent forever, he’s not ever trying to keep up some image, it’s who he is. There are no lines, no tactics.
And even the star, he may not fare much better for the long term unless he UNDERSTANDS how to create EMOTION, and this must be developed as an extension of his real identity, or it will crumble to pieces because no one can fake for life.
But the pick up artist industry thrives on illusions of success based on drunk girls at clubs and also thrives on fears that guys have of their girlfriend cheating on them or some future girlfriend that they MIGHT HAVE, cheating on them.
But let’s be REAL- does Brad Pitt stay up at night worrying if some guy learning pick up is going to steal Angelina from him? Is that what’s keeping him up at night?
It’s BULL.
So what the heck am **I** doing here?
Simple: I’m here to let you know that PICK-UP is just the BEGINNING of your skills. And it’s important to realize that now before you spend endless hours focused only on pickup, and especially on drunken girls.
And in fact, there are guys who are not so great with the INITIAL pick up, but who can smoke out the other guys once they get past that stage.
So for them, learning to improve their initial few minutes for the pickup is very useful, but it’s not something to focus MONTHS of their life on. That’s ludicrous.
By the way, in case you’re wondering how those guys can SMOKE the “pick up artists”, it’s easy to explain what is going on:
They have MORE EMOTIONAL VALUE to the woman, but it takes them a while to warm up to start showing it all.
Some pick up artists are good at the beginning of the game, but then the chick finds out there is nothing TO the guy and she drops him. Or she is only using him for sex like she was doing to several other guys at the same time. It sounds funny, but in reality it’s not a big deal to get sex from women who are hot. It’s if you want all the OTHER stuff that things get more complicated.
You know, things like her being emotionally stable, drug-free, not a heavy drinker, upbeat, having long term potential, and having balance in her own life, being intelligent and creative, and being a giving, warm person as well.
Hence, the importance of DATING. To FIND OUT more about the chick before you decide you even WANT to get to that whole naked stage.
And to take things to a deeper level psychologically as well. For YOUR benefit, not just for hers.
Who would have thunk???????
Once you have STANDARDS, this stuff makes a heck of a lot of sense.
If you have nothing better to do, then definitely, throw your standards to the wind, and desperately pursue every girl possible.
If that’s what you want, then definitely, hang out as many places as you can where lower caliber women are getting alcohol saturated into their bloodstreams and into their brains. Flap the time away.
Of course, you don’t hear much about high caliber women in the pick up drunk girls club circles. Don’t even MENTION it or you will be SHUNNED.
You kind of ruin the VIBE of the entire cult like movement then.
Similarly, don’t even MENTION the term STD there. Heck they have a religion of club pick up to run, and all non-believers who are ruining the vibe must be sent to pick up purgatory till they reform and promote stds!
Stds don’t exist in that cult land of fairy tale attraction where all the girls are super high quality under the gloss of dim lights and lots of moonshine.
So what IS this thing I call REAL attraction?
Let’s start off by explaining what it is NOT:
It’s not just HORNINESS. ANY girl, if HORNY enough, and in a private location, is likely to have sex, the same way YOU would have sex with a girl you OTHERWISE would consider UGLY but at the moment you consider GREAT.
It’s not DRUNKENNESS. ANY girl is NOT completely her REAL self when drunk. Proof: When Brad Pitt walks in the room, even NON drunk girls will still be very open to him.
It’s not MOLDING your values to MODEL hers. In other words, real attraction does not require that YOU model HER lifestyle of clubs, drinks, and late nights. And REAL attraction would mean she was into you even though you were THE OPPOSITE. i.e. the same way a girl who was a total party girl would probably do everything she could to CHANGE her image in order to be the kind of chick that Brad preferred. NOT the other way around.
When I started out in this field, the BIGGEST thing that made me different from everyone else was that I was NOT an “entertainer” for girls. Rather, I decided to develop MY IDENTITY, for REAL, not to just make a ROUTINE out of it.
And THIS is what I teach guys to do. Also, what I teach is how to create COMPELLING EMOTIONS in a woman that go far beyond just being “hard to get” which is the sum total strategy of most of the other stuff out there.
EVERY emotion can be ATTRACTIVE if it is created in the right way. Humor can be attractive or it can be repulsive. Being too self-deprecating can be repulsive. Being playful but confident is sexy and a sign of VALUE.
Intrigue can be depressing or it can be compelling. And so on and so forth. There is a METHOD to the madness. All the emotions you create in her have to not only link to YOUR superiority, but have to ALSO link to MAKING HER FEEL ELEVATED as well as a result of BEING chosen by you.
When you understand how to create OVERWHELMING emotions in a woman, you will never again have to worry about another argument, you will never have to worry about convincing a woman of ANYTHING. She will do what you want all out of her OWN accord, her own EMOTION.
You have to understand that when a girl sees a ROCK star and falls like crazy or screams out for him, there is an EMOTIONAL reason for this. It’s FAR FAR stronger than any “pick up” tactic. It’s ATTRACTION because he has already PUSHED so many buttons from the emotions unleashed by his MUSIC, (as well as the SOCIAL proof he gets from having endless fans, including female fans that want him, so she wants him more).
Similarly, a head of state will wield emotional power of a different sort, the kind that resonates the feeling of “I HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN”.
So what is REALLY important to learn is NOT how to take advantage of drunk or tipsy party girls, which means very little in terms of ATTRACTION, but rather what is important is to learn how to CREATE POWERFUL EMOTIONS IN WOMEN.
As soon as you are creating emotions, you **ARE** important, to her, because the human brain REGISTERS emotion as PROOF that something indeed is IMPORTANT.
In fact, it ONLY registers emotion as important. Nothing else. Which is why you ignored breakfast and maybe lunch but WOLFED down supper because the emotion of hunger got you off your butt to TAKE action.
And what is the REALLY great news, is that you can develop these powers of emotion by learning to fully develop the ATTRACTIVE parts of your OWN identity, AND then also learning how to EMOTIONALLY convey all that to a woman.
This creates the MOST POWERFUL emotions in a woman, because she can tell that it’s NOT an act with you.
Contrived acts, or acts that seem FAKE, never stir much emotion. Picture some LONG LASTING rock group that has always written their own material vs. some pre-packaged group whose entire identity has been contrived.
So once you develop this identity fully, and you learn the skills for conveying this emotionally, you are PERFECTLY congruent, FOREVER.
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